I've never left one of our teams because of this, but I've held grudges against other teams because of bad parent behavior. We basically have a "nemesis" team that is similar in ability to us in our league. We've been playing each other for years. During that time, we've heard a few dickish things said about our girls (including some racist stuff - our team is very diverse; theirs is 90% white) so we pretty much hate them and are very happy when we beat them, which is more often than they beat us. We pretty much dread playing them every season because for the most part, our team is drama free. (including winter league and tournaments.)

we have another team we hate playing because their girls foul the crap out of our girls (soccer AND basketball) and their parents and coach either encourage it or do nothing to stop it. This year we're stuck playing back-to-back saturday/sunday games against them and I can see the Sunday game getting ugly if they do their usual crap on Saturday.

No. I've seen some obnoxious behavior over the years but usually repeat offenders don't last too long. They either tone it down or leave. I do feel bad for their kids.

99% of the parents are pretty decent.

U9 and we're tempted to leave our team because of the coach.

Unless the parent is the team manager, I don’t have to talk and/or deal with them.

But I would surely deal with a parent immediately if they have the nerve to yell at my DD.

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Anonymous wrote:Didn't leave because of a parent. Left because of a player.

Kid is spoiled brat that argued every call and talked to opposing team players or parents the entire game. Rarely went a game w/o a yellow card. So much happier this year at new club.

This is bad. Why didn’t the coach do anything about this?

Mystery. He didn't usually allow undisciplined behavior. Took him out several times after cards. Sometimes for the rest of the game. Behavior never really changed. His teammates didn't like him. Know kids at his high school didn't either. Sad.

I know a kid just like this. Fortunately, he did not come back. However, several players left the team because of him. The team is so much better and happier this year without him or his parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Didn't leave because of a parent. Left because of a player.

Kid is spoiled brat that argued every call and talked to opposing team players or parents the entire game. Rarely went a game w/o a yellow card. So much happier this year at new club.

This is bad. Why didn’t the coach do anything about this?

Mystery. He didn't usually allow undisciplined behavior. Took him out several times after cards. Sometimes for the rest of the game. Behavior never really changed. His teammates didn't like him. Know kids at his high school didn't either. Sad.

A coach took out a restraining order against a parent on our team. That parent's behavior was the craziest I have ever seen, yet, no one left the club because of it. Multiple times he got into a yelling match with other parents on our team during games. So embarrassing. The family finally left and literally moved to another country for their son's soccer carreer, but I felt so sorry for the boy. Heartbreaking. This parent yelled at the boy after many games too.

Anonymous wrote:My DD has played on super competitive teams at both the DA and ECNL level. We have never left a team bc of 1 parent, but I have reduced myself to hardly knowing the other parents, staying out of the fray and sitting by myself. I can’t let other terrible people effect the choices I make for my DD, but I can’t wait to be away from the terrible culture of soccer.

This is what I do too. My parents and siblings taught me to sit far away from other parents. Unfortunately, these days with turf fields it’s hard to get far away. Everyone is packed in like sardines.

I am one of those parents but on my team, there are more serious offenders. To make it even worse, there are teams more obnoxious than our team. That being said, we are good at recognizes our obnoxious behavior and self-correct on both an individual and a group level.

Anonymous wrote:Didn't leave because of a parent. Left because of a player.

Kid is spoiled brat that argued every call and talked to opposing team players or parents the entire game. Rarely went a game w/o a yellow card. So much happier this year at new club.

This is bad. Why didn’t the coach do anything about this?

Didn't leave because of a parent. Left because of a player.

Kid is spoiled brat that argued every call and talked to opposing team players or parents the entire game. Rarely went a game w/o a yellow card. So much happier this year at new club.

My DD has played on super competitive teams at both the DA and ECNL level. We have never left a team bc of 1 parent, but I have reduced myself to hardly knowing the other parents, staying out of the fray and sitting by myself. I can’t let other terrible people effect the choices I make for my DD, but I can’t wait to be away from the terrible culture of soccer.

We left because of a whole Club of parents , not any particular one. They were all pretty insufferable.

It's usually done by about u11. Kids get weeded out. And, frankly, its way to many games to get excited about anything.

Anonymous wrote:No, but we’ve seen a player be asked to leave a club because of their parents’ behavior. This was a family we knew at school and their son played with a friends one year ahead of ours. The parents took videos of every game and tracked everyone’s playing time. They encouraged other families to complain to the coach. That and other behaviors made it difficult for the team to be a team. The coaches asked them not to return.

They changed clubs and then a year or two later the mom had an affair with a coach and apparently the dad emailed the entire team about it (a friend’s son played with them). They ended up moving away and nobody misses them.

Wow! I feel thankful not to have encountered people like this.