tell your DH he is not single, and he needs to step up and help with his own child's birthday party.

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Anonymous wrote:I did this. I didn't want my daughter to feel displaced by the new baby. I did as much planning as I could in advance. Grandma watched the baby so DH and I could attend the party (didn't want to expose baby to bounce house germs).

Sigh... I guess I can do this.... not looking forward to it, but it's doable. No grandparents in the area, but I know her nanny would be okay with watching the baby during the party.

OP, I know it’s hard, but try not to be resentful. Try to think of it as a perfect opportunity to show your daughter that she has not been displaced by the baby. My kids love to talk about their upcoming party and you can make her feel great by discussing the party while feeding or otherwise taking care of the baby.

Oh I wouldn't be resentful at all! But thank you for the positive words. I think we'll go ahead and have the party and just keep it simple. DD will be happy no matter what.

That’s what matters.

Book one of those bounce house places now. It’s usually pizza and cake, and the timing is capped to 2 hours. they usually provide the goody bags. If not, skip them. They are unnecessary. Let the nanny/dh chaperone.

Worse comes to worse you can cancel if you need to do a more intimate, small celebration.

Dont' you have any friends who can help with some of the logistics?

I'm one of the posters who did this. It was actually a nice break to get away from the baby to be honest. I think you are underestimating how much you'll appreciate the one on one time to celebrate your five year old, and to see her interacting with her friends and to be able to focus on her for a couple of hours to make her feel excited and special. And when you work with a venue, there really isn't that much to be planned. Prepare the Evite and order the favors before your due date. In this case, order extra favors so you know you'll have enough even before you start the RSVP process. You can even have the cake ordered before the due date. You have the venue provide the paper products, drinks, pizza. You just have to call a week in advance to give the final RSVP. Tip well and they clean up everything. It's really, really not a big deal.

I had a 5th birthday party for my son 2 months after his brother was born. #2 was in the Bjorn the whole time. Easy peasy. We did the party at the Zoo, but the same principle would apply to any kiddie venue.

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Anonymous wrote:This isn't that difficult to begin with, especially if you have a partner. And now you're telling us that you have a nanny who can watch the baby?

Well, she's part-time so her role is a little different from a typical nanny.

Stop with the excuses! Just get it done. Write a list, divvy it up, tackle it one small piece at a time. What’s so hard about a venue party? Invites, food, what?

Anonymous wrote:How much planning is really involved here? I don’t see how a functioning adult can or pull this off. No, you can’t home make every game, decoration, craft, meal or dessert. But you can grab a veggie tray, pretzels and hummus, get a teenage to play games and bring a cake?

*cant.
And if you’re not “functioning” for some reason, you got much bigger problems.

How much planning is really involved here? I don’t see how a functioning adult can or pull this off. No, you can’t home make every game, decoration, craft, meal or dessert. But you can grab a veggie tray, pretzels and hummus, get a teenage to play games and bring a cake?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course. Are you married? Have DH plan the party. My husband plans our kids’ parties and it’s mostly phone calls. He keeps it simple (more simple than most people would) and it’s fine. I find 6 week olds to be pretty portable, assuming no health issues.

DH's job is crazy, he sometimes works 90-100 hours/week. I'm the designated party planner (and everything else doer).

My husband works a lot too. Like, I said, it’s mostly phone calls. There’s plenty of time. If he wouldn’t talk at an extra task from his job, he shouldn’t balk at an extra task from home, just my opinion.

Anonymous wrote:This isn't that difficult to begin with, especially if you have a partner. And now you're telling us that you have a nanny who can watch the baby?

Well, she's part-time so her role is a little different from a typical nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:I did this. I didn't want my daughter to feel displaced by the new baby. I did as much planning as I could in advance. Grandma watched the baby so DH and I could attend the party (didn't want to expose baby to bounce house germs).

Sigh... I guess I can do this.... not looking forward to it, but it's doable. No grandparents in the area, but I know her nanny would be okay with watching the baby during the party.

OP, I know it’s hard, but try not to be resentful. Try to think of it as a perfect opportunity to show your daughter that she has not been displaced by the baby. My kids love to talk about their upcoming party and you can make her feel great by discussing the party while feeding or otherwise taking care of the baby.

Oh I wouldn't be resentful at all! But thank you for the positive words. I think we'll go ahead and have the party and just keep it simple. DD will be happy no matter what.

Anonymous wrote:Yes. My kids are 6 weeks apart and I had one for dd. It was fine. Actually I was on maternity leave and had more time than I’ve ever had in my entire life to plan and cook

Kids six weeks apart? Wow, what a feat!! Just kidding, I know what you mean.

Anonymous wrote:Yes, of course. Are you married? Have DH plan the party. My husband plans our kids’ parties and it’s mostly phone calls. He keeps it simple (more simple than most people would) and it’s fine. I find 6 week olds to be pretty portable, assuming no health issues.

DH's job is crazy, he sometimes works 90-100 hours/week. I'm the designated party planner (and everything else doer).

This isn't that difficult to begin with, especially if you have a partner. And now you're telling us that you have a nanny who can watch the baby?

Anonymous wrote:There must be some other reason friends and family are suggesting you not do the party, which otherwise sounds like a completely doable event for an 8 months pregnant second time mom. If fact seems like near perfect timing.

Sorry. Misread. But same answer. We had a big party when our oldest tuned 13 and her sister was 4 weeks old.