When my kid makes a college decision, I will post something on FB once my kid says it’s okay. It’s their work and their news (and I have a pretty curated FB list of only relatives and people I actually care about). I’ll be very excited for my kid. She’s worked hard and I can’t wait to see all the adventures and experiences and opportunities she will have in college.

I’d love to see on FB that a kid I care about— one of my kids friends or a neighborhood kid I watched grow up— got into Stanford. Good for them. I know some amazing kids and I love seeing where they end up every year.

But I’d hate OP, because her attitude is so bad. There’s a big difference between “suck it snowflakes, I won” (not my kid— me. I won at parenting) and parents who are genuinely proud of their kids hard word and excited for their kid’s next steps.

My kid is at TJ, BTW. And I may have run a lot of carpools, but I didn’t do the work, and college admissions isn’t a validation of my parenting. A kind kid with a moral compass and a good work ethic who is engaged in their community tells you a lot more about the quality of parenting than Stanford v NOVA.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids aren’t old enough for that tho I see plenty of people post report card / honor roll things so I wouldn’t put college acceptances past them.

My BILs / SILs posted where their kids decided to go, not every acceptance, which I think is appropriate and something people want to know.

In OP's (mild) defense, this is an ED acceptance so it is where his/her child will be going.

Stanford is restrictive/single choice early action, not ED (although as a practical matter, certainly likely to be where the child will be attending).

OP, consider it a thoughtful courtesy to those in the midst of a stressful process to refrain from announcing on social media until summer.

One of DCs friends was admitted EA to Stanford and ended up going to an HYP instead. So it happens.

OP can certainly post anything she wants about her kid - it's her right. However, if she posts it in the obnoxious way she posted here then she will be considered an a**. No one will call her out, but they will remember it later. I had a FB "friend" who posted every college acceptance letter her DD received. It was beyond ridiculous and definitely left an impression for many people - and not a good one.

I simply type a "congratulations" and go on with my day. I can't get too excited about it being on social media.

I'm not really into social media, and I definitely think it should be more about celebrating and not about bragging.
Having said that, kids are getting their early decision notifications this month. If they got in, that is where they are going to college. It's a significant milestone in a person's life, and it's reasonable that they should be able to announce where they will be attending college. They should not have to wait until regular decision comes out, because that is not until April.
I agree that if we are talking early action (vs early decision) it's not necessary to list every single acceptance, because accepted does not mean enrolled.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids aren’t old enough for that tho I see plenty of people post report card / honor roll things so I wouldn’t put college acceptances past them.

My BILs / SILs posted where their kids decided to go, not every acceptance, which I think is appropriate and something people want to know.

In OP's (mild) defense, this is an ED acceptance so it is where his/her child will be going.

Stanford is restrictive/single choice early action, not ED (although as a practical matter, certainly likely to be where the child will be attending).

OP, consider it a thoughtful courtesy to those in the midst of a stressful process to refrain from announcing on social media until summer.

Lord. Protect the snowflakes from what others are doing. How do people actually think like this? Shelter the children forever.

Meh. When I first arrived at Stanford as a graduate student, it was accurately described as looking like the "world's largest Taco Bell.". The undergraduate experience seemed similar to that at a flagship state school. Hope your kid has fun.

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Anonymous wrote:Snowflakes need to grow up and grow a pair. My DC got into Stanford last week and I blasted it from the mountaintops. Not everyone gets a trophy. People get things and sometimes, many times you wont. Deal with it. It's called life. Ive seen one too many posters saying it creates anxiety. TOO BAD.

Embarrassing your child in the process . . .

+1
Reminds me of a mom I know who sent out a mass email to everyone she knew when her son got into a top SLAC. She went into great detail about this school, the history of it, etc. And then he got off the waitlist at his top choice SLAC - so she sent out ANOTHER email, with all the same bragging information about THAT school. It was so cringeworthy.

DCs who go to high schools with a large number of students applying and attending the top tier schools (TJHSST, MB, the Big 3 independents) should be a little thoughtful about bragging. Plenty of students with ED/EA denials get admitted to equally strong or stronger schools in March. It's not like you are going to be the only one from your high school going to that school or you're that special for getting into Stanford from an extremely privileged school. You will get called out breaking the community norms and a reputation for being a thoughtless jerk will precede you to campus.

For the top couple students at a typical DC area public school, the norms are different. Everyone knows they are among the handful of students shooting for the top colleges and they can be a source of pride for the whole community. Your brag is a brag for the entire school and is an accomplishment for the teachers, coaches, and administrators too.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids aren’t old enough for that tho I see plenty of people post report card / honor roll things so I wouldn’t put college acceptances past them.

My BILs / SILs posted where their kids decided to go, not every acceptance, which I think is appropriate and something people want to know.

In OP's (mild) defense, this is an ED acceptance so it is where his/her child will be going.

Stanford is restrictive/single choice early action, not ED (although as a practical matter, certainly likely to be where the child will be attending).

OP, consider it a thoughtful courtesy to those in the midst of a stressful process to refrain from announcing on social media until summer.

I stand corrected - obviously, Stanford wasn't on my DC's application list

Does anyone if William and Mary early decisions have come out?

I think the pictures of the kid holding a letter or wearing a sweatshirt are cute once the decision has been made.

I could see updates on every acceptance throughout senior year being seen as obnoxious by your friends/family.

While what the OP did is not wrong, it would be better to announce at the same time as regular decisions are announced. It would be hard to keep news like that under wrap, though.

OP congrats!!! Enjoy!

Wow...I am excited to know where everyone got in/is going...and would be happy to lend a shoulder for the no's if needed. Where your kid is or is not going does not make any difference to where my kid is going. We are friends/family/neighbors...we have shared so many things in these kids lives...good and bad...share away!

I think it’s absurd to post on social media at all. Why not just send an email to the people that actually care? Or even call them on a telephone? If your relationship with them is so tangential that’s you don’t actually want to speak to them, it’s not something you need to share with them.