Anonymous
10/29/2019 14:48
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No way. I plan to be living the good life long before 60.
I guess it depends on what you consider the “good life?” If it’s a quiet house with no kids/freedom to travel, why have them at all and suffer through those 18+ years?
I want both. Raising my kids is not suffering, but I also don't want to reset the clock at 42. I hope to be a grandma at 60. Not attending freshman orientation.
DP. You didn't enjoy freshman orientation? We loved attending for our older kids (when we were 48 and this year, at 50) and look forward to the next one, when we'll be 58. I think it depends how much you enjoy having kids at home, and how financially stable you are. We are deeply thankful that we will have 8 more years with our third kid. I would not have been happy to be an empty nester at 50, even with the distraction of full time work.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 14:44
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No way. I plan to be living the good life long before 60.
you do you
I hate this response. OP ASKED. I answered.
OP asked if it is crazy -- she didn't ask about your life.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 14:40
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No way. I plan to be living the good life long before 60.
I guess it depends on what you consider the “good life?” If it’s a quiet house with no kids/freedom to travel, why have them at all and suffer through those 18+ years?
I want both. Raising my kids is not suffering, but I also don't want to reset the clock at 42. I hope to be a grandma at 60. Not attending freshman orientation.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 14:33
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
Anonymous wrote:No way. I plan to be living the good life long before 60.
I guess it depends on what you consider the “good life?” If it’s a quiet house with no kids/freedom to travel, why have them at all and suffer through those 18+ years?
Anonymous
10/29/2019 13:49
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
I had my first naturally at nearly 42 I think recovery maybe is a little longer. But it was the best decision we ever made.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 13:38
Subject: Re:Crazy to have another kid at 42?
I had my first naturally (no fertility treatments) at 41. I adopted my second at 49. No regrets at all, and it keeps me young.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 13:32
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
Any one can parent a baby in their forties. It's a lot harder to teach them to drive when you are 56! I had my second child at 40. No regrets....just really tired and can't retire for another year!
If you want another child -- go for it.
If you want another child -- go for it.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 13:28
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
While I can't speak to the 42 part, I can speak to the 3 kids part. I just had my third six months ago at 33 and both of us work outside of the home. Every day is a shit show and I am not sure I see it getting easier because elementary school just adds even more activities etc. I thrive when things are crazy, but if you don't I would really think through whether three is right for you!
Anonymous
10/29/2019 13:23
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
Anonymous wrote:Anyone wohms done this with a happy result? We have a 3 and 5 year old but would really like another. I have frozen eggs from a decade ago so could probably get pregnant.
If you had only one I would say go for it but, you have two and soon you will be able to do more things with your kids. Don't you see a life where you are not raising kids? Traveling at 60 is much easier than 80. Be happy with what you have! Just my two cents.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 13:14
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
Had my 2nd at 42, and it’s been fine. But my husband and I are both children of older parents, so it didn’t seem like a big deal.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 13:07
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:No way. I plan to be living the good life long before 60.
you do you
I hate this response. OP ASKED. I answered.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 13:07
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
Anonymous wrote:About to be 42 with a 6 and 3 year old and we decided last year that we're completely done, even though we thought we would have three. We have a few great examples of older parents in our extended family who managed kids to adulthood just fine, as well as friends our age who are pregnant or have newborns. To be honest, those examples didn't factor heavily in our decision-making. I'm risk-averse and prone to anxiety and I simply didn't see myself managing my mental health well through another round of conceiving, prenatal testing, and pregnancy. I also thought - well, we're doing a great job managing the two we have, what if going for a third jeopardizes that in any way? I probably would have had all these considerations regardless of my age, but my age intensified it for sure. Ultimately we're not three kid people and I have a bit of relief over finally determining that.
We decided the same (I’m 41 with 2 kids who are 8 and almost 6). I’m risk averse and couldn’t go through another round of pregnancy testing and worries etc especially at my age (though I got pregnant easily 3 times and miscarried the first). I fee so lucky to have happy healthy kids and am too afraid to rock the boat. YMMV.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 13:05
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
About to be 42 with a 6 and 3 year old and we decided last year that we're completely done, even though we thought we would have three. We have a few great examples of older parents in our extended family who managed kids to adulthood just fine, as well as friends our age who are pregnant or have newborns. To be honest, those examples didn't factor heavily in our decision-making. I'm risk-averse and prone to anxiety and I simply didn't see myself managing my mental health well through another round of conceiving, prenatal testing, and pregnancy. I also thought - well, we're doing a great job managing the two we have, what if going for a third jeopardizes that in any way? I probably would have had all these considerations regardless of my age, but my age intensified it for sure. Ultimately we're not three kid people and I have a bit of relief over finally determining that.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 12:53
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I won’t regret it now. You will later.
Because of the age thing when they go to college? I just always hear that parents never regret having another... I worry that 5 years from now when it's too late I'll be kicking myself. This sucks.
Following because I am having the same debate. I'm 41 with a 5 and 8 year old and have always wanted 3.
Anonymous
10/29/2019 12:51
Subject: Crazy to have another kid at 42?
Anonymous wrote:No way. I plan to be living the good life long before 60.
you do you