I don't understand why people are freaking out about lawyering up when the DD was the victim, not the accused. Why would she need to worry about talking to the police?

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Anonymous wrote:This is scary that your teen can potentially ruin someone's life. Either she remember or she doesn't. "Might" is a really scary word. I would make my teen write out a statement or tell me what happened before being interviewed by the police. The neighbor might not have even lived there 10 years ago or was never alone with the neighbor. It reminds me if the mcmartin preschool trials.

You have no idea how memory works and I hope to God your own kid never has to suffer for that.

So you know the neighbor is definitely guilty?

-dp

It has nothing to do with whether the neighbor is guilty. Could be either. “Either she remember or she doesn’t” is just not how the brain works.

It doesn’t work by maybe remembering 10 years later and then transforming into being sure through repeated conversations! That’s how unwittingly false accusations work. Of course it’s different if she does actually remember and said “might” because it’s difficult for her to discuss.

This is exactly why OP should take none of the advice being doled out here other than consulting an attorney before her child is questioned by police.

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Anonymous wrote:This is scary that your teen can potentially ruin someone's life. Either she remember or she doesn't. "Might" is a really scary word. I would make my teen write out a statement or tell me what happened before being interviewed by the police. The neighbor might not have even lived there 10 years ago or was never alone with the neighbor. It reminds me if the mcmartin preschool trials.

You have no idea how memory works and I hope to God your own kid never has to suffer for that.

So you know the neighbor is definitely guilty?

-dp

It has nothing to do with whether the neighbor is guilty. Could be either. “Either she remember or she doesn’t” is just not how the brain works.

It doesn’t work by maybe remembering 10 years later and then transforming into being sure through repeated conversations! That’s how unwittingly false accusations work. Of course it’s different if she does actually remember and said “might” because it’s difficult for her to discuss.

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Anonymous wrote:This is scary that your teen can potentially ruin someone's life. Either she remember or she doesn't. "Might" is a really scary word. I would make my teen write out a statement or tell me what happened before being interviewed by the police. The neighbor might not have even lived there 10 years ago or was never alone with the neighbor. It reminds me if the mcmartin preschool trials.

You have no idea how memory works and I hope to God your own kid never has to suffer for that.

So you know the neighbor is definitely guilty?

-dp

It has nothing to do with whether the neighbor is guilty. Could be either. “Either she remember or she doesn’t” is just not how the brain works.

How does it work then? I mean this seems like a black and white case to me.

What’s black and white?

Either happened or didn't happened. You know "yes" and "no" kinda thing?

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Anonymous wrote:This is scary that your teen can potentially ruin someone's life. Either she remember or she doesn't. "Might" is a really scary word. I would make my teen write out a statement or tell me what happened before being interviewed by the police. The neighbor might not have even lived there 10 years ago or was never alone with the neighbor. It reminds me if the mcmartin preschool trials.

You have no idea how memory works and I hope to God your own kid never has to suffer for that.

So you know the neighbor is definitely guilty?

-dp

It has nothing to do with whether the neighbor is guilty. Could be either. “Either she remember or she doesn’t” is just not how the brain works.

How does it work then? I mean this seems like a black and white case to me.

What’s black and white?

Anonymous wrote:This is scary that your teen can potentially ruin someone's life. Either she remember or she doesn't. "Might" is a really scary word. I would make my teen write out a statement or tell me what happened before being interviewed by the police. The neighbor might not have even lived there 10 years ago or was never alone with the neighbor. It reminds me if the mcmartin preschool trials.

The parents in those trials grilled their kids and then took them to the police.

Your advice is the WORST THING op could do. She should not ask her dd about any details or ask her to write about it. You need someone trained in this area talking to your kid, not a parent. Parents are the ones who don't know how to question their kid without screwing it up.

Do NOT interrogate your kid, OP!

Neighbor can take op to court. I know I would if I were wrongfully accused.

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Anonymous wrote:This is scary that your teen can potentially ruin someone's life. Either she remember or she doesn't. "Might" is a really scary word. I would make my teen write out a statement or tell me what happened before being interviewed by the police. The neighbor might not have even lived there 10 years ago or was never alone with the neighbor. It reminds me if the mcmartin preschool trials.

You have no idea how memory works and I hope to God your own kid never has to suffer for that.

So you know the neighbor is definitely guilty?

-dp

It has nothing to do with whether the neighbor is guilty. Could be either. “Either she remember or she doesn’t” is just not how the brain works.

it's got EVERYTHING to do with it as far as the neighbor is concnered. If OP is about to f- out of her neighbor, she will need something more than "it's not how brain works".

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Anonymous wrote:This is scary that your teen can potentially ruin someone's life. Either she remember or she doesn't. "Might" is a really scary word. I would make my teen write out a statement or tell me what happened before being interviewed by the police. The neighbor might not have even lived there 10 years ago or was never alone with the neighbor. It reminds me if the mcmartin preschool trials.

You have no idea how memory works and I hope to God your own kid never has to suffer for that.

So you know the neighbor is definitely guilty?

-dp

It has nothing to do with whether the neighbor is guilty. Could be either. “Either she remember or she doesn’t” is just not how the brain works.

How does it work then? I mean this seems like a black and white case to me.

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Anonymous wrote:This is scary that your teen can potentially ruin someone's life. Either she remember or she doesn't. "Might" is a really scary word. I would make my teen write out a statement or tell me what happened before being interviewed by the police. The neighbor might not have even lived there 10 years ago or was never alone with the neighbor. It reminds me if the mcmartin preschool trials.

You have no idea how memory works and I hope to God your own kid never has to suffer for that.

So you know the neighbor is definitely guilty?

-dp

It has nothing to do with whether the neighbor is guilty. Could be either. “Either she remember or she doesn’t” is just not how the brain works.

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Anonymous wrote:This is scary that your teen can potentially ruin someone's life. Either she remember or she doesn't. "Might" is a really scary word. I would make my teen write out a statement or tell me what happened before being interviewed by the police. The neighbor might not have even lived there 10 years ago or was never alone with the neighbor. It reminds me if the mcmartin preschool trials.

You have no idea how memory works and I hope to God your own kid never has to suffer for that.

So you know the neighbor is definitely guilty?

-dp

Anonymous wrote:The police are not your friends. They do not have your or your child's best interests in mind. You should at least consult an attorney to discuss how to handle questioning and whether the attorney should be present or merely on call.

Lol. Don’t bother calling them if you’re ever robbed, raped, carjacked, etc.

Is it me or is everybody think police talking to teen de facto means the guy will be 100 percent arrested?

Anonymous wrote:This is scary that your teen can potentially ruin someone's life. Either she remember or she doesn't. "Might" is a really scary word. I would make my teen write out a statement or tell me what happened before being interviewed by the police. The neighbor might not have even lived there 10 years ago or was never alone with the neighbor. It reminds me if the mcmartin preschool trials.

You have no idea how memory works and I hope to God your own kid never has to suffer for that.

Anonymous wrote:This is scary that your teen can potentially ruin someone's life. Either she remember or she doesn't. "Might" is a really scary word. I would make my teen write out a statement or tell me what happened before being interviewed by the police. The neighbor might not have even lived there 10 years ago or was never alone with the neighbor. It reminds me if the mcmartin preschool trials.

Once it’s on the report that poor dude is completely f-ed. How old was she?