Anonymous
12/01/2019 03:01
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So people with a terminally ill parent should just not make a living anymore????
Most elderly care is not for terminal people and then you bring in hospice and other supports. This has nothing to do with employment.
That's not how reality works for many of us. I'm glad you can do it, but for me, elderly care took a toll on my career and hospice could only do so much. What do you do when it's not within 6 months of death, but the condition is still serious.
I did 24/7 care for about a year then nursing home and was still there frequently and managing everything. It was a ton of work but it doesn't have to do with employment. You do it nights/weekends/hire a caregiver/nursing home. You make it work. We did it for years.
Congrats. Some people don't have resources at their disposal like you did.
What resources? We had the same as everyone else. Government paid.
Anonymous
12/01/2019 03:00
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So you think both children and the elderly should fend for themselves - or that care should be farmed out to minimum wage strangers? Tell me, how do you think caregiving should be handled?
Then don’t work and do it yourself. We did.
Anonymous
12/01/2019 03:00
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So people with a terminally ill parent should just not make a living anymore????
Most elderly care is not for terminal people and then you bring in hospice and other supports. This has nothing to do with employment.
That's not how reality works for many of us. I'm glad you can do it, but for me, elderly care took a toll on my career and hospice could only do so much. What do you do when it's not within 6 months of death, but the condition is still serious.
I did 24/7 care for about a year then nursing home and was still there frequently and managing everything. It was a ton of work but it doesn't have to do with employment. You do it nights/weekends/hire a caregiver/nursing home. You make it work. We did it for years.
Congrats. Some people don't have resources at their disposal like you did.
Exactly, the average person can’t afford $10,000/ month or more for skilled nursing care. And even at those exorbitant prices, family still needs to be very involved to ensure the patient gets the care they are paying for.
We did not have the money. Medicaid paid and yes we were heavily involved.
Anonymous
12/01/2019 03:00
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So you think both children and the elderly should fend for themselves - or that care should be farmed out to minimum wage strangers? Tell me, how do you think caregiving should be handled?
By the parents. Your decision to have children is not your employers responsibility to “accommodate.”
The funny thing is OP basically said that parenting is a breeze in comparison to elder care. That was the premise of the thread. This person is just trying to instigate
Anonymous
12/01/2019 02:59
Subject: elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:PP didn't specify but the nursing home and even some or all of the in-home care may have been paid by Medicaid, depending on the state.
Medicaid did pay for it. They would not pay for in home care. There was no money.
Anonymous
12/01/2019 02:58
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So people with a terminally ill parent should just not make a living anymore????
Most elderly care is not for terminal people and then you bring in hospice and other supports. This has nothing to do with employment.
That's not how reality works for many of us. I'm glad you can do it, but for me, elderly care took a toll on my career and hospice could only do so much. What do you do when it's not within 6 months of death, but the condition is still serious.
I did 24/7 care for about a year then nursing home and was still there frequently and managing everything. It was a ton of work but it doesn't have to do with employment. You do it nights/weekends/hire a caregiver/nursing home. You make it work. We did it for years.
Okkkkkkk boomer
It a boomer. Grow up and deal with it.
Anonymous
12/01/2019 01:25
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So people with a terminally ill parent should just not make a living anymore????
Most elderly care is not for terminal people and then you bring in hospice and other supports. This has nothing to do with employment.
That's not how reality works for many of us. I'm glad you can do it, but for me, elderly care took a toll on my career and hospice could only do so much. What do you do when it's not within 6 months of death, but the condition is still serious.
I did 24/7 care for about a year then nursing home and was still there frequently and managing everything. It was a ton of work but it doesn't have to do with employment. You do it nights/weekends/hire a caregiver/nursing home. You make it work. We did it for years.
Okkkkkkk boomer
Anonymous
11/30/2019 22:08
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So you think both children and the elderly should fend for themselves - or that care should be farmed out to minimum wage strangers? Tell me, how do you think caregiving should be handled?
By the parents. Your decision to have children is not your employers responsibility to “accommodate.”
Anonymous
11/30/2019 22:04
Subject: elder care versus childcare
PP didn't specify but the nursing home and even some or all of the in-home care may have been paid by Medicaid, depending on the state.
Anonymous
11/30/2019 21:51
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So people with a terminally ill parent should just not make a living anymore????
Most elderly care is not for terminal people and then you bring in hospice and other supports. This has nothing to do with employment.
That's not how reality works for many of us. I'm glad you can do it, but for me, elderly care took a toll on my career and hospice could only do so much. What do you do when it's not within 6 months of death, but the condition is still serious.
I did 24/7 care for about a year then nursing home and was still there frequently and managing everything. It was a ton of work but it doesn't have to do with employment. You do it nights/weekends/hire a caregiver/nursing home. You make it work. We did it for years.
Congrats. Some people don't have resources at their disposal like you did.
Exactly, the average person can’t afford $10,000/ month or more for skilled nursing care. And even at those exorbitant prices, family still needs to be very involved to ensure the patient gets the care they are paying for.
Anonymous
11/30/2019 21:47
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So you think both children and the elderly should fend for themselves - or that care should be farmed out to minimum wage strangers? Tell me, how do you think caregiving should be handled?
Anonymous
11/30/2019 21:47
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So people with a terminally ill parent should just not make a living anymore????
Most elderly care is not for terminal people and then you bring in hospice and other supports. This has nothing to do with employment.
That's not how reality works for many of us. I'm glad you can do it, but for me, elderly care took a toll on my career and hospice could only do so much. What do you do when it's not within 6 months of death, but the condition is still serious.
I did 24/7 care for about a year then nursing home and was still there frequently and managing everything. It was a ton of work but it doesn't have to do with employment. You do it nights/weekends/hire a caregiver/nursing home. You make it work. We did it for years.
Congrats. Some people don't have resources at their disposal like you did.
Anonymous
11/30/2019 21:44
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So people with a terminally ill parent should just not make a living anymore????
Most elderly care is not for terminal people and then you bring in hospice and other supports. This has nothing to do with employment.
That's not how reality works for many of us. I'm glad you can do it, but for me, elderly care took a toll on my career and hospice could only do so much. What do you do when it's not within 6 months of death, but the condition is still serious.
I did 24/7 care for about a year then nursing home and was still there frequently and managing everything. It was a ton of work but it doesn't have to do with employment. You do it nights/weekends/hire a caregiver/nursing home. You make it work. We did it for years.
Anonymous
11/30/2019 21:24
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So people with a terminally ill parent should just not make a living anymore????
Most elderly care is not for terminal people and then you bring in hospice and other supports. This has nothing to do with employment.
That's not how reality works for many of us. I'm glad you can do it, but for me, elderly care took a toll on my career and hospice could only do so much. What do you do when it's not within 6 months of death, but the condition is still serious.
Anonymous
11/30/2019 16:46
Subject: Re:elder care versus childcare
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:The are very similar--it's about time employers recognize it too and accommodate those that take care of elderly.
Neither should be "accommodated."
So people with a terminally ill parent should just not make a living anymore????
Most elderly care is not for terminal people and then you bring in hospice and other supports. This has nothing to do with employment.