We've only had one or two friends at a time sleep over. Kids are 7-8. Normal bedtime is 8 pm, but for sleepovers, we generally allow lights on until about 9 pm. Then they talk for another hour or so.

My friend growing up had big birthday sleepovers, like about 20 girls all in sleeping bags in their living room/family room. We had lights out around 11 pm, and her mom would stick around for about a half hour in the room. A few of us would sneak up until about 2:30 pm, which felt daring enough. Never all night!

My 10 y.o son often has sleepovers with his two best friends (both girls). When it's at my house I like to keep bedtimes to between 11 pm and midnight. The girls are usually over by about 5 pm the three of them will eat dinner and play together outside till it starts to get dark. Then change into their PJs, hang out and have in the den until bedtime.

Last week was his birthday though and we let them stay up a later as a treat. They spent the whole night playing just dance, wrestling each other and telling scary stories (like they do at a regular sleepover) until they all fell asleep in the den at about 2 am.

Don't be a wet blanket. This is the age when social structure and popularity begins. No kid wants to be left out because their Mommy wants bed time enforcement.

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I have a 7yo who has had sleepovers but not parties. Normally lights go out at 830. I do the same for sleepovers but let then chat til 9 or 930. After that i enforce quiet time. Your posts make me dread having sleepovers 3 years from now.

My daughters first party sleepover had kids up until 3:30. I was pretty shocked. It’s almost impossible to control. They were in pjs and sleeping bags by 11. There was one kid who kept everyone else up.

We dud a smaller sleepover last month with 6 girls all together and I had learned my lesson. Lights out at 10::0 and I sat on the couch until everyone was asleep.

OP, I guarantee you the parents are more annoyed than you are. Maybe you should host and show everyone how easy it is.

Anonymous wrote:Tweens and up, there isn't much "sleeping". It's go-go-go until you've got nothing, whether that's midnight, 2am, or 6pm the next morning. Of course, this was when I was a kid and the only thing I had to do on Saturdays was nothing except recuperate from the Friday sleepover.

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Tweens and up, there isn't much "sleeping". It's go-go-go until you've got nothing, whether that's midnight, 2am, or 6pm the next morning. Of course, this was when I was a kid and the only thing I had to do on Saturdays was nothing except recuperate from the Friday sleepover.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe my DD was at the same party last night? It was about 15 girls. I figured they would not sleep with that many. It’s fine and she’s fell asleep for the night at around 6. For a normal sleepover with one friend they go to bed around midnight. This is the first party she’s been to with so many. We did the same as kids and stayed up all night. She had a great time.

15?. For a sleepover???

I know! They had so much fun. I would never have something like this at our house. The birthday child must have very brave parents.

I’ve hosted lots of sleepover parties and have seen many results. By 11, we start to strongly encourage quiet time. Some kids are more responsive than others. There is one kid that was determined to stay up really late. He was never invited again. With the right kids, it’s fine.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe my DD was at the same party last night? It was about 15 girls. I figured they would not sleep with that many. It’s fine and she’s fell asleep for the night at around 6. For a normal sleepover with one friend they go to bed around midnight. This is the first party she’s been to with so many. We did the same as kids and stayed up all night. She had a great time.

15?. For a sleepover???

Maybe my DD was at the same party last night? It was about 15 girls. I figured they would not sleep with that many. It’s fine and she’s fell asleep for the night at around 6. For a normal sleepover with one friend they go to bed around midnight. This is the first party she’s been to with so many. We did the same as kids and stayed up all night. She had a great time.

Very few 10 year olds would be able to pull an all nighter. They are going to get sleepy at some point and fall asleep. There is no way they all stayed up all night.

I assume no sleep at a sleepover and only allow it if the next day is going to be a lazy home day.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to talk to the parents about this and what normal bedtime is for you child. Most kids that age go to bed between 8 and 11. I would be ok at 11:30, possibly midnight but not all night.

I don't think the is necessary because I won't be sending my daughter back for another sleepover. I was just shocked. There were a lot of girls there (over 10) so I can't be the only one who was taken aback. At least they had fun! Hope they can chew on that for a while, because never again.

So, what time was bedtime? Are we talking up to the crack of dawn or like midnight?

I said it in the original post. They DIDN'T go to bed AT ALL.

Do you really think 10 yr olds literally were awake for 24+ straight hours? Who told you this? If it was the kids, then it probably "FELT" like they stayed up all night. If it was the parents, it was just a way to say "they stayed up really late"..

You are taking this literally. Also, unclench.