Lonely_Sojourner
10/31/2019 08:19
Subject: Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Anonymous wrote:Lonely_Sojourner wrote:Anonymous wrote:38, here is where I always see and meet men that approach me
- walking dogs
- grocery store
- Home Depot
- beer festivals
- sports bars when local games are on
- apartment buildings (single men in 30s rent)
But my most popular place for meeting single men?
A regular restaurant, but sit at the bar/counter... and do it during a weeknight. We are both off of work, too tired to cook, like the same dish, start up convo. Chances are they’re local if they’re eating at Cafe Asia at 7pm on a Tuesday.
Thank you for the detailed response. Clearly, I need to broaden my dating venues to accommodate your suggestions. Being from the South, I tend to be a bit of an old-fashion type. Further, being widowed doesn't help either...
I'm sorry for your loss. Truly though have you tried widow/er support groups? Maybe you could meet someone going through the same experience.
Thank you for your kind words and suggestions... Let me share that I 've been widowed for ~ 5 years ago and while I didn't do the support groups, I did go to counseling for at least 6 months. Further, it was well over a year before I began dating again as I just wasn't ready and didn't feel it was fair to bring someone into my life (or me into theirs) until I was ready. Being married for 17 years, starting over or "re-branding" was quite a challenge as dating has changed significantly since my wife had dated.
Anonymous
10/31/2019 08:16
Subject: Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
I think to approach someone at the gym, you first need to har a rapport with that person. If a guy approached me out do the blue, someone I had never seen before / never spoken to - I would find that weird.
If it was a guy who has struck up conversation a few times or at least says hi in passing or always uses the treadmill beside me and says a few words, and he suggest getting a drink - I would be fine with that. I might say no thanks if not interested but I wouldn't find it creepy or inappropriate.
If it was a guy who has struck up conversation a few times or at least says hi in passing or always uses the treadmill beside me and says a few words, and he suggest getting a drink - I would be fine with that. I might say no thanks if not interested but I wouldn't find it creepy or inappropriate.
Lonely_Sojourner
10/31/2019 08:10
Subject: Re:Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Anonymous wrote:Lonely_Sojourner wrote:Anonymous wrote:All my friends are married.
Try the gym. Always lots of men there.
Guy here... Would a woman not find it creepy to be approached at a gym? While I have seen many great-looking ladies at my gym, I have only admired from afar and never pursued such out of respect... Am I too old-school?
I am an attractive woman who would love to be asked out by any of a number of men whom I see (or talk to) regularly at the gym.
I congratulate you for having such a positive attitude. Being widowed at 48 and a bit old-fashioned, I'm not sure that is the best venue for me to approach a stranger. Hell, just my luck, I'd approach the wrong lady and she would either report me to management or call the cops!!
Anonymous
10/31/2019 07:14
Subject: Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Lonely_Sojourner wrote:Anonymous wrote:38, here is where I always see and meet men that approach me
- walking dogs
- grocery store
- Home Depot
- beer festivals
- sports bars when local games are on
- apartment buildings (single men in 30s rent)
But my most popular place for meeting single men?
A regular restaurant, but sit at the bar/counter... and do it during a weeknight. We are both off of work, too tired to cook, like the same dish, start up convo. Chances are they’re local if they’re eating at Cafe Asia at 7pm on a Tuesday.
Thank you for the detailed response. Clearly, I need to broaden my dating venues to accommodate your suggestions. Being from the South, I tend to be a bit of an old-fashion type. Further, being widowed doesn't help either...
I'm sorry for your loss. Truly though have you tried widow/er support groups? Maybe you could meet someone going through the same experience.
Anonymous
10/31/2019 07:07
Subject: Re:Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Lonely_Sojourner wrote:Anonymous wrote:All my friends are married.
Try the gym. Always lots of men there.
Guy here... Would a woman not find it creepy to be approached at a gym? While I have seen many great-looking ladies at my gym, I have only admired from afar and never pursued such out of respect... Am I too old-school?
I am an attractive woman who would love to be asked out by any of a number of men whom I see (or talk to) regularly at the gym.
Men can't win. Some women at the gym say it's OK to approach; others say don't approach at all.
Then take a chance and approach a woman at the gym if you are interested in her. If she is not interested in going out, or does not like to be approached at the gym, she will politely let you know (as women do). No harm, no foul. And also no risk, no reward.
Anonymous
10/31/2019 06:46
Subject: Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Anonymous wrote:I used match.com last year.
Bars, etc. -- no. I had tried to meet in person--volunteering, etc. But it is really tough because many of the activities have mostly women.
Also, my experience is that these dayssome good men can be afraid to approach women for fear that they are acting like creeps or will be accused of acting inappropriately.
Dating websites/apps have downsides, but lots of plus sides. One plus side is that you know if you meet that way, it is someone at least theoretically interested in meeting someone. Everyone is there for the same reason.
I DREADED online dating, but I ended up really finding it very helpful. I'm a woman in her 40s.
Hmmmm, as a guy I'm thinking I should volunteer for something if that's where the women are.
The gym is no good for me... my gym is all guys plus maybe three women who I know are married.
Anonymous
10/31/2019 01:37
Subject: Re:Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Anonymous wrote:Lonely_Sojourner wrote:Anonymous wrote:All my friends are married.
Try the gym. Always lots of men there.
Guy here... Would a woman not find it creepy to be approached at a gym? While I have seen many great-looking ladies at my gym, I have only admired from afar and never pursued such out of respect... Am I too old-school?
I am an attractive woman who would love to be asked out by any of a number of men whom I see (or talk to) regularly at the gym.
Men can't win. Some women at the gym say it's OK to approach; others say don't approach at all.
Anonymous
10/31/2019 00:14
Subject: Re:Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
I did online dating to years and it wasn't great.
Met my husband through friends that introduced us.
Met my husband through friends that introduced us.
Anonymous
10/30/2019 22:50
Subject: Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Everywhere.
Anonymous
10/30/2019 22:49
Subject: Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Anonymous wrote:Grocery store. If their cart is filled with frozen food, canned beans, and steaks, they are single.
Also corn. Why does single guys like corn so much?
Note: if you’re serving her corn don’t serve at second starch, (corn is not a vegetable). On second thought, just don’t serve her corn. Unless you’re grilling it.
Anonymous
10/30/2019 21:51
Subject: Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Why not online? Eharmony was a grind, but I’m still thrilled with my husband 5 years in. I met one of my bffs at the lamest mixer the first week of college, but I didn’t let that diminish our friendship either. Are you having trouble getting matches, or are you just not interested in the digital experience?
Anonymous
10/30/2019 21:26
Subject: Re:Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Lonely_Sojourner wrote:Anonymous wrote:All my friends are married.
Try the gym. Always lots of men there.
Guy here... Would a woman not find it creepy to be approached at a gym? While I have seen many great-looking ladies at my gym, I have only admired from afar and never pursued such out of respect... Am I too old-school?
I am an attractive woman who would love to be asked out by any of a number of men whom I see (or talk to) regularly at the gym.
Anonymous
10/30/2019 19:36
Subject: Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Anonymous wrote:I don’t like men approaching me at the gym. I’m there to workout.
Agree. Dont
Anonymous
10/30/2019 17:33
Subject: Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
I don’t like men approaching me at the gym. I’m there to workout.
Anonymous
10/30/2019 17:07
Subject: Best place to meet men when you're over 30?
Grocery store. If their cart is filled with frozen food, canned beans, and steaks, they are single.