If your children are giving you cell phone issues, just suspend the service. I did this many times with my youngest.

At the very least they will have to find a more creative way to text ie ipad...

Otherwise, I pay for the phone, you live under my roof, my rules.

Phone off at at any meal time with others.And bed time phone is downstairs. Texts are at parents will if we want to look at them and any other social media. Or like others have suggested 360.

They will have unlimited access in college, but until then our rules.

No phone starting Sunday night for week. He actually hands me his phone.

He may get it Thursday night depending on homework/test load.

Weekends. No rules except not at meals. We do ask him to pay attention to us and may ask he spent some family time

Anonymous wrote:Those of you with teenagers who aren't allowed to take the phones up - how do you prevent it? And how do they play music in their rooms?

Echo spot in his room for music or audio books.

Phones stay out of our rooms (all of ours) for sleep hygiene purposes. It isn’t a trust issue or anything like that. He has adhd and is too impulsive to stay off the phone, and would sacrifice sleep for entertainment.

Enforcement? Small house. I have insomnia issues myself. Spot checks when I go get some hot tea at 3am.

OP, my 14 and a half yr old son is on probation with me until I decide otherwise, which will probably be on his 18th birthday, when he can then purchase his own phone before he leaves for the military. He is perfectly fine without a phone. I make my rules for my kids based on my gut and the kid. Each kid has different rules where phones are concerned.

Easy:

1. Kids have my old iPhones with my Apple ID under my control. They can have a new password, but I know and use it.

2. No electronics upstairs. Homework/screentime is downstairs in the main room, phones are charged for the night there as well.

3. No fun screentime when homework is not finished.