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Anonymous wrote:This is why I have a full time job. We don't need the money. I need the sanity. I'm not at ALL cut out for full time parenting.

You are pathetic. Don’t procreate further if you are not cut out for parenting. And op- really? You had THREE offspring that you are responsible for. Who would you like to dump them on so you can take a two week break?

I only gave birth to one. We adopted a second. And I'm not pathetic - I'm smart. Would you think more highly if I were a miserable and awful stay at home mom who screamed at her kids all the time and ignored them when not screaming?

I’m saying it’s pathetic to say you are not cut out for parenting and then proceed to multiply. Of that is what you did, yeah you are pathetic.

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I know you can’t see it, because you’re blinded by your superiority, but original PP is NOT the pathetic one here.

Yes! For us we have grandma who used to take the oldest since she was weaned for a weekend night And a Saturday every month. She still does (even more often) but now I have a newborn so no escape for a bit.
I love my kids but also love time alone in a quiet house or a couple hours to read a book that are not carved from my sleep time. I also woh so that's a big break most of the time anyway.

I get trips alone every other year or so and it is THE BEST.

I hear ya. I sometimes fantasize about divorce: 50/50 or even every other weekend and summers sounds so appealing sometimes. Ok lots of times!

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Anonymous wrote:I don't blame you. I frequently take a "mental health" day to hang out by myself. I tell my husband I'm going to meet friends for the night. He probably thinks I'm having an affair but the reality is, I'd rather spend the night alone in a hotel than have sex with someone!!!

What kind of marriage is this? That is so messed up. Every year for my birthday my husband books me a fancy hotel room. One of my favorite nights of the year - I just go and chill. But to lie about it? WTF.

Op here. I think this is what I need and will start with. I want to book a hotel room for myself with a nice spa.

I do this every year - make sure you book two nights - one goes too fast and with two you have an entire day in between ALL to yourself. Massage, facial, binge watching shows. It's the best!

I’m the first one who posted about this and I cannot recommend it more highly. Get a spa service. Watch bad shows on your iPad or pay-per-view movies. Drink a bottle of wine in your room. Sit by the fire in the lobby and people watch. It is amazing.

Any suggestions where? I know of salamander.

I went to Landsdowne one year and it was nice. The spa services were great and the room service was tasty. It rained the whole time I was there so I didn't see the grounds at all but I was actually fine with that.

Anonymous wrote:I need a break RIGHT NOW which is exactly why I'm on DCUM. Home from school for like an hour and already everyone is yelling at each other.

But seriously, I have been lucky enough that even though I SAH (with 2 young kids and 1 school aged) we have a sitter/nanny come for one full day a week. I usually spend part of that time alone with one kid, and I spend part of the time getting crap done, and I often sneak in a daytime date with DH. But sometimes I just spend the time totally alone. I come back so much more refreshed!!

You need a break. You need a REGULAR break, not 2 weeks away. You need something you can look forward to every single week. Whether it's trading off with another mom, or hiring a babysitter, or having DH do serious kid duty on the weekend, you need something you can look forward to when the kids get overwhelming.

This. Being attached at the hip to your child isn’t healthy for you OR the child. There is no reason that a woman can’t have her own identity outside of her kids.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I have a full time job. We don't need the money. I need the sanity. I'm not at ALL cut out for full time parenting.

You are pathetic. Don’t procreate further if you are not cut out for parenting. And op- really? You had THREE offspring that you are responsible for. Who would you like to dump them on so you can take a two week break?

You are a huge loser ^^. We all need a break.

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I have a full time job. We don't need the money. I need the sanity. I'm not at ALL cut out for full time parenting.

You are pathetic. Don’t procreate further if you are not cut out for parenting. And op- really? You had THREE offspring that you are responsible for. Who would you like to dump them on so you can take a two week break?

I only gave birth to one. We adopted a second. And I'm not pathetic - I'm smart. Would you think more highly if I were a miserable and awful stay at home mom who screamed at her kids all the time and ignored them when not screaming?

I’m saying it’s pathetic to say you are not cut out for parenting and then proceed to multiply. Of that is what you did, yeah you are pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't blame you. I frequently take a "mental health" day to hang out by myself. I tell my husband I'm going to meet friends for the night. He probably thinks I'm having an affair but the reality is, I'd rather spend the night alone in a hotel than have sex with someone!!!

What kind of marriage is this? That is so messed up. Every year for my birthday my husband books me a fancy hotel room. One of my favorite nights of the year - I just go and chill. But to lie about it? WTF.

Op here. I think this is what I need and will start with. I want to book a hotel room for myself with a nice spa.

I do this every year - make sure you book two nights - one goes too fast and with two you have an entire day in between ALL to yourself. Massage, facial, binge watching shows. It's the best!

I’m the first one who posted about this and I cannot recommend it more highly. Get a spa service. Watch bad shows on your iPad or pay-per-view movies. Drink a bottle of wine in your room. Sit by the fire in the lobby and people watch. It is amazing.

Any suggestions where? I know of salamander.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't blame you. I frequently take a "mental health" day to hang out by myself. I tell my husband I'm going to meet friends for the night. He probably thinks I'm having an affair but the reality is, I'd rather spend the night alone in a hotel than have sex with someone!!!

What kind of marriage is this? That is so messed up. Every year for my birthday my husband books me a fancy hotel room. One of my favorite nights of the year - I just go and chill. But to lie about it? WTF.

Op here. I think this is what I need and will start with. I want to book a hotel room for myself with a nice spa.

I do this every year - make sure you book two nights - one goes too fast and with two you have an entire day in between ALL to yourself. Massage, facial, binge watching shows. It's the best!

I’m the first one who posted about this and I cannot recommend it more highly. Get a spa service. Watch bad shows on your iPad or pay-per-view movies. Drink a bottle of wine in your room. Sit by the fire in the lobby and people watch. It is amazing.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't blame you. I frequently take a "mental health" day to hang out by myself. I tell my husband I'm going to meet friends for the night. He probably thinks I'm having an affair but the reality is, I'd rather spend the night alone in a hotel than have sex with someone!!!

What kind of marriage is this? That is so messed up. Every year for my birthday my husband books me a fancy hotel room. One of my favorite nights of the year - I just go and chill. But to lie about it? WTF.

Op here. I think this is what I need and will start with. I want to book a hotel room for myself with a nice spa.

I do this every year - make sure you book two nights - one goes too fast and with two you have an entire day in between ALL to yourself. Massage, facial, binge watching shows. It's the best!

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I have a full time job. We don't need the money. I need the sanity. I'm not at ALL cut out for full time parenting.

You are pathetic. Don’t procreate further if you are not cut out for parenting. And op- really? You had THREE offspring that you are responsible for. Who would you like to dump them on so you can take a two week break?

I only gave birth to one. We adopted a second. And I'm not pathetic - I'm smart. Would you think more highly if I were a miserable and awful stay at home mom who screamed at her kids all the time and ignored them when not screaming?

I am a SAHM of 3 and see absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a break. Husband and I went away once a year during the early chaos years, just the two of us (usually 4-5 days). But if OP wants a weekend in a hotel by herself, more power to her (just make sure your husband gets the same option, OP - fair is fair).

It's good for kids to learn that other adults (dad, grandma, a special aunt) are capable of taking care of them and care for them and can be trusted.

FYI husband and I feel no need to travel without our kids now (youngest is in elementary). We can go places with kids clubs and our kids are more fun to travel with now anyway. But I absolutely remember how hard the baby/toddler ages are and how much those vacations meant for my sanity.

Anonymous wrote:This is why I have a full time job. We don't need the money. I need the sanity. I'm not at ALL cut out for full time parenting.

You are pathetic. Don’t procreate further if you are not cut out for parenting. And op- really? You had THREE offspring that you are responsible for. Who would you like to dump them on so you can take a two week break?

This is why I have a full time job. We don't need the money. I need the sanity. I'm not at ALL cut out for full time parenting.