Anonymous
09/18/2019 17:50
Subject: My 3yr old really is too smart!
Settle down everyone, OP was talking about a three year old.
Anonymous
09/18/2019 17:44
Subject: My 3yr old really is too smart!
''Anonymous wrote:She was pitching a fit over what water bottle was clean and I told her to stop and she told me “I’m only 3, I just don’t know any better yet, when I’m older I won’t throw a fit, but right now, that’s what I do.” WTAF?! Send help!
It's funny. Ignore the chorus of posters who can't even try to be happy
Anonymous
09/18/2019 16:43
Subject: Re:My 3yr old really is too smart!
Anonymous wrote:Mother, my emotional response to this provocative stimuli is poorly modulated due to my age and underdeveloped prefrontal cortex. With time and maturity as well as behavioral conditioning via proper parenting I will learn to regulate my emotional response but at this time I will throw a tantrum to express my anger, frustration, and deep disappointment in this situation.
And mom, your conflicted response to my use of age-inappropriate experiential self-observation has revealed your adult-centric bias, and provided me with a manipulative toolset to dominate our codependent relationship placing me in jeopardy
Anonymous
09/18/2019 14:05
Subject: My 3yr old really is too smart!
Anonymous wrote:You know I'm going to be the dissenter here. It IS hilarious, but I am actually really happy when my just turned 4 year old is able to articulate and recognize her out-of-controllness.
The more you encourage this kind of communication the better they get at it. My very dramatic and emotional DD will now start melting down and then say (wail) something like, "I need to go have some time alone because I CAN'T CALM DOWN RIGHT NOW'. And then she will actually go to her room for 5-20 minutes until she feels more in control of herself.
So while it is funny and totally repeated, I bet she also kind of does understand and is trying to articulate something complex and confusing to her but also something true.
So I guess everyone here will call me a pushover but I would encourage that and continue the thought through in a conversation. Any ability to try to work towards deescalation instead of escalation is IMO a valuable skill and one worth pursuing!
My DD does get sent to time out/her room for bad things on the regular FWIW but this tantrum self regulation has been a MAJOR help in our household because she knows that if she can figure out how to deescalate than we can move on without a punishment so she's been motivated to work at it.
+1. I pretty much agree. We talk a lot about WHY we're feeling certain ways and my 3.5 year old will say, "I'm sad and crying because I'm so tired" or "because I miss gramma and I never get to see her" or whatever. Then I say, "let's take a rest, facetime gramma, etc." and SOMETIMES that helps the situation. But in general, I can say "you're really upset and yelling and crying. Are you feeling that way because _" and we can (usually) have a conversation or at least say "it's not okay to hit when you're mad, if you can't stop hitting you have to take a break in your room to calm down."
Anonymous
09/18/2019 13:56
Subject: My 3yr old really is too smart!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:She was pitching a fit over what water bottle was clean and I told her to stop and she told me “I’m only 3, I just don’t know any better yet, when I’m older I won’t throw a fit, but right now, that’s what I do.” WTAF?! Send help!
A good smack on that bottom will teach her a lot about being 3 and getting rid of her smart ass attitude.
No it won't. All it will teach the child is that she gets hit when her mother gets frustrated by normal childhood behavior. And also teach her that hitting is a good way to vent frustration when someone isn't acting the way you think they should act.
I don't agree with the smacking the butt, however what part of talking back without repercussions is NORMAL? Something definitely needed to be said to her.
Anonymous
09/18/2019 13:20
Subject: Re:My 3yr old really is too smart!
Mother, my emotional response to this provocative stimuli is poorly modulated due to my age and underdeveloped prefrontal cortex. With time and maturity as well as behavioral conditioning via proper parenting I will learn to regulate my emotional response but at this time I will throw a tantrum to express my anger, frustration, and deep disappointment in this situation.
Anonymous
09/18/2019 13:11
Subject: Re:My 3yr old really is too smart!
Anonymous wrote:This reminds of my DS at that age who used to tell me, e.g. upon returning from a grocery trip with Dad, "I saw a [treat] and Daddy wouldn't get it, so then I had to cry and cry and cry a lot so that I would get it." I'd be like yup, tho you're not exactly keeping your tactics stealth, kid...
That’s awesome
Anonymous
Anonymous
09/18/2019 12:24
Subject: My 3yr old really is too smart!
Anonymous wrote:She was pitching a fit over what water bottle was clean and I told her to stop and she told me “I’m only 3, I just don’t know any better yet, when I’m older I won’t throw a fit, but right now, that’s what I do.” WTAF?! Send help!
Is this a question or something for discussion?
Anonymous
09/18/2019 11:39
Subject: My 3yr old really is too smart!
You know I'm going to be the dissenter here. It IS hilarious, but I am actually really happy when my just turned 4 year old is able to articulate and recognize her out-of-controllness.
The more you encourage this kind of communication the better they get at it. My very dramatic and emotional DD will now start melting down and then say (wail) something like, "I need to go have some time alone because I CAN'T CALM DOWN RIGHT NOW'. And then she will actually go to her room for 5-20 minutes until she feels more in control of herself.
So while it is funny and totally repeated, I bet she also kind of does understand and is trying to articulate something complex and confusing to her but also something true.
So I guess everyone here will call me a pushover but I would encourage that and continue the thought through in a conversation. Any ability to try to work towards deescalation instead of escalation is IMO a valuable skill and one worth pursuing!
My DD does get sent to time out/her room for bad things on the regular FWIW but this tantrum self regulation has been a MAJOR help in our household because she knows that if she can figure out how to deescalate than we can move on without a punishment so she's been motivated to work at it.
The more you encourage this kind of communication the better they get at it. My very dramatic and emotional DD will now start melting down and then say (wail) something like, "I need to go have some time alone because I CAN'T CALM DOWN RIGHT NOW'. And then she will actually go to her room for 5-20 minutes until she feels more in control of herself.
So while it is funny and totally repeated, I bet she also kind of does understand and is trying to articulate something complex and confusing to her but also something true.
So I guess everyone here will call me a pushover but I would encourage that and continue the thought through in a conversation. Any ability to try to work towards deescalation instead of escalation is IMO a valuable skill and one worth pursuing!
My DD does get sent to time out/her room for bad things on the regular FWIW but this tantrum self regulation has been a MAJOR help in our household because she knows that if she can figure out how to deescalate than we can move on without a punishment so she's been motivated to work at it.
Anonymous
09/18/2019 11:20
Subject: Re:My 3yr old really is too smart!
This reminds of my DS at that age who used to tell me, e.g. upon returning from a grocery trip with Dad, "I saw a [treat] and Daddy wouldn't get it, so then I had to cry and cry and cry a lot so that I would get it." I'd be like yup, tho you're not exactly keeping your tactics stealth, kid...
Anonymous
09/18/2019 11:12
Subject: My 3yr old really is too smart!
I think OP meant "smart ass"
Anonymous
09/18/2019 11:10
Subject: My 3yr old really is too smart!
"Here is your water bottle for today. Take it or leave it."
Anonymous
09/18/2019 11:09
Subject: My 3yr old really is too smart!
Anonymous wrote:'That's inappropriate. If you're old enough to understand what throwing a fit means, you're old enough to stop right now. There are much better ways to solve your problems.'
Seriously stop this kind of commentary now or you will have a very rude tween. Also agree with pp about stopping which ever adult is saying this stuff in front of her.
Seriously? Yes, we should be teaching kids coping mechanisms, but she's 3 YEARS OLD. I have a 3 year old and while I don't feed her tantrums by giving her what she's asking for, I also don't have the expectation that she won't sometimes throw tantrums. No 3 year old has the capacity to always control their emotions.
Anonymous
09/18/2019 11:06
Subject: My 3yr old really is too smart!
'That's inappropriate. If you're old enough to understand what throwing a fit means, you're old enough to stop right now. There are much better ways to solve your problems.'
Seriously stop this kind of commentary now or you will have a very rude tween. Also agree with pp about stopping which ever adult is saying this stuff in front of her.
Seriously stop this kind of commentary now or you will have a very rude tween. Also agree with pp about stopping which ever adult is saying this stuff in front of her.