Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most men are so weak and fearful of confrontation that they couldn't make their wives cry.
So, husbands who care are considered weak and fearful of confrontation? You like "beat the sh*t out of wife" type?
That type is vanishingly rare among DCUM readers. DCUM husbands are overwhelmingly the "walking on eggshells" type.
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Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most men are so weak and fearful of confrontation that they couldn't make their wives cry.
So, husbands who care are considered weak and fearful of confrontation? You like "beat the sh*t out of wife" type?
That type is vanishingly rare among DCUM readers. DCUM husbands are overwhelmingly the "walking on eggshells" type.
Link please?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most men are so weak and fearful of confrontation that they couldn't make their wives cry.
So, husbands who care are considered weak and fearful of confrontation? You like "beat the sh*t out of wife" type?
That type is vanishingly rare among DCUM readers. DCUM husbands are overwhelmingly the "walking on eggshells" type.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Most men are so weak and fearful of confrontation that they couldn't make their wives cry.
So, husbands who care are considered weak and fearful of confrontation? You like "beat the sh*t out of wife" type?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, he made me cry. We were both dealing with a stillbirth. I was grieving and had serious hormonal stuff on top of all that. He was dealing with it by trying to not grieve and use logic to make me feel better. There were tears, lots of tears because of the horrible logical unfeeling things he was saying.
he was trying to help you. it's a terrible thing to go thru but i wouldn't put this on HIM.
I wasn't saying it was intentional. But after the 5th time you've made your wife cry, you'd think he'd learn. It took a gigantic blow up fight for him to understand what I needed.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Yes, he made me cry. We were both dealing with a stillbirth. I was grieving and had serious hormonal stuff on top of all that. He was dealing with it by trying to not grieve and use logic to make me feel better. There were tears, lots of tears because of the horrible logical unfeeling things he was saying.
he was trying to help you. it's a terrible thing to go thru but i wouldn't put this on HIM.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When we had discussions of libido imbalance (me wanting, her not) it often resulted in tears, she isn't good enough, I should find someone else.
Crying shuts it down, not sure if that was her intention so I don't raise it anymore.
Genuine sadness and occasional tears only shuts down communication with emotionally immature people. If you understand emotions,and how to deal with your own and respect others’, you aren’t easily manipulated by them and you can still engage without shaming or shunning the person for their tears. If you get lucky you may be able to help them stop crying. People that get unnerved or frustrated at someone else’s hurt comes off as selfish. My response to anyone’s tears is to be attentive. Maybe I can’t comfort, or console, or agree - but I think the worst hung to do at that point is to shut down a conversation and isolate them with their feelings. It’s your spouse, if you can’t cry in front of them who can you cry with?
Anonymous wrote:When we had discussions of libido imbalance (me wanting, her not) it often resulted in tears, she isn't good enough, I should find someone else.
Crying shuts it down, not sure if that was her intention so I don't raise it anymore.
Anonymous wrote:Most men are so weak and fearful of confrontation that they couldn't make their wives cry.
Anonymous wrote:Yes, he made me cry. We were both dealing with a stillbirth. I was grieving and had serious hormonal stuff on top of all that. He was dealing with it by trying to not grieve and use logic to make me feel better. There were tears, lots of tears because of the horrible logical unfeeling things he was saying.