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Anonymous wrote:Agree with hotel and lingerie. Hopefully fun for both!

Mid-dinner, excuse yourself to the restroom. When you come back to the table, put your panties in his pocket.

OMG, This one is pretty spicy! I love it that much, that probably I won’t wait until his birthday. This weekend we want to go to try some Indian food. So...

Thank you!!!

Anonymous wrote:Hmm, one guy I dated had a birthday about 3 months in. I wanted to do something special but opted for low key since it was still early days. He dumped me like 2 weeks later, so YEAH.

My advice is keep it low key. Take him to dinner or get tickets somewhere or just ask him. Do not do something over the top that YOU would like.

Oh no! But yes, that can happen. But you know what? I don’t overthink the future that much. If it works, it works. It doesn’t, it doesn’t. I enjoy what I have now. I definitely want (I think) to keep it very low key, yet nice and spicy.
From your suggestions, I probably will go with dinner at his favorite restaurant, and finish “the party” at home

Anonymous wrote:Dont do the redskins. Caps or Wizards are a much better option.

Pick something concert, favorite restaurant, whatever and if you want to wear something nice under, that would be a big plus. Unless your living situations make a fun night impossible of you have a free room at a hotel, I'd spend the night at whichever place offers more privacy.
Maybe some oils and a massage or offer him to pick a fantasy and give it a whirl.

Woohoo! I like the massage thing! I live in an apartment by myself

Yeah, I appreciate the sports thing recommendations. However, We have no clue about American football, Hokey, beisbol or basketball.

Anonymous wrote:Agree with hotel and lingerie. Hopefully fun for both!

Mid-dinner, excuse yourself to the restroom. When you come back to the table, put your panties in his pocket.

Anonymous wrote:I think it depends on what simple is to you.

Simple to me would be going away for the weekend. Miami, NOLA, NYC, Puerto Rico, etc.

Four months you should have a general idea about how serious it is. Plus by that point, I would want to know if a partner is a good travel companion by then, but benchmark in my book.

Op here,
I am with you. How simple is simple? How soon is too soon? It depends on who you ask. We are both getaways/travel lovers. So I thought a night away could be a good idea without going over the top.

Actually, I had a solo trip planned. Which was going to be two weeks after I met him.
One day he texted me and said, “Hey, what are you going to do X weekend? I’d like to invite you to this.”
I said I’m going away for 4 days to...
He: That’s cool! I’d would like to come. I have been very stressed with my job lately. I feel like a need a break. Can I join you?
Me: Oh yes, sure!

Yes, we went on a trip together two weeks after we met. Most people would have said: Two weeks is too early to go on a trip with somebody that you just met. Maybe they are right. But we felt like it, So we did it. And we had a B-L-A-S-T
I guess sometimes it’s not just about time. It’s also about connection and chemistry. How many people you see that have been together for years, and are the most boring thing that you will ever see.

Dont do the redskins. Caps or Wizards are a much better option.

Pick something concert, favorite restaurant, whatever and if you want to wear something nice under, that would be a big plus. Unless your living situations make a fun night impossible of you have a free room at a hotel, I'd spend the night at whichever place offers more privacy.
Maybe some oils and a massage or offer him to pick a fantasy and give it a whirl.

Hmm, one guy I dated had a birthday about 3 months in. I wanted to do something special but opted for low key since it was still early days. He dumped me like 2 weeks later, so YEAH.

My advice is keep it low key. Take him to dinner or get tickets somewhere or just ask him. Do not do something over the top that YOU would like.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do a DC dinner cruise. Sounds better than it is.

Hotel could be good but I’m curious - why are you thinking a night away? Kids and you want privacy? You live super far from Alexandria so it’s a cool night away? If you don’t have a specific reason - it sounds to me like something a girl would like more than a guy (fantasy suite from The Bachelor?).

I tried to do that stuff when I was in my early 20s with my husband (then boyfriend) and he appreciated the effort and found it sweet - but honestly, he really would have been just as happy without it. It’s not wrong to do, but recognize that you are probably doing it more for you than it being the thing he really wants that will make a difference in how special his birthday feels. If you have lingerie - he will be happy regardless of the hotel, restaurant, etc.

Op here,
Thanks, I agree. The hotel idea, it's because we like to go away a lot.
He is divorced with no kids. I haven't been married, and no kids either

I think it depends on what simple is to you.

Simple to me would be going away for the weekend. Miami, NOLA, NYC, Puerto Rico, etc.

Four months you should have a general idea about how serious it is. Plus by that point I would want to know if partner is a good travel companion by then, but benchmark in my book.

I agree with the PPs that the hotel and champagne thing is probably something you'd like more than him. Tickets to an event he'd like (sports, music, theater, etc.) would be better. You should, by now, have an idea of what he'd like. You can still do the lingerie thing at home.

At about the same point in our relationship, I did the 'On the Trail of Lincoln's Assassins'' for now DH who's a big history buff. We started at Ford's Theater and ended in Port Royal. It's been 20+ years and he still talks about it. We've done parts of it with our kids (now teenagers).