Anonymous wrote:DH and I spent our 10th anniversary at an oceanfront hotel but it was the least romantic anniversary. He snored and plopped gas for two consecutive nights. I just couldn’t stand it. Early in the morning I tip toed to the door and went to the hotel’s deck to watch the sunrise and meditate. Please help me find a solution to these unhappy nights.

My guess is that it is not really the snoring and the farting that made it feel unromantic to you. My husband and I both wear mouth guards. We've both been known to fart. That stiff is going to happen whether it is our anniversary or not. It sounds to me like you had expectations of what a romantic 10th year anniversary getaway should look like and the one you had did not look like that. It did not meeet expectations. I've been there and realized that I was responsible for creating my own expectations. I realized that my expectations were mine. They were not necessarily his or anyone else's. If I expected people to meet them but didn't let them know what they were, I was setting them up for failure and myself up for disappointment. My husband and I have been together over 20 years (yikes!). When I am irritated with him it usually means that I feel unappreciated or my needs aren't being met. They are often simple needs. Little things that let me know I matter to him. It could be letting me sleep after I've been up with a sick kid. Running an errand that he'd rather not because it makes my life easier. Etc. I do the same for him. It sounds trite but marriage really is work. It would be great if our partners just knew exactly what we needed at all times but that only happens in romance novels and movies. Figure out what feels romantic to you and tell your husband.Ask him what he finds romantic. Communicate.

Also, I highly recommend earplugs.

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Anonymous wrote:We spent our 34th at home. Went to dinner at a local chain. Couldn't have been better. Anniversary's are one day a year.Marriage hopefully is for a lifetime.

How can you make it when you are sleep deprived?

OP, you are sleep deprived to the point of hating your life after 2 nights of bad sleep on vacation? What do you do at home? I have a bit of insomnia from time to time. Sometimes when I'm having trouble sleeping I go sleep in another room. I often had to share my room with a grandma who snored, and it really helped for me to fall asleep first. The snoring wouldn't wake me but made it hard to fall asleep. Now I often sleep with soft earbuds in the morning so I can sleep through my DH getting up and showering/getting dressed at 5:45am. And farting is not constant or anything. The farting in his sleep thing is what's making people think you just don't like your DH because it's a ridiculous thing to be upset about.

Why wasn't it romantic? What did you do to try and make it romantic? After ten years of marriage, surely you are aware that people fart.

Did you have fun otherwise? Everyone snores and farts

I’m sure you don’t fart or queef...

He can't help it OP. We always try to book rooms with two beds so that I can haven't own fartless paradise.

Sleep in another room

Anonymous wrote:Show me a guy that doesn’t fart in his sleep.

or any human

Try to get a suite next time if you can afford and have him sleep in the living room.

Show me a guy that doesn’t fart in his sleep.

I have been married for 18 years and my husband can snore and fart with the best of them. Usually I ignore it, but sometimes if I’m upset with him it’s a big deal to me. So I’m thinking that this is the latter case with you. You’re upset because you had envisioned a romantic anniversary date and then he did what he always does. He can’t help it. What I do, we have a fan in our bedroom, and I just sleep with my back to him for the farts.

Give him some Gas X or charcoal tablets to help the farting. Not sure what to tell you about the snoring—that drives me to the brink of insanity too. And no, earplugs don’t help. They might muffle it slightly, but then you have the whooshing sound of having your ears plugged and for me the tinnitus gets even louder. The snoring needs to be addressed.

Sleep farting is disgusting and hysterical and he can't do anything about it except perhaps change his diet IF you know what makes him fart (me, it's sugar. If I eat sugar I fart awake, asleep, and all moments in between)

Surely it isn’t a surprise that he snores? Or are you saying this is the first time it has happened?

So I assume.he does this at home too? If so, you should have been better prepared. If not, I think you're completely overreacting drama queen. Go to CVS and buy some ear plugs