Ugh, I have a SIL like you. Stifling her daughter's genuine curiosity and creativity and interests because she doesn't want her to be "girly" or "like other girls."

She imposes her own will and viewpoints on a little kid who just wants to explore and have fun and yes, be like other girls in some ways.

When my daughters want to explore something I'm not sure about, I make sure that I get in there and help with their initial exploration. So that I can answer questions, and help guide by asking some questions and making some alternate points.

But geez, don't dismiss something outright just because it is not of interest to YOU. Don't impose your will and view. Let her develop into her own person, with you as a resource and a guide.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t really care what my kids like as far as movies or shows as long as they’re appropriate for kids. My daughters have been exposed to all princess movies and at now 6 and 9 years old , neither of them have ever really been obsessed with dressing as characters or anything though, they’ll watch the movie a few times but that’s it. My 6 year old used to like Moana a lot but just of watching the music videos a lot , not dressing like her or playing. I actually hate Dora though, so I’m glad they didn’t like her.

+1 to all this. My girls (4&7) have been exposed to princess movies, but neither is obsessed. We have some princess dresses that they wear (very) occasionally at home but even that is fading. They also like the music from Moana (me, too, especially "You're Welcome!") I hate (fingernails on blackboard hate) Dora's voice, so banned her, but they weren't really into her anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Frozen is great. The princesses save each other and everyone else.

No damsels in distress being rescued by a man.

Anna is rescued by a man.

No, Anna teams up with a man and they get a job done together. They work together, rely on each other, and help each other. You know, like partners do in real life?

He saves her at the dam.

I've pretty much hated Disney princesses, but the newer ones are better, from a self sufficiency perspective, at least. When DD was young, she went through a poofy, sparkly, pink princess phase, which I totally indulged. She got tired of it in a couple of years, and moved on. To scary Halloween things.
She's almost 10 now, and gets a kick out of herself when I show her the old pictures and videos. She's your basic strong willed and opinionated kid, and wears what's comfortable.

I think princess stuff is great. My kids all loved it, even the boys. I am not sure why loving pink, “girlie” things, princesses, etc. is looked upon as something bad or weak. Don’t overthink these things. Let you children enjoy life, childhood. Not everything has to be a social justice issue. My dd who loved princesses as a 3 year old thinks their stupid now, wouldn’t be caught dead wearing pink, graduated college summa cum laude, and is planning to go to medical school. Give yourself a break, mom,let your kids be kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Frozen is great. The princesses save each other and everyone else.

No damsels in distress being rescued by a man.

Anna is rescued by a man.

No, Anna teams up with a man and they get a job done together. They work together, rely on each other, and help each other. You know, like partners do in real life?

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Anonymous wrote:Frozen is great. The princesses save each other and everyone else.

No damsels in distress being rescued by a man.

Anna is rescued by a man.

https://www.buzzfeed.com/noradominick/frozen-2-kristoff-reactions

Anonymous wrote:I mean, you do you. But the Frozen princesses are kinda badass and the movies are honestly pretty good as far as kids movies go (wayyy better than Dora, for example) so refusing all of it feels a little like it's just to prove a point.

Because it’s all about how OP feels and what she wants to impose on her DD.

Anonymous wrote:I do because I want my child to love her gorgeous black hair, brown eyes, and brown skin. I let her get into the music, but I refuse to buy her a blonde elsa wig.

I don't know...there are MANY choices for non-blonde Disney princesses now. My child's favorite princesses are: Merida, Moana, Mulan, Tiana, and then Elsa. I refuse to buy her wigs too, because they are a hot mess on kid heads, but she has most of those costumes and loves all of them equally on different days. I think you can avoid Elsa obsession by going Full In on Disney and letting her watch all of the movies. We've practiced archery like Merida, gone on boat rides like Moana, and made gumbo like Tiana.

No, we embraced them. Dd even flew a couple of times in her princess dress. She lived in them. Now at 10, that phase is long gone and she barely wears dresses. Enjoy it.

Anonymous wrote:Frozen is great. The princesses save each other and everyone else.

No damsels in distress being rescued by a man.

Anna is rescued by a man.

I’m resisting in that my kid at nearly 4 has never seen a Disney film. She goes to an immersion daycare where the kids are from dual culture households and most haven’t done much Disney either. And funny enough she still wants to be a princess from fairy tales etc. which is cool and we talk about those stories etc She hasn’t asked for a princess dress yet. She loves dressing like a cat, chef, cactus, panda, polar bear, truck driver etc. I’m ok with the princess thing but as part of everything else and not exclusively. And no we don’t listen to Disney songs at home either. If she asks we will. She’s happy singing songs they teach at daycare and that i remember from my childhood and Beatles and university fight songs my dh hums incessantly.
I’m planning to show her some studio ghibli cartoons when she turns 4.

I don’t really care what my kids like as far as movies or shows as long as they’re appropriate for kids. My daughters have been exposed to all princess movies and at now 6 and 9 years old , neither of them have ever really been obsessed with dressing as characters or anything though, they’ll watch the movie a few times but that’s it. My 6 year old used to like Moana a lot but just of watching the music videos a lot , not dressing like her or playing. I actually hate Dora though, so I’m glad they didn’t like her.

Oh geez. Today’s princess moves have great messages. And the princesses also wear pretty, frilly dresses. Big deal.

My 3.5 yo is 100% totally into Frozen right now. She eats, breathes and sleeps Elsa. She knows every word to every song. She woke up this morning, looked out the window and proclaimed "Look what I did!" with complete seriousness. (My older DD was never like this, so it's nothing we inspired.)

We've chosen to let her enjoy the magic. She loves the pretend and fantasy. She loves the sparkle. She loves it all. I'm sure she'll grow out of it eventually. Until then, I love listening to her ponder where Elsa's magic comes from and how Elsa keeps Olaf from melting in the summer.