I am friends with my XH, and my DH is too. We never had kids together (thankfully) but we both have kids with our spouses and meet up occasionally. We both attended each other's subsequent weddings. Lol, I have a photo on my desk at work of me and my DH at our wedding with my ex and his then girlfriend (now wife). I am also still friends with the girl who my ex sort of cheated on me with, but that's a whole other story...

I'm newly divorced and no we are not friends, but are polite because of our children. If we didn't have children together I'd be fine with never seeing him or speaking with him again.

My mom is always trying to convince everyone that she is friends with my dad, and trying to finagle ways to spend time with him via their adult children and grandkids. It's pathetic and annoying. Just be divorced and let it rest.

Anonymous wrote:I've heard of people becoming besties with their ex-spouse, but it's odd to me. My guess is that it was mutual and there was no hurt involved. Are you "friends" with your ex-spouse? And what does that even look like???

No. We're just cordial because we have to be.

Yes. One of my best friends. He lives in another state so I don’t see him, but we talk about 5 -6 times a year. No kids together. Best friends who never should have married.

Anonymous wrote:We do our best to cooperate and be friendly in front of our children but we are not friends. It works very well for both of us.

I would think this is how it operates for most divorced couples with children. Once the kids are gone, then they probably never even. By the way, good job on being cordial in front of the children.