Anonymous
09/23/2019 15:07
Subject: Re:Why are parents so invested
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Families and players are not “terrorized” every week at soccer games.
Happens all the time does not mean it happens every time. I've seen it a few times my self so there you have it.
It might be you. "Terrorized" is laughably over the top. Did you call the police to walk you to the car under such extreme and threatening conditions?
Anonymous
09/23/2019 15:00
Subject: Re:Why are parents so invested
Anonymous wrote:Families and players are not “terrorized” every week at soccer games.
Happens all the time does not mean it happens every time. I've seen it a few times my self so there you have it.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:59
Subject: Why are parents so invested
The worst offender we ever had was on a swim team. THe guy was a gym teacher and his kids were genuinely talented, but he had held them back a couple of times from starting kindergarten so they were really big and really tall compared to other kids and you could tell it was all about the dad, not the kids.
He would do this thing where he would be at an awards night and they'd start saying "And the award for . . . " and he'd already be running towards the stage and pushing other people out of the way because he just KNEW they were going to call his kids' names. SO gross!!! SO over the top!
He would do this thing where he would be at an awards night and they'd start saying "And the award for . . . " and he'd already be running towards the stage and pushing other people out of the way because he just KNEW they were going to call his kids' names. SO gross!!! SO over the top!
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:53
Subject: Re:Why are parents so invested
It’s a weird confluence of parents with dreams of scholarship or otherwise-advantaged college admission dreams, UVA fantasies (not happening), general type A attitude, and the pressure to love a sport that most could otherwise care less about. Colleges will find the best players, who are almost always the fastest. It won’t be your kid.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:48
Subject: Re:Why are parents so invested
Families and players are not “terrorized” every week at soccer games.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:47
Subject: Why are parents so invested
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's youth soccer! Why do parents berate, taunt, and otherwise terrorize other teams, coaches and referees? I do not care if you are the top team in the country or a Recreation team just starting out, no parents have the right to treat other children (or adults) so poorly. Why does this happen? And more importantly, how does one stop it? I do not want my child playing in this environment, nor do I want to be exposed to it.
It is a GAME - lighten up!
Nearly a decade in and I've never seen the above behavior. I have certainly never seen any team"terrorized" by parents. Just because you see it on YouTube doesn't mean it is a regular occurrence.
Do you avoid stairs, chairs and other daily objects because of "epic fail" videos too?
Are you deaf, blind, or both? Yes it happens, i see it all the time and although it shouldn't don't pretend it doesn't happen.
It doesn’t happen all the time. You’re being overly dramatic.
Really? Families and players are “TERRORIZED” at soccer games in NOVA every week?
Stop it
It happens all the time.
-NP
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:43
Subject: Why are parents so invested
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's youth soccer! Why do parents berate, taunt, and otherwise terrorize other teams, coaches and referees? I do not care if you are the top team in the country or a Recreation team just starting out, no parents have the right to treat other children (or adults) so poorly. Why does this happen? And more importantly, how does one stop it? I do not want my child playing in this environment, nor do I want to be exposed to it.
It is a GAME - lighten up!
Nearly a decade in and I've never seen the above behavior. I have certainly never seen any team"terrorized" by parents. Just because you see it on YouTube doesn't mean it is a regular occurrence.
Do you avoid stairs, chairs and other daily objects because of "epic fail" videos too?
Are you deaf, blind, or both? Yes it happens, i see it all the time and although it shouldn't don't pretend it doesn't happen.
It doesn’t happen all the time. You’re being overly dramatic.
It happens all the time.
-NP
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:42
Subject: Why are parents so invested
I have had kids in other competitive activities, and observed parents there, and it's JUST the team sports parents who act like this. Gym? Hyper-competitive, everyone stays calm. Violin? Hyper-competitive, everyone stays calm. Soccer? All hell breaks loose.
Something about the nature of the sport, and its history of hooliganism, racial/ethnic slurs and insults, make some parents think it's fine to behave like this.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:38
Subject: Why are parents so invested
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's youth soccer! Why do parents berate, taunt, and otherwise terrorize other teams, coaches and referees? I do not care if you are the top team in the country or a Recreation team just starting out, no parents have the right to treat other children (or adults) so poorly. Why does this happen? And more importantly, how does one stop it? I do not want my child playing in this environment, nor do I want to be exposed to it.
It is a GAME - lighten up!
Nearly a decade in and I've never seen the above behavior. I have certainly never seen any team"terrorized" by parents. Just because you see it on YouTube doesn't mean it is a regular occurrence.
Do you avoid stairs, chairs and other daily objects because of "epic fail" videos too?
Are you deaf, blind, or both? Yes it happens, i see it all the time and although it shouldn't don't pretend it doesn't happen.
It doesn’t happen all the time. You’re being overly dramatic.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:28
Subject: Why are parents so invested
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:It's youth soccer! Why do parents berate, taunt, and otherwise terrorize other teams, coaches and referees? I do not care if you are the top team in the country or a Recreation team just starting out, no parents have the right to treat other children (or adults) so poorly. Why does this happen? And more importantly, how does one stop it? I do not want my child playing in this environment, nor do I want to be exposed to it.
It is a GAME - lighten up!
Nearly a decade in and I've never seen the above behavior. I have certainly never seen any team"terrorized" by parents. Just because you see it on YouTube doesn't mean it is a regular occurrence.
Do you avoid stairs, chairs and other daily objects because of "epic fail" videos too?
Are you deaf, blind, or both? Yes it happens, i see it all the time and although it shouldn't don't pretend it doesn't happen.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 14:01
Subject: Why are parents so invested
Anonymous wrote:It's youth soccer! Why do parents berate, taunt, and otherwise terrorize other teams, coaches and referees? I do not care if you are the top team in the country or a Recreation team just starting out, no parents have the right to treat other children (or adults) so poorly. Why does this happen? And more importantly, how does one stop it? I do not want my child playing in this environment, nor do I want to be exposed to it.
It is a GAME - lighten up!
Nearly a decade in and I've never seen the above behavior. I have certainly never seen any team"terrorized" by parents. Just because you see it on YouTube doesn't mean it is a regular occurrence.
Do you avoid stairs, chairs and other daily objects because of "epic fail" videos too?
Anonymous
09/23/2019 13:52
Subject: Why are parents so invested
Anonymous wrote:It's youth soccer! Why do parents berate, taunt, and otherwise terrorize other teams, coaches and referees? I do not care if you are the top team in the country or a Recreation team just starting out, no parents have the right to treat other children (or adults) so poorly. Why does this happen? And more importantly, how does one stop it? I do not want my child playing in this environment, nor do I want to be exposed to it.
It is a GAME - lighten up!
I think you are looking for a reason to convince your kid not to like soccer because it indeed is a huge commitment not only of the kid, but the parents also. I have 2 kids and have been doing youth soccer every year for 14 years. In those 14 years I have experienced only 1 game, 1 day where this was a problem.
But feel free to use this straw man to get your kid to quit.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 09:26
Subject: Why are parents so invested
Anonymous wrote:Not to rub it in, but our parent group has a blast at games. No shouting unless it's a just ridiculously bad call, most of the time you'll hear the parents joke with kids while they are playing and this is a top end team. We learned as a group early on that pressuring the kids, yelling at refs, and even going after other kids on the field just tightens up the players.
Sit back and enjoy, they will play faster and harder because it ends up being entertainment rather than test for all to judge.
We had a group of parents like this for most of my son’s younger years, and several became some of our closest friends. There actually can be positives to being very invested in a kid’s team, though of course not in the way OP is talking about. My son and his friends loved playing together so much that when a couple made it onto a DA roster, the others worked super hard until they made the team a year or two later. The fact that they were able to stay together all those years and the joy we had watching them made all the travel soccer annoyances bearable. Now we are having a blast watching them play in college.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 09:17
Subject: Why are parents so invested
We have some bad players on our team.....routinely out of position and constantly making mistakes. It’s very frustrating, but I keep quiet. It’s very unsportsmanlike to yell at the other team, but it’s much worst to yell at your own team or your DC!
Most if not all of the players including my DD will likely not play for college, so why not have them enjoy playing, build team chemistry and have a blast as a family. Yelling ruins it for your child and everyone around you. You ruin it for yourself too.
Most if not all of the players including my DD will likely not play for college, so why not have them enjoy playing, build team chemistry and have a blast as a family. Yelling ruins it for your child and everyone around you. You ruin it for yourself too.
Anonymous
09/23/2019 08:56
Subject: Why are parents so invested
Anonymous wrote:Not to rub it in, but our parent group has a blast at games. No shouting unless it's a just ridiculously bad call, most of the time you'll hear the parents joke with kids while they are playing and this is a top end team. We learned as a group early on that pressuring the kids, yelling at refs, and even going after other kids on the field just tightens up the players.
Sit back and enjoy, they will play faster and harder because it ends up being entertainment rather than test for all to judge.
I find this to be true too. Unfortunately, we have some tightly wound a**ses on our sidlines. Their kids look so tense on the field. Then they get the whole team worked up in tournament games when they start screaming at their kids and team. I did say STFU at one game last year and it worked for a bit. I contribute 2 losses in tournament Finals we definitely should have won but the parents got their kids so worked up prior to the game and were insane on the sidelines. It does not help, it hurts.