Are you worry about the kids friendships or the adult friendships?
Give them some space. They are going through alot. Her world is upside down, regardless of the reason. It's no longer a union. It's hard for them to face a happy bunch of friends who don't seem to have problems.
Just check on her once a while. If she ignores you, let her be. Somebody in your group should check on her at least once a week. Just say you are there for her (only if you mean it) if she needs to talk. But talking may be too much for her because the soon to be ex is talking to your DH.

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Anonymous wrote:Is your DH going to be a character witness against her? If so, stay far, far away!

If you want to support her, then inviting for a drop off playdate is totally fine. If she doesn't respond, just give her space.

My guess is the dh is going to be character witness for the DH.

Regardless she’s probably feeling (wrongly) betrayed.

You can reach out with offers of support, but I would try to scale back offers of get togethers/play dates. She’s probably feeling lack of trust all around. The kids’ friendship probably won’t survive outside of school after the divorce unfortunately. I’d just let it fade.

She doesn't want a friendship anymore if she is not responding. Back off and just maintain the kids through Dad.

The kids are at different elementary schools so they don’t see each other at school. We have many mutual kid friends and family in common. I don’t know if anyone knows. I have been staying out of it.

The dad calls and texts DH often. The mom and I barely text. Some mutual friends have tried to get together and she has also been silent so I don’t think she is distancing herself from just me. We recently had a party with a lot of mutual friends and they declined. They were the only ones who didn’t come.