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Anonymous wrote:Thank you for the replies. I do have union protection but it doesn’t solve the problem. Once she is aware of what’s going on, it won’t be a problem. I just don’t want anyone to know the problem. I will talk to my HR department and see. I’ve already mentioned some basics to indicate a health concern that isn’t serious, so hopefully it’s enough to keep questions at bay. Notes can only be required after so many days or if she believes we are taking advantage of sick days. I’m trying to use part days so it doesn’t look as bad.

I'm the PP who suggested getting a note from your primary care physician, that way you can keep the problem confidential. If you want to keep it private, don't tell HR, either.

If you have a health concerns that isn't serious then why would you be taking so much time off? People will wonder. I agree with earlier poster, fo this over summer.

You shouldn’t agree with someone who has no idea what they are taking about.

I was able to do monitoring before work and IUIs at lunch - but for my egg retrieval and transfer, I said I was having a non-urgent surgery and that I was at the mercy of the scheduler - and that I would have a follow up a few days later. If anyone asked more I would going to say I had a mole removed from my back.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you for the replies. I do have union protection but it doesn’t solve the problem. Once she is aware of what’s going on, it won’t be a problem. I just don’t want anyone to know the problem. I will talk to my HR department and see. I’ve already mentioned some basics to indicate a health concern that isn’t serious, so hopefully it’s enough to keep questions at bay. Notes can only be required after so many days or if she believes we are taking advantage of sick days. I’m trying to use part days so it doesn’t look as bad.

I'm the PP who suggested getting a note from your primary care physician, that way you can keep the problem confidential. If you want to keep it private, don't tell HR, either.

If you have a health concerns that isn't serious then why would you be taking so much time off? People will wonder. I agree with earlier poster, fo this over summer.

Why are you posting on an infertility forum when you are clearly clueless?

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you for the replies. I do have union protection but it doesn’t solve the problem. Once she is aware of what’s going on, it won’t be a problem. I just don’t want anyone to know the problem. I will talk to my HR department and see. I’ve already mentioned some basics to indicate a health concern that isn’t serious, so hopefully it’s enough to keep questions at bay. Notes can only be required after so many days or if she believes we are taking advantage of sick days. I’m trying to use part days so it doesn’t look as bad.

I'm the PP who suggested getting a note from your primary care physician, that way you can keep the problem confidential. If you want to keep it private, don't tell HR, either.

If you have a health concerns that isn't serious then why would you be taking so much time off? People will wonder. I agree with earlier poster, fo this over summer.

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid question, but why can't you do this in the summer when you are off?
You being out all the time disrupts the kids learning. You are not in a job where this is ok.

This is probably one of the most ignorant posts I have seen on this site.

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Why is the PP even on an infertility board if she's that stupid and ignorant of infertility treatments?

I assume they saw it on recent topics and didn’t realize the forum it was posted in.

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid question, but why can't you do this in the summer when you are off?
You being out all the time disrupts the kids learning. You are not in a job where this is ok.

This is probably one of the most ignorant posts I have seen on this site.

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Why is the PP even on an infertility board if she's that stupid and ignorant of infertility treatments?

OP, I feel for you! I work in a very heavily male-dominated field and I was not at all comfortable discussing any of it with my colleagues or boss. My work does not require a note for appointments generally and I got very, very lucky that my cycles timed such that I most of my middle-of-the-day appointments fell on days where I didn’t have a lot of meetings/commitments and was able to shift my work hours without fuss.

Like a PP I was at GW, so for monitoring I made sure to get there before the office even opened to wait so that I never had to miss work for it. I am not a morning person so this made me really cranky, but it was better than the awful conversations I would otherwise have to have had.

I don’t think I have useful advice given that we have very different sorts of jobs but honestly this was an absolutely terrible part of the experience and you have all my sympathy. I hope things work out better than you fear they will.

i ended up telling my boss. he was very understanding and supportive.

Our rule is that if a certain number of people are already out, all absences require a doctor’s note. My PCP wants me to come in for an appointment to discuss but has no appointments until after my next RE appointment. I guess I just have to let it go. I’m new and have a fairly low level of trust that confidentiality will be maintained. And of course I’m offering up way ahead of time that I’ll be (hopefully!) taking a few months off. My stress and anxiety is sky high right now.

Fellow teacher here. I went to GW where monitoring is first come first serve and made sure I was always first in line. That way I got to work on time and didn't have to tell anyone. My friend who was nervous about being late would say something like "I have an early appointment and may be a few minutes late" -- although she never was.

For stuff like egg retreival, I'd say something like "I'm have an upcoming medical procedure. The doctors are still working on scheduling it and I will let you know when it is as soon as I do. I'll have a follow up a few days later (transfer)."

Just calling in sick on days like that is also an option.

I was never asked for a doctor's note, but I'm sure my PCP would have provided one if necessary.

I just got a note from my primary care doctor that I was receiving medical treatment and to please excuse any absences. My primary care doctor knew.

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid question, but why can't you do this in the summer when you are off?
You being out all the time disrupts the kids learning. You are not in a job where this is ok.

This is probably one of the most ignorant posts I have seen on this site.

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