Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn’t having the time to be lazy and sleep in the whole idea of a break?

Because undergrad is soooo hard (especially if parents pay for everything) it’s basically a 4 year spring break with classes mixed in

My kid is not finding your description to match his reality. Engineering school is no joke.

My dad made me work at a job during Christmas break when I was in college.

DD will arrive home from her first term away on Monday and I can't wait to spoil her rotten. She's worked hard and grown a lot as a young adult. It's her time to rest and recharge.

Anonymous wrote:Is there a(n amazing) job lined up for summer?

We started asking that question in September.

By October, we made it clear that if December came without a job, break would be 100% about sending out resumes.

In early November, we described that 100% meant that DC would be on a parental sleep schedule and working with a parent continuously, to get a summer job.

DC arrived home last night with the paperwork for a great summer job.

Except for Christmas morning with my parents, DC can sleep every minute for the next 4 weeks with my blessing.

If history is any guide, DC will sleep the morning away for about a week and then their schedule will normalize to get up about 9 and go to bed about 1 am.

I love this! You are good parents!!

When my son came home from Stanford, he was completely thrashed. He'd been in go-mode for two weeks before finals and then all of finals week. I am pretty sure he slept for a solid 24 hours. At some point he came down to lay on the couch. One of his sisters put a face mask on him and he didn't wake up.

I gave him two days to catch up on sleep and then told him he was welcome to sleep as long as he wanted each morning but I would leave him a list of things to do as a contributing member of the family and some had deadlines and some didn't.

Put out trash before 7am pickup (if he did this at 2am when he got home from hanging with friends I didn't care
Set table for dinner by 6pm
Put your clean laundry away and return basket to laundry room by 8am.

Things like that.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:About to pull my hair out-- sleeps until 2 pm. Doesn't do a thing to help out around the house. Stays up all night. Rinse. Repeat.

How do parents deal with this.

and it can't have been more than a few days...

My kid hasn't even started exams yet.

It's almost like colleges - gasp! - have different schedules! My older kid is on a quarter system schedule and has been home since the Tuesday before Thanksgiving, so over two weeks now. And she'll go back the weekend after New Year's Day for the start of winter quarter. My younger finishes his last final a week from today, but then doesn't go back until January 26th. And no, I'm not OK with either of them being complete blobs for the entire 5/6 week break. A week of vegging is fine, but after that -- help out around the house, pick up some hours at your high school job, apply to jobs/internships if you haven't already solidified something for the summer, etc.

You are crazy

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:About to pull my hair out-- sleeps until 2 pm. Doesn't do a thing to help out around the house. Stays up all night. Rinse. Repeat.

How do parents deal with this.

and it can't have been more than a few days...

My kid hasn't even started exams yet.

It's almost like colleges - gasp! - have different schedules! My older kid is on a quarter system schedule and has been home since the Tuesday before Thanksgiving, so over two weeks now. And she'll go back the weekend after New Year's Day for the start of winter quarter. My younger finishes his last final a week from today, but then doesn't go back until January 26th. And no, I'm not OK with either of them being complete blobs for the entire 5/6 week break. A week of vegging is fine, but after that -- help out around the house, pick up some hours at your high school job, apply to jobs/internships if you haven't already solidified something for the summer, etc.

Omg, leave him/her alone, OP. Let them enjoy break for a damn day before you start in on them.

Anonymous wrote:About to pull my hair out-- sleeps until 2 pm. Doesn't do a thing to help out around the house. Stays up all night. Rinse. Repeat.

How do parents deal with this.

and it can't have been more than a few days...

My kid hasn't even started exams yet.

No wonder so many young adults are stressed-out, neurotic messes these days. Even winter break can't have any downtime.

Anonymous wrote:The child may have mononucleosis. See a doctor to check it out before you go so negative. Stepmother, I'm guessing?

It doesn't have to be a stepmother. I feel this way sometimes about my DS. If allowed, he would sleep until 2, come out to eat only if no one is in the dining room, and stay up until 2am (which totally messes up his sleep cycle). Rinse and repeat, daily. He's always needed more alone time than my other kids, but I still haven't gotten used to it after all these years

Don't you have something to do with your time instead of monitoring what time your kid gets up every day? What a boring existence

The child may have mononucleosis. See a doctor to check it out before you go so negative. Stepmother, I'm guessing?

How do I deal with this? I have more significant things to consume my time and be bothered over. I choose to instead be happy to have my kid at home for a brief period of time.

This post was started on Dec 11. How long has the kid been home?