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Anonymous wrote:9 times out of 10 doesn't matter what people go on there "looking for" if they meet someone compelling and there's chemistry and a connection...

"Yeah, I met my wife on a friends with benefits app but we just clicked and we've been together 28 years now."

It happens.

Real what "friends with benefits app" was that in 1991?

It was an AOL chatroom. lol

Anonymous wrote:9 times out of 10 doesn't matter what people go on there "looking for" if they meet someone compelling and there's chemistry and a connection...

"Yeah, I met my wife on a friends with benefits app but we just clicked and we've been together 28 years now."

It happens.

Real what "friends with benefits app" was that in 1991?

9 times out of 10 doesn't matter what people go on there "looking for" if they meet someone compelling and there's chemistry and a connection...

"Yeah, I met my wife on a friends with benefits app but we just clicked and we've been together 28 years now."

It happens.

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Anonymous wrote:Disagree. I've been divorced for about 4 years and have found my biggest problem is that no one wants to just date without a purpose. That is, I'm a single mom and would love to find a single dad who is down for a relationship where we spend our free time together but have no intention of combining our lives whole our kids are still at home. Exclusive, companionship, etc. But no need for marriage. Most men seem to either want just a ONS or they want to get married tomorrow. I'm 42. Btw.

I'm a divorced dad and that's exactly what I'm after. We're out there, keep trying!

I'm early 50's, widowed with no kids and completely agree with the PP. I have dated several ladies with kids and fully understand the commitments required and I'm not looking to get married. There is something to be said to just going out for a nice dinner over a glass of wine or two and going home, no pressure. The "Art of Conversation" is not lost. BL - We're here...

+1

Same, same as we are here. I'm early 50's, sans kids and not looking to combine households. Further, I also enjoy a nice dinner w/ no pressure. Being from the South and an extrovert (ENTJ), I also enjoy just talking and getting to know each other.

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Anonymous wrote:Disagree. I've been divorced for about 4 years and have found my biggest problem is that no one wants to just date without a purpose. That is, I'm a single mom and would love to find a single dad who is down for a relationship where we spend our free time together but have no intention of combining our lives whole our kids are still at home. Exclusive, companionship, etc. But no need for marriage. Most men seem to either want just a ONS or they want to get married tomorrow. I'm 42. Btw.

I'm a divorced dad and that's exactly what I'm after. We're out there, keep trying!

I'm early 50's, widowed with no kids and completely agree with the PP. I have dated several ladies with kids and fully understand the commitments required and I'm not looking to get married. There is something to be said to just going out for a nice dinner over a glass of wine or two and going home, no pressure. The "Art of Conversation" is not lost. BL - We're here...

ME! So hard to find men who want a serious monogamous relationship.

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It’s kind of making me hate men and dating

Because men aren't allowed to want what they want, only what you want.

Yeah, like mistresses and side chicks. Go men!

If you’re associating only with men who can afford mistresses, you’re trying to be a gold digger. Stop doing that.

I’m associating with men in my professional circles and income bracket. But thanks for playing.

So other wait staff then? Set your sights higher!

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Anonymous wrote:Of course some of are ... how do you think there are so many marriages coming out of online dating? You just have to be patient and know how to weed people out.

What are your tips for weeding people out?

People who haven't put much thought in to their profile, i.e. I like to laugh and travel. Look for profiles that have some actual personality, it means they are more serious about the whole thing. Also, if someone messages you, make sure that it's clear they read your profile, vs a generic message like, "What's up?"

My DH and I met online and while he is not he most talkative of people in general his messages made it clear that he read my profile and his profile had some personality. Don't get me wrong, I went on plenty of not great dates, but that's just the nature of online dating.

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Anonymous wrote:

It’s kind of making me hate men and dating

Because men aren't allowed to want what they want, only what you want.

Yeah, like mistresses and side chicks. Go men!

If you’re associating only with men who can afford mistresses, you’re trying to be a gold digger. Stop doing that.

I’m associating with men in my professional circles and income bracket. But thanks for playing.

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve no issues with online dating and have primarily met women looking for relationships since I am up front that it is what I am seeking.

-45yo divorced man

Woman here. Same - I was very upfront and am now in an LTR. But women who want an LTR and don’t want to wind up casually sleeping with a lot of guys while looking to find an LTR need to be very careful. Lots of guys on apps are looking to casually date and sleep around. Wait to have sex with a guy and have a talk about goals and exclusivity before sex.

Currently in a relationship like this with no intention of getting married or merging households. Not sure how sustainable it will be long term.

Another here, except we may combine households in a year or so, but no one's pushing it yet. He has no kids so it's a bit simpler.

There are many people using dating apps who want to be in a relationship, so you need to fine tune your filter to identify them. But also remember that even people who want to be in a relationship may not be prepared for the effort required to sustain a relationship. It's the same gamble as any other method of meeting people. You just have to do your due diligence and hope for the best.

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Anonymous wrote:

It’s kind of making me hate men and dating

Because men aren't allowed to want what they want, only what you want.

Yeah, like mistresses and side chicks. Go men!

If you’re associating only with men who can afford mistresses, you’re trying to be a gold digger. Stop doing that.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve no issues with online dating and have primarily met women looking for relationships since I am up front that it is what I am seeking.

-45yo divorced man

Woman here. Same - I was very upfront and am now in an LTR. But women who want an LTR and don’t want to wind up casually sleeping with a lot of guys while looking to find an LTR need to be very careful. Lots of guys on apps are looking to casually date and sleep around. Wait to have sex with a guy and have a talk about goals and exclusivity before sex.

Currently in a relationship like this with no intention of getting married or merging households. Not sure how sustainable it will be long term.

Its a fwb.