Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We’ve only been married for 3 years and we have a two year old. He moved out the day after Christmas. He gave me back the gift I bought him for Christmas and told me that I don’t put any thought into the gifts I get him, he’s no longer in love with me, and he refuses to go into a new year/decade being married to me. I’ve had time to process all of this, but it still hurts like hell. I honestly think there’s another woman because this came out of nowhere. I’m sure I can take care of the mortgage on my own, but I’m worried about other bills as the mortgage is most of one paycheck. Someone tell me everything will be okay!![]()
He moved out so that’s abandonment and you may be able to get primary custody
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Abandonment! It’s my understanding that it looks bad legally if someone moves out before agreements have been drawn up.
No. If he’d up and moved to the other side of the country, took all their money, and refused to have contact with their child or contribute financially, then you might be able to claim abandonment. But simply moving out locally without leaving OP destitute and while maintaining contact with their child is not going to be considered abandonment.
It doesn’t sound like he has seen the child for days.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Shouldn’t she close all their joint accounts and credit cards?
I would. I would open my own today and close the others.
You cannot unilaterally close joint accounts
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Abandonment! It’s my understanding that it looks bad legally if someone moves out before agreements have been drawn up.
No. If he’d up and moved to the other side of the country, took all their money, and refused to have contact with their child or contribute financially, then you might be able to claim abandonment. But simply moving out locally without leaving OP destitute and while maintaining contact with their child is not going to be considered abandonment.
Anonymous wrote:OP here, thanks everyone. I know in the end, it will all work out. I just feel like I’m in my own personal hell right now. There’s never a right time for this.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Shouldn’t she close all their joint accounts and credit cards?
I would. I would open my own today and close the others.
THIS. Do it now, OP. He has been planning this for awhile and who knows what he is doing to your joint finances?
This will go over great in court.
Anonymous wrote:Abandonment! It’s my understanding that it looks bad legally if someone moves out before agreements have been drawn up.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Shouldn’t she close all their joint accounts and credit cards?
I would. I would open my own today and close the others.
THIS. Do it now, OP. He has been planning this for awhile and who knows what he is doing to your joint finances?