I think it is easier on multiple levels for wealthy, famous or highly statusesd people to find a partner. t is also easier for them to leave as well as they also are not accustomed (sometimes)to bearing hardship and they can use money to short circuit pain. My husband worked with a woman who later had two children with a well known actor. The relationship ended, he maintains two houses for her and kids he now has another partner and more kids. (After partners in between).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not even a refusal to pay- it’s more that they actually can’t afford it. Then I’m faced the dilemma of paying for it or else not doing the things I want to do and can afford. That’s the pickle, as I have it, as a woman.

Of course, wealthy men have this pickle too. You'd rather be alone than share your resources. Funny, as women are supposed to be the more social / empathetic gender.

Anyways, your problems are easily solvable, so if you don't then that's on you.

No. But dating is a process and I don’t want to squander my resources on people who are temporary placeholders in my life. That’s one of the reasons I’ll always have money.

Funny that you’d cast me as lacking empathy. If I showered expensive trips on men you’d say I was insecure or foolish. That’s the pickle women face.

Again, I completely agree with you. I am as generous as they come; however, there are limits to my generosity. One-sided aspects in any relationship are always a source of strain be it: sex, housecleaning, finances, etc. Further, there is something to be said for reciprocity (in any form). The same lady I took to Thailand resented the fact that I have a housekeeper. She always held it against me that I was wasting my money. To me, it wasn't a waste of money as the housekeeper provides value in that she does things around the house that I do not care to do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not even a refusal to pay- it’s more that they actually can’t afford it. Then I’m faced the dilemma of paying for it or else not doing the things I want to do and can afford. That’s the pickle, as I have it, as a woman.

Of course, wealthy men have this pickle too. You'd rather be alone than share your resources. Funny, as women are supposed to be the more social / empathetic gender.

Anyways, your problems are easily solvable, so if you don't then that's on you.

No. But dating is a process and I don’t want to squander my resources on people who are temporary placeholders in my life. That’s one of the reasons I’ll always have money.

Funny that you’d cast me as lacking empathy. If I showered expensive trips on men you’d say I was insecure or foolish. That’s the pickle women face.

Eh, maybe. A friend is extremely wealthy, like Fortune 500 heiress on one side and distant European royalty on the other side. She dated very little as she definitely was warned about status-seekers and golddiggers by her family. She married late (like 40) to someone of almost the exact same money and status lineage. And they don’t have a power couple/dynasty-uniting dynamic ... they had more of a relief early on that they can trust that neither was using the other. They live a very quiet and under the radar existence.

Anonymous wrote:It’s not even a refusal to pay- it’s more that they actually can’t afford it. Then I’m faced the dilemma of paying for it or else not doing the things I want to do and can afford. That’s the pickle, as I have it, as a woman.

Of course, wealthy men have this pickle too. You'd rather be alone than share your resources. Funny, as women are supposed to be the more social / empathetic gender.

Anyways, your problems are easily solvable, so if you don't then that's on you.

There's a reason celebrities tend to date other celebrities.

It’s easy but they’re money hungry scoundrels...

Lonely_Sojourner wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not even a refusal to pay- it’s more that they actually can’t afford it. Then I’m faced the dilemma of paying for it or else not doing the things I want to do and can afford. That’s the pickle, as I have it, as a woman.

I can totally relate... I took a two-week trip to Thailand last year and the lady I was dating at the time had limited resources, so I made her a deal as she was a blast to be with. The deal: she pay her own airfare (~$750) and I would pay for everything else (food, booze, entertainment, etc). Further, I stated that I'd take payments as this was 2-3 months away. We broke up three months after returning and I never got reimbursed. I never brought it up...

I think the payments did you in

Anonymous wrote:It’s not even a refusal to pay- it’s more that they actually can’t afford it. Then I’m faced the dilemma of paying for it or else not doing the things I want to do and can afford. That’s the pickle, as I have it, as a woman.

I can totally relate... I took a two-week trip to Thailand last year and the lady I was dating at the time had limited resources, so I made her a deal as she was a blast to be with. The deal: she pay her own airfare (~$750) and I would pay for everything else (food, booze, entertainment, etc). Further, I stated that I'd take payments as this was 2-3 months away. We broke up three months after returning and I never got reimbursed. I never brought it up...

It’s not even a refusal to pay- it’s more that they actually can’t afford it. Then I’m faced the dilemma of paying for it or else not doing the things I want to do and can afford. That’s the pickle, as I have it, as a woman.