Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone like this! In real life most women seem to get lucky in one way and not the other. For example, in my household dad is super involved with our child and truly splits both the emotional and physical labor of running the household with me 50-50. But we are not wealthy and I don’t have an exciting career. Most other moms I know are life this as well-lots of money, but husband is barely home. Etc.

Eh I don't know about this. My husband makes a lot of money and we split everything 50/50. I work super part time and he still cooks dinner most nights!

I wouldn't call my job exciting. But that's on me. I'm sure another woman in my position could find an exciting, glamorous job. I have the opportunities and time, I just don't want to put in the effort.

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I think this is becoming the norm among the alpha men types. I know many senior partners, managing directors, c-suite executives, in demand surgeons, etc. who show up to all the games and school stuff. It's the way that society is moving.

I think it's possible for them to do now that it's socially acceptable to have your kids later in life. Now that people aren't even starting until their mid thirties, such an arrangement is possible where it wouldn't have been if you had kids in your mid twenties and were still building your career and putting in the necessary face time. Plus technology. Everyone I know does kid stuff in the early evening then jumps back on their lap tops after kids go to bed.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone like this! In real life most women seem to get lucky in one way and not the other. For example, in my household dad is super involved with our child and truly splits both the emotional and physical labor of running the household with me 50-50. But we are not wealthy and I don’t have an exciting career. Most other moms I know are life this as well-lots of money, but husband is barely home. Etc.

Eh I don't know about this. My husband makes a lot of money and we split everything 50/50. I work super part time and he still cooks dinner most nights!

I wouldn't call my job exciting. But that's on me. I'm sure another woman in my position could find an exciting, glamorous job. I have the opportunities and time, I just don't want to put in the effort.

That sounds unfair to your DH. You should consider doing more. Do your share.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone like this! In real life most women seem to get lucky in one way and not the other. For example, in my household dad is super involved with our child and truly splits both the emotional and physical labor of running the household with me 50-50. But we are not wealthy and I don’t have an exciting career. Most other moms I know are life this as well-lots of money, but husband is barely home. Etc.

Eh I don't know about this. My husband makes a lot of money and we split everything 50/50. I work super part time and he still cooks dinner most nights!

I wouldn't call my job exciting. But that's on me. I'm sure another woman in my position could find an exciting, glamorous job. I have the opportunities and time, I just don't want to put in the effort.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone like this! In real life most women seem to get lucky in one way and not the other. For example, in my household dad is super involved with our child and truly splits both the emotional and physical labor of running the household with me 50-50. But we are not wealthy and I don’t have an exciting career. Most other moms I know are life this as well-lots of money, but husband is barely home. Etc.

Eh I don't know about this. My husband makes a lot of money and we split everything 50/50. I work super part time and he still cooks dinner most nights!

I wouldn't call my job exciting. But that's on me. I'm sure another woman in my position could find an exciting, glamorous job. I have the opportunities and time, I just don't want to put in the effort.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone like this! In real life most women seem to get lucky in one way and not the other. For example, in my household dad is super involved with our child and truly splits both the emotional and physical labor of running the household with me 50-50. But we are not wealthy and I don’t have an exciting career. Most other moms I know are life this as well-lots of money, but husband is barely home. Etc.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone like this! In real life most women seem to get lucky in one way and not the other. For example, in my household dad is super involved with our child and truly splits both the emotional and physical labor of running the household with me 50-50. But we are not wealthy and I don’t have an exciting career. Most other moms I know are life this as well-lots of money, but husband is barely home. Etc.

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know anyone like this! In real life most women seem to get lucky in one way and not the other. For example, in my household dad is super involved with our child and truly splits both the emotional and physical labor of running the household with me 50-50. But we are not wealthy and I don’t have an exciting career. Most other moms I know are life this as well-lots of money, but husband is barely home. Etc.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The person that I could imagine thinking this about if I didn't know her better has a had a several tragic events in her life. Don't compare some superficial impression to real life. Everyone has struggles.

Same.

Anonymous wrote:There are a lot of women like this in my little corner of Bethesda. Perhaps to someone else, I am that woman.

Don't worry, we all suffer in life and eventually die, same as you.

Anonymous wrote:The person that I could imagine thinking this about if I didn't know her better has a had a several tragic events in her life. Don't compare some superficial impression to real life. Everyone has struggles.