Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 16:46     Subject: Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

Anonymous wrote:This kid is a good friend of your child so I'm assuming your child who is the birthday chid would really like their friend to be there thus, in the interest of pleasing the kid for whom the party is being thrown you should either sit separately or leave the sibling. It is not the sibling's birthday. 10-11 year old kids should be able to sit alone at a movie. What are you worried will happen to them?


Then he should have told his mother that he wanted to attend this party and to RSVP Yes.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 16:44     Subject: Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nope, you don't have to accommodate the late RSVP person. I would email back and say sorry, the movie theater cannot accommodate an additional child in the area that I am supervising.


+1


+100

Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 16:44     Subject: Re:Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

I would tell the mom that there are no more seats around yours, but they are welcome to come if she stays and sits up front with her DD (since some may be uncomfortable with you not sitting with the group).
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 16:38     Subject: Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

Anonymous wrote:Op again, to clarify, I would only leave younger dc home if they seemed receptive to the idea. It wouldn’t be mandatory.


This is the right thing to do. Offered to take that child another time or do another special outing.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 16:36     Subject: Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

This kid is a good friend of your child so I'm assuming your child who is the birthday chid would really like their friend to be there thus, in the interest of pleasing the kid for whom the party is being thrown you should either sit separately or leave the sibling. It is not the sibling's birthday. 10-11 year old kids should be able to sit alone at a movie. What are you worried will happen to them?
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 16:14     Subject: Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

Anonymous wrote:Op again, to clarify, I would only leave younger dc home if they seemed receptive to the idea. It wouldn’t be mandatory.


Inconsiderate people end up putting you in sticky situations because you have to make these awkward decisions when you had everything spelled out clearly IN the invite. Good luck and honestly if I were you I would not leave my nine-year-old at home. other mom will have to either get her own tickets or just join you after the movies.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 16:14     Subject: Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

Anonymous wrote:Nope, you don't have to accommodate the late RSVP person. I would email back and say sorry, the movie theater cannot accommodate an additional child in the area that I am supervising.


Exactly this.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 16:06     Subject: Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

Op again, to clarify, I would only leave younger dc home if they seemed receptive to the idea. It wouldn’t be mandatory.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 16:04     Subject: Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op here, I’m not comfortable sitting too far from the group, and the show is pretty much sold out so the theatre wouldn’t be able to rearrange our seats. I’m going to see if I can convince younger sibling to stay home in exchange for a special outing another time (this might work depending on sibs mood). Otherwise I’ll just have to let them know that sorry, the show is sold out :/

Moral of the story-please PLEASE rsvp in a timely manner.


I posted above that I would say sorry. It stinks for the younger sibling to get the short end of the stick and be disinvited because the parents didn’t think to RSVP on time. How old is this younger sibling?


Younger dc is almost 9.

I like the suggestion pp gave about letting the other mom know that she’s welcome to come and sit with her dd during the movie.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 16:03     Subject: Re:Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

Anonymous wrote:OP, did you say: RSVP by 10/22 (or a specific date)? Or just "RSVP ahead of time"?


Her op said she specifically had a date so they could all sit together.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 15:57     Subject: Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

Are yous also having a pizza / cake component to the party somewhere before or after? if so, invite them to that part.

I would probably sit at the back and let the kids sit alone. They are 10-11. Abel to sit by themselves. The only issue would be if one is a trouble maker or something.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 15:56     Subject: Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I’m not comfortable sitting too far from the group, and the show is pretty much sold out so the theatre wouldn’t be able to rearrange our seats. I’m going to see if I can convince younger sibling to stay home in exchange for a special outing another time (this might work depending on sibs mood). Otherwise I’ll just have to let them know that sorry, the show is sold out :/

Moral of the story-please PLEASE rsvp in a timely manner.


I can’t believe you would do that to your younger child.

Bad.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 15:55     Subject: Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I’m not comfortable sitting too far from the group, and the show is pretty much sold out so the theatre wouldn’t be able to rearrange our seats. I’m going to see if I can convince younger sibling to stay home in exchange for a special outing another time (this might work depending on sibs mood). Otherwise I’ll just have to let them know that sorry, the show is sold out :/

Moral of the story-please PLEASE rsvp in a timely manner.


At least they RSVP. We've had parties where 10-15 extra kids who didn't rsvp showed. Bribe the sibling or take the another day or maybe the other parent who isn't going can take the child and sit in a different section.
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 15:54     Subject: Re:Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

OP, did you say: RSVP by 10/22 (or a specific date)? Or just "RSVP ahead of time"?
Anonymous
Post 10/25/2019 15:52     Subject: Re:Yet ANOTHER b-day party RSVP issue...

I'd tell the mom there are no more seats available in your row but there are some in the front row if she would like to come and sit with her kid, since you aren't comfortable sitting away from the kids or having kids sit far away... that way it's on her to decide if her kid comes or not (and maybe she'll feel the pain of the late RSVP).