This thread reminds me why they say that anyone who represents themselves in court has a fool for a client.

OP here, I’m the one who works, DH stays home. With an at fault judgement it would let me limit the amount of alimony I would have to pay DH right? As I said, fair split of assets, but DH chose this, and I don’t want to have to pay him forever for cheating on me.

Anonymous wrote:I’d think that if your DH is willing to admit fault you won’t have a problem getting a quick divorce. Mine admitted fault but asked to wait the year because he didn’t want it on the official record that he had cheated. We agreed on property settlement and all terms and did our divorce ourselves but I allowed him to wait the year. If yours agrees I doubt the court would care to force more proof.

That is an uncontested divorce based on separation.

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I’m in VA.

You should make an appointment today to go to a mediator to get a separation agreement and start the clock to one year to divorce.
You can also move out of the bedroom and put in writing you are separated as of today and one-year clock starts.

A fault divorce will take time (could be longer than a year) and will cost a ton.

The fastest, simplest and cheapest way is a divorce based on separation.

You have an uncontested divorce. Just start the process.

There is no such thing as an uncontested fault divorce. You need to understand that.

Op here, I’m in VA.

I’d think that if your DH is willing to admit fault you won’t have a problem getting a quick divorce. Mine admitted fault but asked to wait the year because he didn’t want it on the official record that he had cheated. We agreed on property settlement and all terms and did our divorce ourselves but I allowed him to wait the year. If yours agrees I doubt the court would care to force more proof.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone here know if you can have an at fault divorce and do it uncontested? I think we’d both rather split money as opposed to pay a lawyer. Thanks (and I really hope it doesn’t come to this.

What state are you in?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:sell the house, split the assets, file for divorce

go buy/rent your own place, he does the same. your waiting period begins.

so it takes a year to get approved.

unless you are wanting to marry someone right away or you have young kids in the mix whats the big deal..

file in south dakota. no residence requirements 60 day waiting.

There is a residency requirement in South Dakota to file for divorce .
There is no length of residency requirement but one party Hass to be a resident before filing and then you can have up to 60 day waiting period but you have to stay a resident of South Dakota until the divorce is final which means someone actually asked to move to South Dakota to do

I am PP and would have seriously considered doing this. It would have been cheaper and easier

Anonymous wrote:sell the house, split the assets, file for divorce

go buy/rent your own place, he does the same. your waiting period begins.

so it takes a year to get approved.

unless you are wanting to marry someone right away or you have young kids in the mix whats the big deal..

file in south dakota. no residence requirements 60 day waiting.

There is a residency requirement in South Dakota to file for divorce .
There is no length of residency requirement but one party Hass to be a resident before filing and then you can have up to 60 day waiting period but you have to stay a resident of South Dakota until the divorce is final which means someone actually asked to move to South Dakota to do

What state are you in, OP?

Anonymous wrote:sell the house, split the assets, file for divorce

go buy/rent your own place, he does the same. your waiting period begins.

so it takes a year to get approved.

unless you are wanting to marry someone right away or you have young kids in the mix whats the big deal..

file in south dakota. no residence requirements 60 day waiting.

Where where you 6 years ago, I absolutely would have done this

If someone is pregnant, that is an immediate burden of proof. Or if they are incarcerated for a crime. Adultery and abuse is harder to prove — unless you have pictures of the black eye, the police report, written affidavits from witnesses, doctors, those that know you. You and your spouse could PEO idr a written affidavit. If someone is willing to fess up, it can happen, but agree that separation and starting the process is much cheaper.

The waiting sucks.

sell the house, split the assets, file for divorce

go buy/rent your own place, he does the same. your waiting period begins.

so it takes a year to get approved.

unless you are wanting to marry someone right away or you have young kids in the mix whats the big deal..

file in south dakota. no residence requirements 60 day waiting.

I was told at-fault divorces go to a higher court, and thus end up taking a year anyway.

You may want to do a brief consultation with an attorney.

If you and your spouse are in agreement, why do you need "fault" to be an issue? Go to Reno.