Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried reconnecting with your DH? Would you want to?

I know the feeling, somewhat same situation although I didn't love my AP. I liked her, but it was mostly to fulfill the sex my wife didn't want with me. We broke it off, eventually but the urge to reconnect hits when my wife shuts down sexually for long periods.

That you wanted to leave your DH is a red flag to me.

How long was your affair?

1 year. Dh and I got away from each other over the years. There are some fundamental differences we have that we can ignore or accept as they are and move on as a monotonous long term relationship. On the other hand, I felt as I connected with AP at so many levels that made me question my marriage.

this is really tough. Why not divorce your husband and trust that you will either return to this guy or find someone else you really connect with?

Unlike others here, I sympathize a bit. I also have connected with someone who i'm more compatible with than my DH, we are more likely to bring out the best in each other, make each other happy. No affair, just talking to each other. but it is a mindf***.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried reconnecting with your DH? Would you want to?

I know the feeling, somewhat same situation although I didn't love my AP. I liked her, but it was mostly to fulfill the sex my wife didn't want with me. We broke it off, eventually but the urge to reconnect hits when my wife shuts down sexually for long periods.

That you wanted to leave your DH is a red flag to me.

How long was your affair?

1 year. Dh and I got away from each other over the years. There are some fundamental differences we have that we can ignore or accept as they are and move on as a monotonous long term relationship. On the other hand, I felt as I connected with AP at so many levels that made me question my marriage.

I wasn’t asking you, I was asking the scummy male cheater giving all of this wise advice about “red flags.” The way some of you compartmentalize is completely sociopathic, and I hope your AP exposes you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried reconnecting with your DH? Would you want to?

I know the feeling, somewhat same situation although I didn't love my AP. I liked her, but it was mostly to fulfill the sex my wife didn't want with me. We broke it off, eventually but the urge to reconnect hits when my wife shuts down sexually for long periods.

That you wanted to leave your DH is a red flag to me.

How long was your affair?

1 year. Dh and I got away from each other over the years. There are some fundamental differences we have that we can ignore or accept as they are and move on as a monotonous long term relationship. On the other hand, I felt as I connected with AP at so many levels that made me question my marriage.

And I'm sure he's just sitting around twiddling his thumbs abstaining from any and all romantic endeavors just patiently waiting for you to reach out again.
Hmmm, I wonder why he hasn't reached out to you?

He probably didn't feel connected on so many levels the way you do.

But...go ahead and re-contact.
An awkward humbling embarrassing experience may be just the thing you need to get your head out of the clouds and bring you back down to reality.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried reconnecting with your DH? Would you want to?

I know the feeling, somewhat same situation although I didn't love my AP. I liked her, but it was mostly to fulfill the sex my wife didn't want with me. We broke it off, eventually but the urge to reconnect hits when my wife shuts down sexually for long periods.

That you wanted to leave your DH is a red flag to me.

How long was your affair?

1 year. Dh and I got away from each other over the years. There are some fundamental differences we have that we can ignore or accept as they are and move on as a monotonous long term relationship. On the other hand, I felt as I connected with AP at so many levels that made me question my marriage.

jabaltimore004 wrote:Must be nice for some people to have such wonderful pristine lives that they can cast dispersions on the choices someone else makes.

What? Do you mean cast *aspersions*?

Anonymous wrote:

jabaltimore004 wrote:Must be nice for some people to have such wonderful pristine lives that they can cast dispersions on the choices someone else makes.

OR...
Must be hellish for some people to be so insecure/immature that they can't make life choices without approval from an anonymous peanut gallery.

Ha, true. Some people do genuinely want advice others just seem to want to vent or unburden their consciences (if they have one).

jabaltimore004 wrote:Must be nice for some people to have such wonderful pristine lives that they can cast dispersions on the choices someone else makes.

OR...
Must be hellish for some people to be so insecure/immature that they can't make life choices without approval from an anonymous peanut gallery.

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried reconnecting with your DH? Would you want to?

I know the feeling, somewhat same situation although I didn't love my AP. I liked her, but it was mostly to fulfill the sex my wife didn't want with me. We broke it off, eventually but the urge to reconnect hits when my wife shuts down sexually for long periods.

That you wanted to leave your DH is a red flag to me.

How long was your affair?

Must be nice for some people to have such wonderful pristine lives that they can cast dispersions on the choices someone else makes.

OP, go for it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is one of the better trolls because no real person is so dumb to write something that will be bludgeoned by 100% of the readers.

well, there's nothing a bludgeoning going on here as much as the DCUM soft-glove approach to another female cheater. If OP was a man, the pitchforks would have been out in force.

Untrue. Because a man would never come on here saying he's thinking about contacting his ex-AP. He'd already have done it.