Anonymous
12/30/2019 20:18
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get toys with lots of parts - they're always crap.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.
That’s so easy! Let him play with the parts he didn’t manage to break or lose. It’s perfect.
He’s 6, not 16 FFS. He has no concept of value. It’s OP’s job to teach him that.
But he does have the concept of breaking something and then it not working. Even my 4 year old does.
Children break things because it’s FUN! They want to see what’s going on inside and they enjoy the sound of things breaking. Do you know nothing about children? I shudder to think what your childhoods were like.
No, your six year old should be able to go to school without breaking all the toys there or to a friends house without breaking all their toys or to a store without breaking toys. Same with their own toys. A six year old who breaks all their toys either has no respect for property or has an aggression / anger issue
Yup.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 20:10
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get toys with lots of parts - they're always crap.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.
That’s so easy! Let him play with the parts he didn’t manage to break or lose. It’s perfect.
He’s 6, not 16 FFS. He has no concept of value. It’s OP’s job to teach him that.
But he does have the concept of breaking something and then it not working. Even my 4 year old does.
Children break things because it’s FUN! They want to see what’s going on inside and they enjoy the sound of things breaking. Do you know nothing about children? I shudder to think what your childhoods were like.
I dunno. I'm an engineer and I didn't break things. I took them part carefully (even at 5) and put back together with dads help. But I had very very few toys and no plastic toys besides legos and nothing with batteries (not from this country). If I broke things on purpose to "hear it breaking" I got spanked and no one fixed the toy so I didn't have it anymore.
That was sh@tty parenting.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 18:20
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Do you let him jump on the sofa?
Anonymous
12/30/2019 18:19
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get toys with lots of parts - they're always crap.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.
That’s so easy! Let him play with the parts he didn’t manage to break or lose. It’s perfect.
He’s 6, not 16 FFS. He has no concept of value. It’s OP’s job to teach him that.
But he does have the concept of breaking something and then it not working. Even my 4 year old does.
Children break things because it’s FUN! They want to see what’s going on inside and they enjoy the sound of things breaking. Do you know nothing about children? I shudder to think what your childhoods were like.
I dunno. I'm an engineer and I didn't break things. I took them part carefully (even at 5) and put back together with dads help. But I had very very few toys and no plastic toys besides legos and nothing with batteries (not from this country). If I broke things on purpose to "hear it breaking" I got spanked and no one fixed the toy so I didn't have it anymore.
+1 Not an engineer, but a former preschool/early elementary teacher and current mom of preschooler. My inquisitive kid likes to take things apart & put them together, and even at 2, knew to ask for help if he wanted to take the bed off his dump truck, for example. It’s not typical for a 6 yo to smash toys.
Losing parts is another story, and you need to be more hands on with clean up and organization. Eg., my kid got a huge set of LEGO + also a storage container for them.
Can’t help with the crap that breaks because it’s cheap plastic crap.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 18:06
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get toys with lots of parts - they're always crap.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.
That’s so easy! Let him play with the parts he didn’t manage to break or lose. It’s perfect.
He’s 6, not 16 FFS. He has no concept of value. It’s OP’s job to teach him that.
But he does have the concept of breaking something and then it not working. Even my 4 year old does.
Children break things because it’s FUN! They want to see what’s going on inside and they enjoy the sound of things breaking. Do you know nothing about children? I shudder to think what your childhoods were like.
No, your six year old should be able to go to school without breaking all the toys there or to a friends house without breaking all their toys or to a store without breaking toys. Same with their own toys. A six year old who breaks all their toys either has no respect for property or has an aggression / anger issue
Anonymous
12/30/2019 17:56
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get toys with lots of parts - they're always crap.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.
That’s so easy! Let him play with the parts he didn’t manage to break or lose. It’s perfect.
He’s 6, not 16 FFS. He has no concept of value. It’s OP’s job to teach him that.
But he does have the concept of breaking something and then it not working. Even my 4 year old does.
Children break things because it’s FUN! They want to see what’s going on inside and they enjoy the sound of things breaking. Do you know nothing about children? I shudder to think what your childhoods were like.
Actually normal six-year-olds don’t break things for fun. Two year olds maybe.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 17:54
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get toys with lots of parts - they're always crap.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.
That’s so easy! Let him play with the parts he didn’t manage to break or lose. It’s perfect.
He’s 6, not 16 FFS. He has no concept of value. It’s OP’s job to teach him that.
But he does have the concept of breaking something and then it not working. Even my 4 year old does.
Children break things because it’s FUN! They want to see what’s going on inside and they enjoy the sound of things breaking. Do you know nothing about children? I shudder to think what your childhoods were like.
I dunno. I'm an engineer and I didn't break things. I took them part carefully (even at 5) and put back together with dads help. But I had very very few toys and no plastic toys besides legos and nothing with batteries (not from this country). If I broke things on purpose to "hear it breaking" I got spanked and no one fixed the toy so I didn't have it anymore.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 17:51
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
I would take away any of teriyaki that he broke or lost parts for and put them up on a shelf. Tell him those ones are broken or have lost parts. If he broke it, it is garbage. If he lost the part and can find it, he can have that you back.
He doesn't seem to have any respect for his own property and that is a problem at six. He needs to realize that if he doesn't take care of the things he owns, then they are gone.
He doesn't seem to have any respect for his own property and that is a problem at six. He needs to realize that if he doesn't take care of the things he owns, then they are gone.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 17:39
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
My strategies:
1) I purposefully put most of DS’s toys away in the basement temporarily before Christmas because I wanted to minimize the potential for chaos and make it easier to keep up with new toys.
2) I bought fewer, more sturdy toys and whisked the crappy million-piece sets from aunts & uncles away for later.
1) I purposefully put most of DS’s toys away in the basement temporarily before Christmas because I wanted to minimize the potential for chaos and make it easier to keep up with new toys.
2) I bought fewer, more sturdy toys and whisked the crappy million-piece sets from aunts & uncles away for later.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 17:35
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get toys with lots of parts - they're always crap.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.
That’s so easy! Let him play with the parts he didn’t manage to break or lose. It’s perfect.
He’s 6, not 16 FFS. He has no concept of value. It’s OP’s job to teach him that.
But he does have the concept of breaking something and then it not working. Even my 4 year old does.
Children break things because it’s FUN! They want to see what’s going on inside and they enjoy the sound of things breaking. Do you know nothing about children? I shudder to think what your childhoods were like.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 17:32
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get toys with lots of parts - they're always crap.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.
That’s so easy! Let him play with the parts he didn’t manage to break or lose. It’s perfect.
He’s 6, not 16 FFS. He has no concept of value. It’s OP’s job to teach him that.
But he does have the concept of breaking something and then it not working. Even my 4 year old does.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 17:30
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't get toys with lots of parts - they're always crap.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.
That’s so easy! Let him play with the parts he didn’t manage to break or lose. It’s perfect.
He’s 6, not 16 FFS. He has no concept of value. It’s OP’s job to teach him that.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 17:29
Subject: Re:My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
My kids are 2 and 5. We know they’ll break or lose toys, so we bought second-hand toys for Christmas. They cost $20. They’re good quality (Tonka), and we don’t have to worry about how they use them. You know what your child’s like, so why are you surprised? Your expectations are too high.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 17:25
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Anonymous wrote:Don't get toys with lots of parts - they're always crap.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.
That’s so easy! Let him play with the parts he didn’t manage to break or lose. It’s perfect.
Anonymous
12/30/2019 17:22
Subject: My kid has already destroyed and lost parts to most of his brand new toys!
Don't get toys with lots of parts - they're always crap.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.
He needs consequences for not taking care of his things.