Anonymous
10/20/2019 17:43
Subject: Bar mitzvah gift-how much $ to give?
$36 for most classmates. DD went to no fewer than 20 in 7th grade. Maybe if she went to fewer we would have spend more per gift.
Anonymous
10/20/2019 17:29
Subject: Re:Bar mitzvah gift-how much $ to give?
Op here. Only my son is attending. Thanks
Anonymous
10/20/2019 11:03
Subject: Bar mitzvah gift-how much $ to give?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is a birthday party for a 13 year old. No more than $30
No, it is not merely a birthday party for a 13 yr old.
It is and to act as if someone should pay more because it is something more is crazy. Nobody is running a shul at 15! Do not feel obligated to pay for the party.
Don’t attend if this is your attitude! Rude.
Anonymous
10/20/2019 10:54
Subject: Bar mitzvah gift-how much $ to give?
The Mitzvah kids absolutely run the service at every one I've been to (between family + 3 kids, more than 50).
Anonymous
10/20/2019 08:55
Subject: Bar mitzvah gift-how much $ to give?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is a birthday party for a 13 year old. No more than $30
No, it is not merely a birthday party for a 13 yr old.
It is and to act as if someone should pay more because it is something more is crazy. Nobody is running a shul at 15! Do not feel obligated to pay for the party.
I’m guessing you aren’t Jewish. For Jewish families, a bar or bat mitzvah means that their child can now be part of a minyan which is how Jews can hold a service and be called to the Torah to have an aliyah, a special blessing over the Torah. It means a lot and for many families to see their kids move into this part of the cycle of Jewish life is why so many celebrate.
Anonymous
10/20/2019 00:30
Subject: Bar mitzvah gift-how much $ to give?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is a birthday party for a 13 year old. No more than $30
No, it is not merely a birthday party for a 13 yr old.
It is and to act as if someone should pay more because it is something more is crazy. Nobody is running a shul at 15! Do not feel obligated to pay for the party.
Anonymous
10/19/2019 22:24
Subject: Bar mitzvah gift-how much $ to give?
DS attended one solo recently and we gave $108.
Anonymous
10/19/2019 19:12
Subject: Bar mitzvah gift-how much $ to give?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It is a birthday party for a 13 year old. No more than $30
No, it is not merely a birthday party for a 13 yr old.
+1
And, I don’t even think this means you have to give a large gift. $36 or $18 or even nothing is totally fine with us. But calling one of the major Jewish religious life cycle events a kid’s birthday party is pretty offensive.
Anonymous
10/19/2019 17:39
Subject: Bar mitzvah gift-how much $ to give?
Anonymous wrote:It is a birthday party for a 13 year old. No more than $30
No, it is not merely a birthday party for a 13 yr old.