Anonymous
10/25/2019 22:46
Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I judge mothers who breastfeed any child over the age of two. I breastfeed exclusively and was breastfed, so you know I am coming from a pro-nursing position. But, honestly think nursing an older child is a very specific form of sexual abuse and emotionally harmful to the child. Watching children old enough to be potty trained yell and scream at their mother to “take off your shirt” (yes, I’ve watched this happen) and the mother proceeds to nurse on demand, is painful to watch. Babies need moms and need breast milk, but if your kid can eat a sandwich, you are putting your boob in their mouth for YOU, or them.
I'm breastfeeding an almost 4 y/o, and I've never judged anyone for feeding their kids - breast milk, formula, or both.
Outside blatant neglect or child abuse, I judge laziness or not going the extra mile For example, I heard things like I hate blueberries so I never buy blueberries, even if my kids like them.
That is for your needs, not the child's at this point.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 22:23
Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:I judge mothers who breastfeed any child over the age of two. I breastfeed exclusively and was breastfed, so you know I am coming from a pro-nursing position. But, honestly think nursing an older child is a very specific form of sexual abuse and emotionally harmful to the child. Watching children old enough to be potty trained yell and scream at their mother to “take off your shirt” (yes, I’ve watched this happen) and the mother proceeds to nurse on demand, is painful to watch. Babies need moms and need breast milk, but if your kid can eat a sandwich, you are putting your boob in their mouth for YOU, or them.
You may be pro-nursing, but I think you have weird sexual interpretations of non-sexual interactions. Please re-think, because the pervert here is you.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 22:20
Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:I judge mothers who breastfeed any child over the age of two. I breastfeed exclusively and was breastfed, so you know I am coming from a pro-nursing position. But, honestly think nursing an older child is a very specific form of sexual abuse and emotionally harmful to the child. Watching children old enough to be potty trained yell and scream at their mother to “take off your shirt” (yes, I’ve watched this happen) and the mother proceeds to nurse on demand, is painful to watch. Babies need moms and need breast milk, but if your kid can eat a sandwich, you are putting your boob in their mouth for YOU, or them.
I'm breastfeeding an almost 4 y/o, and I've never judged anyone for feeding their kids - breast milk, formula, or both.
Outside blatant neglect or child abuse, I judge laziness or not going the extra mile For example, I heard things like I hate blueberries so I never buy blueberries, even if my kids like them.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 22:16
Subject: Re:Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
The only thing I truly judge with no ability to see the other side is anti-vaxxers. I feel anyone who doesn’t vaccinate without a medical reason is a complete ignoramus and it really pisses me off because their stupidity affects others.
I was always pretty strict about bed time and naps when my kids were little and I know some friends thought I was too uptight. So maybe that I’ve been judged for.
I was always pretty strict about bed time and naps when my kids were little and I know some friends thought I was too uptight. So maybe that I’ve been judged for.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 22:12
Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Im probably judged on offering unsolicited parenting advice when someone really just wants to vent.
I judge people who refuse to do any kind of sleep training yet constantly complain how tired they are.
That was me. But honestly, to me, your statement is like saying I judge people who complain about their toddler misbehaving when they aren’t willing to discipline by spanking. Those of us who won’t sleep train feel it would be cruel to do so. But we do get tired and we generally think other parents will sympathize. I also complain I’m tired after staying up late to watch baseball even though I don’t have to watch baseball. Judge away.
If you think sleep training is cruel, then you don’t know what sleep training is.
I think it is cruel and in fact negligent to deprive children of consistent, high-quality sleep.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 22:11
Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:I judge mothers who breastfeed any child over the age of two. I breastfeed exclusively and was breastfed, so you know I am coming from a pro-nursing position. But, honestly think nursing an older child is a very specific form of sexual abuse and emotionally harmful to the child. Watching children old enough to be potty trained yell and scream at their mother to “take off your shirt” (yes, I’ve watched this happen) and the mother proceeds to nurse on demand, is painful to watch. Babies need moms and need breast milk, but if your kid can eat a sandwich, you are putting your boob in their mouth for YOU, or them.
Except that you don’t get to define what sexual abuse is. It’s not really a matter of opinion.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 22:07
Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:Im probably judged on offering unsolicited parenting advice when someone really just wants to vent.
I judge people who refuse to do any kind of sleep training yet constantly complain how tired they are.
That was me. But honestly, to me, your statement is like saying I judge people who complain about their toddler misbehaving when they aren’t willing to discipline by spanking. Those of us who won’t sleep train feel it would be cruel to do so. But we do get tired and we generally think other parents will sympathize. I also complain I’m tired after staying up late to watch baseball even though I don’t have to watch baseball. Judge away.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 22:04
Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
I judge parents who allow screens constantly for their kids. Your kid can survive a 30 minute car ride without the DVD player on, I promise. And 3 year olds with their own ipads...sorry but I think you’re setting yourself for a lot of problems down the road.
I judge parents who don’t prioritize sleep for themselves and their kids.
I’m sure I am judged for many things —my house is often a mess, I bought an expensive pure-bred dog instead of rescuing, my kid has only showered twice this week (not proud of that one, it’s been a crazy week).
I judge parents who don’t prioritize sleep for themselves and their kids.
I’m sure I am judged for many things —my house is often a mess, I bought an expensive pure-bred dog instead of rescuing, my kid has only showered twice this week (not proud of that one, it’s been a crazy week).
Anonymous
10/25/2019 21:58
Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Everyone has judged me for:
keeping my infant / toddler up until 11 pm, every day
rarely washing my hands
cursing around my kid from infancy onward
teaching kid about sexual predators in explicit terms, from an early age
not making kid eat vegetables, ever. Really. Ever.
not enforcing a bedtime for kid as of late tween years.
I judge other parents in my UMC zip for hiring awful, checked-out nannies who take care of the kids for 75 hours a week, including weekends when the parents are home, not working, and just don't feel like dealing with the kids they chose to produce.
keeping my infant / toddler up until 11 pm, every day
rarely washing my hands
cursing around my kid from infancy onward
teaching kid about sexual predators in explicit terms, from an early age
not making kid eat vegetables, ever. Really. Ever.
not enforcing a bedtime for kid as of late tween years.
I judge other parents in my UMC zip for hiring awful, checked-out nannies who take care of the kids for 75 hours a week, including weekends when the parents are home, not working, and just don't feel like dealing with the kids they chose to produce.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 21:55
Subject: Re:Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
When teaching my toddler animal noises, I taught her the chicken sound and motion from Arrested Development. She does it every time now. Judge away, it's hilarious.
I judge people who put bow headbands on baby girls. Gender is a social construct and no baby wants crap on their head.
I judge people who put bow headbands on baby girls. Gender is a social construct and no baby wants crap on their head.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 21:44
Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Im probably judged on offering unsolicited parenting advice when someone really just wants to vent.
I judge people who refuse to do any kind of sleep training yet constantly complain how tired they are.
I judge people who refuse to do any kind of sleep training yet constantly complain how tired they are.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 21:28
Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:My kids love their dogs and I let them kiss the dogs on the mouth. The same dog mouths that are eating and licking all sorts of unspeakable things. But I did as a kid and it may have turned me into a dog lover, but didn't hurt me.
I judge parents who yell so much their kids get used to it. Or those who justify developmentally inappropriate punishments because they're ignorant and can't be bothered to learn.
Actually, I really just judge anti-vaxxers, people who use Amber teething necklaces, and home birthers. Ignorance is bliss until it kills your kid.
Same.
I’m sure I get judged by how strict am with my kids. I have always, always expected good behavior/manners from them, even as toddlers. I don’t allow rough housing or being loud inside the house. No shoes in the house. No food in any part of the house except kitchen and dining room, wash hands immediately before and after eating-and no, a damp wash cloth isn’t good enough. I don’t tolerate sass, whining or yelling. I’m sure people think I’m uptight, but my kids still love me
Anonymous
10/25/2019 21:16
Subject: Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
I judge mothers who breastfeed any child over the age of two. I breastfeed exclusively and was breastfed, so you know I am coming from a pro-nursing position. But, honestly think nursing an older child is a very specific form of sexual abuse and emotionally harmful to the child. Watching children old enough to be potty trained yell and scream at their mother to “take off your shirt” (yes, I’ve watched this happen) and the mother proceeds to nurse on demand, is painful to watch. Babies need moms and need breast milk, but if your kid can eat a sandwich, you are putting your boob in their mouth for YOU, or them.
Anonymous
10/25/2019 21:05
Subject: Re:Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
Anonymous wrote:I think I intervene too much on the playground. I've had multiple parents tell me just to let the kids work things out on their own.
This is the season for me to judge parents who don't keep their sick kids appropriately sequestered.
Whirrrrr
Anonymous
10/25/2019 21:04
Subject: Re:Something you do that other parents probably judge and something you judge about other parents
I think I intervene too much on the playground. I've had multiple parents tell me just to let the kids work things out on their own.
This is the season for me to judge parents who don't keep their sick kids appropriately sequestered.
This is the season for me to judge parents who don't keep their sick kids appropriately sequestered.