He lied about being married at first, but the sex was so hot and so good I stayed for awhile. Cars, my apartment, leaving dinner early to go home (yes we were out in public a lot)... I knew I could leave it whenever I wanted and I have no self esteem issues. It was just so hot.

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Anonymous wrote:It feels good to be desired. Someone is so into you that they are willing to risk it all. Excitement, lust, being chosen sexually over someone else.

All the good parts without any of the baggage.

Like love and commitment? Wow.

Can't you get this with someone who isn't a dirty cheater? Someone who also cares about you?

I did.

No. Monogamous relationships are boring, predictable, safe, tiresome. The desire leaves and you are left lying next to a snoring, farting man child.

You can keep that. I get the good part.

Uh, you're still next to a snoring, farting man child. (If that's how you really want to describe half the humans on Earth.) He just kicks you out in the morning and goes home to his wife and kids.

Plus, I don't know how old you are, or what your childhood looked like (I'm guessing bad), but the desire doesn't leave. It changes, for people who love each other. It's not a bad thing for all of us.

The thing is YOU value that, the person you are responding to doesn't. She doesn't want the responsibility of being a wife or mom so what does she care that he leaves her to go home to his? She gets good but stolen moments, not the day in and day out drudgery. I can see how it might be appealing to someone who doesn't want to do the hard work of a relationship.

Not everyone is uptight and locked into a strict code of ethics that prohibits fun.

I know someone who is constantly a side piece. She is a professional therapist. She is also a mess.

For me, it’s a good time to reflect. Not slippy. Reflection. Affairs are tricky. I wanted more and absolutely knew it was impossible.

Feelings occurred. I was in love with two men. The one in front of me, and the one I idolized. The latter, a mere figment.

I feel like these posts really peak around the holidays.are people just slippy about their affairs around Christmas?

For me, pure risk. I got high on knowing it was so incredibly wrong and getting away with it. I have low impulse control issues sometimes. When I want something, I go for it. Because it’s fun and pleasurable. Too many rules in life become stifling.

It’s an escape to the mundane of life as we all stare towards death.

It’s meaningless pleasure sex. Some of my greatest memories. Selfish acts of putting me first.

I’m not a horrible person. You’d never guess my depravity to convention.

I've said this on dcum before. It was loneliness, low self esteem, and an abusive marriage.

He was very attractive, good in bed, and very kind to me.

He left his wife and we have been together for nearly a decade. It's not perfect but we are pretty happy. After all these years together I am still excited to see him when he comes home from work. He's my best friend. Ftr I'm not proud of how we met. His family has accepted me and seem to like me. We have all vacationed together and his mom has went out of her way to spend one on one time with me. My family loves him. His ex wife is still very bitter and angry after all these years for that I feel bad about.

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of the oldest fights on DCUM - threatened wives who cannot bear the thought of betrayal. Etc. There are no guarantees in life, even in marriage. All the projecting and accusations just reveal immaturity, not superior moral propriety.

It’s weird you assume it’s wives. Maybe somebody wants to know why their best friend or sister is self destructing.

It’s easier to believe it’s wives that think this, it plays into the self esteem boost. It’s the whole somebody wants something you are getting, strokes the OWs broken ego.

You just proved the posters point.

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the oldest fights on DCUM - threatened wives who cannot bear the thought of betrayal. Etc. There are no guarantees in life, even in marriage. All the projecting and accusations just reveal immaturity, not superior moral propriety.

It’s weird you assume it’s wives. Maybe somebody wants to know why their best friend or sister is self destructing.

It’s easier to believe it’s wives that think this, it plays into the self esteem boost. It’s the whole somebody wants something you are getting, strokes the OWs broken ego.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a side piece. Part self esteem issues. Part anger issues (AP is my side piece). Part sexual attraction. Part gullible. Part wishful thinking. Part pure selfishness.

Thanks for reminding us that humans are complex beings and not everything is black or white.

Sure they are complex but fix the self esteem and the rest is a moot point.

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Anonymous wrote:Because the D is so good.

This. Plus some women are also in a marriage where they can't get the sex they need.

There is also something super hot about being devoured by a sex starved hot married man.

Not saying any of it's is right but you asked why.

Thar all sounds like self esteem or trauma too.

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Anonymous wrote:It feels good to be desired. Someone is so into you that they are willing to risk it all. Excitement, lust, being chosen sexually over someone else.

All the good parts without any of the baggage.

Like love and commitment? Wow.

Can't you get this with someone who isn't a dirty cheater? Someone who also cares about you?

I did.

No. Monogamous relationships are boring, predictable, safe, tiresome. The desire leaves and you are left lying next to a snoring, farting man child.

You can keep that. I get the good part.

Uh, you're still next to a snoring, farting man child. (If that's how you really want to describe half the humans on Earth.) He just kicks you out in the morning and goes home to his wife and kids.

Plus, I don't know how old you are, or what your childhood looked like (I'm guessing bad), but the desire doesn't leave. It changes, for people who love each other. It's not a bad thing for all of us.

No, not at all. I don’t sleep in his bed. He doesn’t stay over. I like the fact that he goes home, I don’t want to be his wife or have his children. I like married men. It works for me.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a side piece. Part self esteem issues. Part anger issues (AP is my side piece). Part sexual attraction. Part gullible. Part wishful thinking. Part pure selfishness.

This. Same for guys.

This is one of the oldest fights on DCUM - threatened wives who cannot bear the thought of betrayal. Etc. There are no guarantees in life, even in marriage. All the projecting and accusations just reveal immaturity, not superior moral propriety.