We've always done the want/wear/need/read thing, but if I were in your position I'd tell her that A. She's not getting any more physically large gifts, and B. she's only getting four gifts.

But keep in mind, you should have an answer ready if she says "What if I give away [older physically large thing]? Then can I have it?"

OP, my dd loves the play sets too and we have a tiny home. She does believe in Santa and one year really wanted to have the wellie wishers play house. I told her that we *could* put it on her wish list, but that if she got it, there wouldn't be room for that plus her other dollhouse, so did she want to ask for the new playhouse and get rid of her old dollhouse if santa brought the wellie wisher house, or would she rather keep her dollhouse.

She understood that limitation just fine, so we donated her dollhouse and she got the new playhouse as a gift.

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Anonymous wrote:How does she know about this stuff? How old is your DD?

I guess mine is still pretty young, but she doesn't even know these things exist yet...she's in K.

She’s 8. I’m not really sure. Girl talk at school and play dates? Gifts she sees at birthday parties?

I wondered the same, OP. Our 8yo was only recently introduced to LOL dolls by a friend who gave her a present at her bday party (even though we said no gifts please, although that's another thread, lol). However, she doesn't know about any other LOL toys. She's really never even had a specific ask for Christmas--she doesn't get exposed to a lot of product marketing.

Curious, does your kid watch a lot of TV, with commercials? Ours gets limited screens, and only Netflix on the weekends with no commercials--so that may explain how your kid is getting wind of so many toys.

If I were in your shoes and didn't want to limit TV consumption, I might just set specific limits with the price of large presents.

I cant roll my eyes hard enough. Does your kid have, you know, FRIENDS?

PP here, I'm not sure what's so eye-roll worthy. We know other families that also limit screens, and these types of toys don't seem to be that popular at our kid's school.

Judging other parents because your kid isn't curious, and doesn't know a diverse range of people is bizarre. (See what I did there? You can judge any parent. The fact that your child asked for something different doesn't make her superior).

PP here. Please reread my post and tell me where I judged anyone. I simply asked a question, which is the same other PPs have asked--where is OP's kid getting the idea for such big presents? Nowhere did I say that my way was superior.

LOL, learn to say no, genius. Literally no one to blame but yourself.

If that's what she wants, and you have no problem spending that much money on one toy, tell her that something else will have to go to make room for the new one.

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Anonymous wrote:How does she know about this stuff? How old is your DD?

I guess mine is still pretty young, but she doesn't even know these things exist yet...she's in K.

She’s 8. I’m not really sure. Girl talk at school and play dates? Gifts she sees at birthday parties?

I wondered the same, OP. Our 8yo was only recently introduced to LOL dolls by a friend who gave her a present at her bday party (even though we said no gifts please, although that's another thread, lol). However, she doesn't know about any other LOL toys. She's really never even had a specific ask for Christmas--she doesn't get exposed to a lot of product marketing.

Curious, does your kid watch a lot of TV, with commercials? Ours gets limited screens, and only Netflix on the weekends with no commercials--so that may explain how your kid is getting wind of so many toys.

If I were in your shoes and didn't want to limit TV consumption, I might just set specific limits with the price of large presents.

I cant roll my eyes hard enough. Does your kid have, you know, FRIENDS?

PP here, I'm not sure what's so eye-roll worthy. We know other families that also limit screens, and these types of toys don't seem to be that popular at our kid's school.

Judging other parents because your kid isn't curious, and doesn't know a diverse range of people is bizarre. (See what I did there? You can judge any parent. The fact that your child asked for something different doesn't make her superior).

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Anonymous wrote:I’ve had it with the HUGE Christmas presents. Last year it was the Our Generation schoolroom, the year before that, the camper and Jeep, the Barbie dream house. This year, all she wants is the LOL ski resort. It’s $250! Enough is enough. While our DD isn’t spoiled—we don’t do gifts outside of holidays—she loves big ticket items that are expensive and take up a lot of space. She still plays with the aforementioned HUGE play sets. Even if she was to downsize, I am not spending $250 on a dollhouse. She doesn’t believe in Santa. Do I warn her ahead of time that she won’t be getting this toy? Have her make an alternate list? Do we just move to the “want/wear/read/need” method of gift giving without warning?

If it's the only thing she wants, then it's still part of the want/wear/read/need list.

Can you not afford it or you don't like the way it looks? If you cannot afford it, then warn her ahead of time. If you can afford it, let her have it. It's just a short period of time, and she still plays with the other stuff.

We can afford it but it seems like a total waste of $250! She’s 8 so how much is she really going to get out of this toy. Not only that, it’s huge and we have no good place to put it amongst all of her other playsets.

Donate one or more of the other play sets.

Solves your space problem.

If you can afford, cut out the other cheap knick-knack gifts and go quality/enjoyment over quantity of stuff.

If she plays with it on the weekends for a year that's cost you under $5 per weekend. Seems reasonable, for someone who can afford a $250 outlay.

Anonymous wrote:My 6 year old wants this as well but we’re getting it. And I don’t understand how other posters kids don’t see toys. My kids saw this at Target , first my 9 year old and 6 year old said they both wanted it as a joint gift but now 9 year old doesn’t want it but 6 year old still does. She’s getting rid of a few things to make room, though, that they don’t play with much. I’d probably get it for her but we always do one big gift , and some smaller ones.
While it does seem like a waste of money, most toys seem this way to me anyway,if she’s playing with it , I’d be happy she’s using her imagination and playing with toys and not asking for an iPhone which is what my 9 year old wants( and is not getting).
If you do not want to get it then yes , I’d let her know now so she can pick something else she will enjoy.

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My 9 year old twins both want an iPad or a phone, neither of which they're getting. I miss the days when the "big" present on the list was a toy and not just expensive. If you don't think you have space for it, tell her that or tell her she would need to get rid of something else to make room.

(The Our Generation school room is awesome, by the way, and still used in my house whenever the 9 year olds and 11 year old venture down to play dolls in the basement, which isn't very often anymore, but just enough that it was worth every penny to buy and every inch of square feet that it still takes up. )

I asked for a TV every year for Christmas until I was 16. I never got one but at some point in time it back traditional to ask. (shrugs)

DS, 7, makes a list. He has yet to ask for anything that is stupidly priced so we have not run into that issue, yet. I am giving it time.

My 6 year old wants this as well but we’re getting it. And I don’t understand how other posters kids don’t see toys. My kids saw this at Target , first my 9 year old and 6 year old said they both wanted it as a joint gift but now 9 year old doesn’t want it but 6 year old still does. She’s getting rid of a few things to make room, though, that they don’t play with much. I’d probably get it for her but we always do one big gift , and some smaller ones.
While it does seem like a waste of money, most toys seem this way to me anyway,if she’s playing with it , I’d be happy she’s using her imagination and playing with toys and not asking for an iPhone which is what my 9 year old wants( and is not getting).
If you do not want to get it then yes , I’d let her know now so she can pick something else she will enjoy.

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Anonymous wrote:How does she know about this stuff? How old is your DD?

I guess mine is still pretty young, but she doesn't even know these things exist yet...she's in K.

She’s 8. I’m not really sure. Girl talk at school and play dates? Gifts she sees at birthday parties?

I wondered the same, OP. Our 8yo was only recently introduced to LOL dolls by a friend who gave her a present at her bday party (even though we said no gifts please, although that's another thread, lol). However, she doesn't know about any other LOL toys. She's really never even had a specific ask for Christmas--she doesn't get exposed to a lot of product marketing.

Curious, does your kid watch a lot of TV, with commercials? Ours gets limited screens, and only Netflix on the weekends with no commercials--so that may explain how your kid is getting wind of so many toys.

If I were in your shoes and didn't want to limit TV consumption, I might just set specific limits with the price of large presents.

I cant roll my eyes hard enough. Does your kid have, you know, FRIENDS?

PP here, I'm not sure what's so eye-roll worthy. We know other families that also limit screens, and these types of toys don't seem to be that popular at our kid's school.

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Anonymous wrote:How does she know about this stuff? How old is your DD?

I guess mine is still pretty young, but she doesn't even know these things exist yet...she's in K.

She’s 8. I’m not really sure. Girl talk at school and play dates? Gifts she sees at birthday parties?

I wondered the same, OP. Our 8yo was only recently introduced to LOL dolls by a friend who gave her a present at her bday party (even though we said no gifts please, although that's another thread, lol). However, she doesn't know about any other LOL toys. She's really never even had a specific ask for Christmas--she doesn't get exposed to a lot of product marketing.

Curious, does your kid watch a lot of TV, with commercials? Ours gets limited screens, and only Netflix on the weekends with no commercials--so that may explain how your kid is getting wind of so many toys.

If I were in your shoes and didn't want to limit TV consumption, I might just set specific limits with the price of large presents.

PP again. One other idea is going for an experience instead of a toy. Is there a staycation idea/itinerary she'd like? Trip to an amusement park in the spring? Maybe an experience gift for something she's excited about would be a nice alternative, and she can have smaller toys/books for Christmas.

I tell my kids they can ask for whatever they want, but they may not get it. They understand that some things are too expensive & that it’s good to ask for multiple things, knowing you won’t likely get all of it. Thankfully they’ve never asked (so far) for anything over $50-$100. But once my kid wanted a “Harry Potter trunk.” It wasn’t super expensive but of course is physically large. He got it.
At least one of mine still believes in Santa (unsure about the other). If yours doesn’t, this should be an even easier conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:How does she know about this stuff? How old is your DD?

I guess mine is still pretty young, but she doesn't even know these things exist yet...she's in K.

She’s 8. I’m not really sure. Girl talk at school and play dates? Gifts she sees at birthday parties?

I wondered the same, OP. Our 8yo was only recently introduced to LOL dolls by a friend who gave her a present at her bday party (even though we said no gifts please, although that's another thread, lol). However, she doesn't know about any other LOL toys. She's really never even had a specific ask for Christmas--she doesn't get exposed to a lot of product marketing.

Curious, does your kid watch a lot of TV, with commercials? Ours gets limited screens, and only Netflix on the weekends with no commercials--so that may explain how your kid is getting wind of so many toys.

If I were in your shoes and didn't want to limit TV consumption, I might just set specific limits with the price of large presents.

I cant roll my eyes hard enough. Does your kid have, you know, FRIENDS?

There's nothing wrong with vetoing a big present this year but I think its a little lame to have done the big present thing and to change course when your kid is 8 and it is most exciting.

I would try to find an alternative big present.