Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I texted the coach and she said she's tough on her because DD is talented and she expects more from her. And also that sometimes it takes multiple times to tell DD to do something before she complies.

Not sure what to take away from this.

The takeaway is that your daughter doesn’t work as hard as she could and she doesn’t listen. But oh, it’s somehow the coach’s fault.

Nope, the takeaway is that the coach is an ugly bully who was probably "popular" in high school and now has to find people to pick on to keep feeling powerful, even if it's kids...
Please find her another coach. This one stinks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I texted the coach and she said she's tough on her because DD is talented and she expects more from her. And also that sometimes it takes multiple times to tell DD to do something before she complies.

Not sure what to take away from this.

The takeaway is that your daughter doesn’t work as hard as she could and she doesn’t listen. But oh, it’s somehow the coach’s fault.

It could very well be the coach. I'd observe and have a word with DD on listening if it turns out she is goofing off instead. I used to coach and also had an instructor in an activity who felt I wasn't trying hard enough. She was so critical and harsh I began to freeze whenever I had my (private) lessons which made everything worse. How she spoke to me was also very different than the girl before me.

I could not spend 6-8h/day in middle school and high school practicing like the homeschooled girl...
I switched and did much better.

All that said, check the objective level of the harshness of feedback. The coach should admonish, not scold.

How old is your daughter?