Anonymous wrote:Great job, OP! I can't tell you how many times I've seen parents in denial, including my own parents when we young about my little brother's weight issues. He now has diabetes in his 30's. I know it's hard because some kids put on weight more easily than others, but kudos to you for recognizing what your DD needs.

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Anonymous wrote:Our DD was always big. Born over 8 lbs, never left a drop of milk in a bottle, and ate well as soon as she started solids. I always fed her healthy things (focused on whole, minimally processed foods, vegetables, etc) but her tendency to take big portion sizes and clean her plate added up to an obesity diagnosis in early elementary. Once she was diagnosed, her MD have fairly simple, evidence-based guidelines:

1) 90 minutes of active play per day
2) 5-7 servings of fruits and vegetables per day

We followed the guidelines and it worked.

Getting much more activity required signing her up for two sports. It took quite a while to finally find a fit—since she wasn’t in great shape, she really disliked the first few things she tried. But then she found an activity that clicked for her. Once she had that, it was easier for her to take on a second.

Luckily DD likes a lot of kinds of vegetables, but it was still a huge lift to work in sooo much more produce. We lean some on frozen things, some canned things, some “hidden” vegetable things. Every meal starts with a recognizable fruit or vegetable (fruit at breakfast, vegetable at lunch or dinner). Then we don’t particularly limit what she takes at meals. The whole point is that the vegetable reduces her appetite to overeat. All snacks are fruit or veg (but are often things like pouches). When she is doing legos or homework I set out something like broiled asparagus or peeled clementines for her to pick at.

I had to check a lot of my “diet baggage” at the door. I had internalized that grapes, bananas, apples, etc didn’t really “count” as healthy, but being able to lean on easier sells like a bananac especially when traveling, was important to maintain consistency.

There is another thread going now where some moms seem in denial about the validity of BMI. Admittedly this was hard to hear, especially for someone who had really avoided feeding her kid junk and sugar, never gave her puffs which I considered baby junk food, etc. But if I hadn’t taken a clear-eyed approach, we would not have fixed it. And now DD is very proud of her fitness and athleticism, which is a delight to watch.

My baby was chunky too. We did none of this and she also leaned out and is an athletes etc.

Your obsession with this is unhealthy and puts her at risk for an eating disorder.

Folks, OP did this on the doctor's orders. Kudos for following through and being consistent. I have lots of family members with all kinds of ailments and as much as they bitch and moan, they never do anything that the doctor tells them to do in order to improve their health.

I suspect that adding the sports and 90 minutes of activity a day is what made the real change.

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Anonymous wrote:Our DD was always big. Born over 8 lbs, never left a drop of milk in a bottle, and ate well as soon as she started solids. I always fed her healthy things (focused on whole, minimally processed foods, vegetables, etc) but her tendency to take big portion sizes and clean her plate added up to an obesity diagnosis in early elementary. Once she was diagnosed, her MD have fairly simple, evidence-based guidelines:

1) 90 minutes of active play per day
2) 5-7 servings of fruits and vegetables per day

We followed the guidelines and it worked.

Getting much more activity required signing her up for two sports. It took quite a while to finally find a fit—since she wasn’t in great shape, she really disliked the first few things she tried. But then she found an activity that clicked for her. Once she had that, it was easier for her to take on a second.

Luckily DD likes a lot of kinds of vegetables, but it was still a huge lift to work in sooo much more produce. We lean some on frozen things, some canned things, some “hidden” vegetable things. Every meal starts with a recognizable fruit or vegetable (fruit at breakfast, vegetable at lunch or dinner). Then we don’t particularly limit what she takes at meals. The whole point is that the vegetable reduces her appetite to overeat. All snacks are fruit or veg (but are often things like pouches). When she is doing legos or homework I set out something like broiled asparagus or peeled clementines for her to pick at.

I had to check a lot of my “diet baggage” at the door. I had internalized that grapes, bananas, apples, etc didn’t really “count” as healthy, but being able to lean on easier sells like a bananac especially when traveling, was important to maintain consistency.

There is another thread going now where some moms seem in denial about the validity of BMI. Admittedly this was hard to hear, especially for someone who had really avoided feeding her kid junk and sugar, never gave her puffs which I considered baby junk food, etc. But if I hadn’t taken a clear-eyed approach, we would not have fixed it. And now DD is very proud of her fitness and athleticism, which is a delight to watch.

My baby was chunky too. We did none of this and she also leaned out and is an athletes etc.

Your obsession with this is unhealthy and puts her at risk for an eating disorder.

Folks, OP did this on the doctor's orders. Kudos for following through and being consistent. I have lots of family members with all kinds of ailments and as much as they bitch and moan, they never do anything that the doctor tells them to do in order to improve their health.

Anonymous wrote:8 pounds is an average sized baby...

I didn’t realize there were people out there limiting apples, bananas and grapes as unhealthy. Wow.

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Anonymous wrote:8 pounds is an average sized baby...

I didn’t realize there were people out there limiting apples, bananas and grapes as unhealthy. Wow.

Yup. What doctor told you this? Or was it the disordered eating internet?

I'm glad you have done some work and I'm glad your DD is thriving OP. I can't imagine a world where I approach a banana the same way as I approach a snickers.

Anonymous wrote:8 pounds is an average sized baby...

I didn’t realize there were people out there limiting apples, bananas and grapes as unhealthy. Wow.

Anonymous wrote:8 pounds is an average sized baby...

I didn’t realize there were people out there limiting apples, bananas and grapes as unhealthy. Wow.

Anonymous wrote:So when a mom does nothing to chance the environment and activity level of a family when a child is overweight - then the mom sucks and it is all her fault

And when a mom does something to change the environment and activity level of her family when a child is overweight - then she has serious eating issues herself and has clearly passed them on to her kid and she sucks and it is all her fault

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Anonymous wrote:Our DD was always big. Born over 8 lbs, never left a drop of milk in a bottle, and ate well as soon as she started solids. I always fed her healthy things (focused on whole, minimally processed foods, vegetables, etc) but her tendency to take big portion sizes and clean her plate added up to an obesity diagnosis in early elementary. Once she was diagnosed, her MD have fairly simple, evidence-based guidelines:

1) 90 minutes of active play per day
2) 5-7 servings of fruits and vegetables per day

We followed the guidelines and it worked.

Getting much more activity required signing her up for two sports. It took quite a while to finally find a fit—since she wasn’t in great shape, she really disliked the first few things she tried. But then she found an activity that clicked for her. Once she had that, it was easier for her to take on a second.

Luckily DD likes a lot of kinds of vegetables, but it was still a huge lift to work in sooo much more produce. We lean some on frozen things, some canned things, some “hidden” vegetable things. Every meal starts with a recognizable fruit or vegetable (fruit at breakfast, vegetable at lunch or dinner). Then we don’t particularly limit what she takes at meals. The whole point is that the vegetable reduces her appetite to overeat. All snacks are fruit or veg (but are often things like pouches). When she is doing legos or homework I set out something like broiled asparagus or peeled clementines for her to pick at.

I had to check a lot of my “diet baggage” at the door. I had internalized that grapes, bananas, apples, etc didn’t really “count” as healthy, but being able to lean on easier sells like a bananac especially when traveling, was important to maintain consistency.

There is another thread going now where some moms seem in denial about the validity of BMI. Admittedly this was hard to hear, especially for someone who had really avoided feeding her kid junk and sugar, never gave her puffs which I considered baby junk food, etc. But if I hadn’t taken a clear-eyed approach, we would not have fixed it. And now DD is very proud of her fitness and athleticism, which is a delight to watch.

My baby was chunky too. We did none of this and she also leaned out and is an athletes etc.

Your obsession with this is unhealthy and puts her at risk for an eating disorder.

Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Avoiding giving her child processed foods like puffs doesn't mean she's obsessed or that her eating is disordered. There is so much misinformation out there about diet and nutrition. OP admitted that had bought into some of that misinformation like believing that fruits that are higher in sugar aren't healthy. She has now changed her thinking after following the advice of her doctor. Jeez, give her a break. Good job OP. It's not easy to change habits and beliefs around diet and it sounds like you've made a lot of progress with your daughter.