Anonymous wrote:OP, you wrecked your post by saying you were the man and your spouse was the woman.

If you had left it ambiguous, everyone would have heaped hatred on your spouse because they would have assumed she was the man.

As soon as you identify as the man, you are mostly going to get negativity directed at you due to your gender.

Absolutely. I was making gender ambiguous. I should have left it that way. While this was my birthday...my expectation are low. And she did not meet my expectations. Nothing would have been better than waking me up to give me a jar of pasta sauce. I was not in a chair, but rather was in bed. I had been up since 4 am; I slept 3 hours the night before, because I was woken up at ten by my wife making a phone call in bed.

I know I am not a night owl. Hell, I am up at 550 AM on DCUM right now.

In the 21 years of marriage, she has never given me something I wanted. She gives me what she thinks I should want. For example, she saw I have no sweaters. So, she bought me a sweater. I have no sweaters, because I do not like them. I wore it once. Another year, she thought I need slippers, Guess what? My feet are always hot. I would rather go barefoot.

I put a lot of thought into her presents, looking at where we are and what we are going.

I take care of having a nice dinner, either I cook it, or we go out someplace decent (like Arties).

In reality, we share all of the budget. I make 95% of the income, but it goes into a joint account. And she is not busy with the kids, because it is kid. and kid is self-sufficient. And, when I am home, I take care of stuff with her.

We’re they at least high end toiletries? Do you travel a lot?

OP, you wrecked your post by saying you were the man and your spouse was the woman.

If you had left it ambiguous, everyone would have heaped hatred on your spouse because they would have assumed she was the man.

As soon as you identify as the man, you are mostly going to get negativity directed at you due to your gender.

Count yourself lucky that you have someone in your life that have your wife that thought of your birthday...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Silly complaint.

You went to bed at 7:50. Do you need 12 hrs of sleep per night? You had a quiet evening to yourself. They woke you at still a very reasonable hr, when most adults are not even in bed yet, to acknowledge your birthday with cake and weird gifts. Maybe your child picked out the stuff. It doesn’t matter though. They wanted to celebrate with you. You should be glad for that. What were you wanting?

he fell asleep on the couch or in the lazy-boy while watching TV (i assume) he went to bed after the cake and gift.

but yeah a weird "gift"

And I get being tired. I'm up at 4-30-5 every morning, and i've fallen asleep watching TV as well. not a big deal. As an adult I've learned to enjoy naps....
happy birthday. maybe you'll get a special BD gift from your DW when your kids aren't around... you can pretend she's penny or bernadette, BBT rocks... DH here as well...

I did figured he fell asleep in a chair/couch, which is all the more reason to expect to be woken up at some point- by your wife and kid, on your birthday. And adults shouldn’t expect birthday gifts. The point is, his birthday was acknowledged in some way beyond saying happy birthday, and so that, be happy. Make some spaghetti tonight with your new sauce then go buy yourself a lotus and a boat.

Anonymous wrote:How about this. Every year for my birthday dh buys me a Safeway raspberry chocolate cake. Even though for years, I have told him in this same shop, that my favorite cake, right next to that one, is strawberry short cake. Every single year. Luckily, this summer I was diagnosed with wheat and dairy allergy, so now I am waiting for a cake to show up, but won't be an issue since I can't eat it anyway. It is his favorite cake and he thinks it is a cute joke.

Get a gluten free something that you love for his birthday. What a dick.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Silly complaint.

You went to bed at 7:50. Do you need 12 hrs of sleep per night? You had a quiet evening to yourself. They woke you at still a very reasonable hr, when most adults are not even in bed yet, to acknowledge your birthday with cake and weird gifts. Maybe your child picked out the stuff. It doesn’t matter though. They wanted to celebrate with you. You should be glad for that. What were you wanting?

he fell asleep on the couch or in the lazy-boy while watching TV (i assume) he went to bed after the cake and gift.

but yeah a weird "gift"

And I get being tired. I'm up at 4-30-5 every morning, and i've fallen asleep watching TV as well. not a big deal. As an adult I've learned to enjoy naps....
happy birthday. maybe you'll get a special BD gift from your DW when your kids aren't around... you can pretend she's penny or bernadette, BBT rocks... DH here as well...

Or Amy...

Pretty funny, OP. This sounds like one of those little funny things you laugh about later - Remember that time you woke me up and gave me a box of toiletries? As for now, I gotta believe she meant well?

Anonymous wrote:Silly complaint.

You went to bed at 7:50. Do you need 12 hrs of sleep per night? You had a quiet evening to yourself. They woke you at still a very reasonable hr, when most adults are not even in bed yet, to acknowledge your birthday with cake and weird gifts. Maybe your child picked out the stuff. It doesn’t matter though. They wanted to celebrate with you. You should be glad for that. What were you wanting?

he fell asleep on the couch or in the lazy-boy while watching TV (i assume) he went to bed after the cake and gift.

but yeah a weird "gift"

And I get being tired. I'm up at 4-30-5 every morning, and i've fallen asleep watching TV as well. not a big deal. As an adult I've learned to enjoy naps....
happy birthday. maybe you'll get a special BD gift from your DW when your kids aren't around... you can pretend she's penny or bernadette, BBT rocks... DH here as well...

How about this. Every year for my birthday dh buys me a Safeway raspberry chocolate cake. Even though for years, I have told him in this same shop, that my favorite cake, right next to that one, is strawberry short cake. Every single year. Luckily, this summer I was diagnosed with wheat and dairy allergy, so now I am waiting for a cake to show up, but won't be an issue since I can't eat it anyway. It is his favorite cake and he thinks it is a cute joke.

Silly complaint.

You went to bed at 7:50. Do you need 12 hrs of sleep per night? You had a quiet evening to yourself. They woke you at still a very reasonable hr, when most adults are not even in bed yet, to acknowledge your birthday with cake and weird gifts. Maybe your child picked out the stuff. It doesn’t matter though. They wanted to celebrate with you. You should be glad for that. What were you wanting?

A jar of sauce?! I'd rather have nothing.
Belated Happy Birthday.

Anonymous wrote:At least you got to mate all day at work.

(I know it was a typo.)

LOL! He mates all day, and expects to be a prince at home too!

Op here. I expected nothing and would have been ok with nothing. But this somewhere between funny and insulting.

You got to take a nap and then were mad spouse woke you up after going to bed early? Sounds nice and like you got some time to yourself. From your spouses perspective, it probably seemed they gave you the night off. Did you let her know what you wanted? I agree it’s an odd gift.