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Anonymous wrote:Oh no! I am so sorry. Agree with the posters that say be there as much as you can. It is a hard place to be though and I get that. Can you touch and hold your baby’s hand? Read him books?

I hope they figure out what is going on soon so they can treat it and you can go home.

OP. He's having apnea and he's a term baby. This is something apparently almost always experienced by babies born before 35 weeks according to the NICU. I'm in a better place today. I was able to holding his hand, pacifier and sing to him yesterday. He's very alert. He definitely knows me and responds well to my voice

my friend had a full term baby with apnea etc. The baby is now 2.5 years old and very typical/no ongoing issues. I think they had to use a breathing machine (cpap like maybe?) after discharge and check on her certain times of the night, but that did not go on forever.
I'm sorry you are going through this, but so good it was discovered. They were basically told my friend that if their child hadn't been under observation (they had a bit longer road to getting the apena dx) the baby might/would probably have been a SIDS baby and this would have been the reason.

Glad you got to hold your baby, and hopeful that things work out/recover well and quickly.

We were also allowed to leave one of those stuffed animals that you wind up and play a lullaby. When I had to leave the room at the end of the day, it helped me to leave the music playing for him unit it wound down. It also helped as a night time ritual when he transitioned home -- something that was familiar to him in both places.

Anonymous wrote:OP don’t worry about breast feeding- I didn’t for all 3 of mine and they were fine... You can do this. My DS was in NICU and it was scary seeing him there but I know he was in a good place. Just take it day by day.

OP here. Thanks. The nurse said they might not even okay it in the NICU because taking medications is more complicated when a baby has medical complications already.

OP don’t worry about breast feeding- I didn’t for all 3 of mine and they were fine... You can do this. My DS was in NICU and it was scary seeing him there but I know he was in a good place. Just take it day by day.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh no! I am so sorry. Agree with the posters that say be there as much as you can. It is a hard place to be though and I get that. Can you touch and hold your baby’s hand? Read him books?

I hope they figure out what is going on soon so they can treat it and you can go home.

OP. He's having apnea and he's a term baby. This is something apparently almost always experienced by babies born before 35 weeks according to the NICU. I'm in a better place today. I was able to holding his hand, pacifier and sing to him yesterday. He's very alert. He definitely knows me and responds well to my voice

That’s wonderful!! Make sure you express a little breast milk onto a breast pad, and put it in his crib. The NICU nurses told me that helps the baby smell your scent amidst everything else. Stay encouraged, you’re doing a great job.

OP here. Breastfeeding/ pumping is something I'm struggling with right now. I'm taking anixety meds and I would need to change my medication.
I exclusively pumped with my first and I got so depressed. I have to make a decision soon because my milk is going to come within the next few days. Tomorrow I have a psychiatrist appointment. I know BM would be good for my son but I'm not sure if it will cause my anixety to get bad. I was in a dark place yesterday and even this morning. I was too scared to see my son in the NICU basically and needed to be pushed. Luckily my nurse helped make it over there.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh no! I am so sorry. Agree with the posters that say be there as much as you can. It is a hard place to be though and I get that. Can you touch and hold your baby’s hand? Read him books?

I hope they figure out what is going on soon so they can treat it and you can go home.

OP. He's having apnea and he's a term baby. This is something apparently almost always experienced by babies born before 35 weeks according to the NICU. I'm in a better place today. I was able to holding his hand, pacifier and sing to him yesterday. He's very alert. He definitely knows me and responds well to my voice

That’s wonderful!! Make sure you express a little breast milk onto a breast pad, and put it in his crib. The NICU nurses told me that helps the baby smell your scent amidst everything else. Stay encouraged, you’re doing a great job.

Anonymous wrote:Oh no! I am so sorry. Agree with the posters that say be there as much as you can. It is a hard place to be though and I get that. Can you touch and hold your baby’s hand? Read him books?

I hope they figure out what is going on soon so they can treat it and you can go home.

OP. He's having apnea and he's a term baby. This is something apparently almost always experienced by babies born before 35 weeks according to the NICU. I'm in a better place today. I was able to holding his hand, pacifier and sing to him yesterday. He's very alert. He definitely knows me and responds well to my voice

Hugs to you, OP. I also had a baby in NICU for a month. And a toddler at home, 1.5 hrs away, so I did evening + morning with one kid, then evening + morning with the other (stayed overnight with relatives every other day). Husband went MIA, not literally, but he just decided it’s too much for him. We made it through, I am now hounding that NICU baby to hurry up with the college applications. I hope things will work out for you.

Such nice responses on here! and great advice for you. I hope you are doing OK and you'll get your answers soon.