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Anonymous wrote:OP here. The issue with nannies is they want to be paid in cash, but we will only do taxes. We talked with a handful of nannies that didn’t want to do taxes. That is not an option for us unless it’s only for a couple of months. I forgot to add that i’m only going back to work 3 days a week.

Then you're not talking to nannies. You're talking to shady "nannies."

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The issue with nannies is they want to be paid in cash, but we will only do taxes. We talked with a handful of nannies that didn’t want to do taxes. That is not an option for us unless it’s only for a couple of months. I forgot to add that i’m only going back to work 3 days a week.

Is one of you a gov't employee?

OP here. No but we both hold medical degrees. I’m a nurse practitioner and my husband is an MD. We need to do everything above board. We’re not willing to risk losing our licenses, tax evasion by not paying taxes

You aren’t going to lose your nursing license for paying a household employee under the table. I am not saying that you should do it, but that’s not a realistic consequence.
I wouldn’t do it because you know that you are only hiring her for a year, and she is going to want to collect unemployment while she looks for a new job.

Anyway, if you are an NP working PT, and your husband is an MD working full time, probably 90% of the issues that come up with childcare are going to fall on you. A HUGE con of daycare is that if your kid gets sick (fever, diarrhea, etc), then they will call you to come and get him immediately. And in daycare settings, this happens all of the time. If you have an outpatient clinic with patients waiting in the lobby, it really sucks to have to tell them to go home. Now, if you have grandma nearby or something like that, then this might not be a big deal.

The biggest con of hiring a nanny (besides finding a good nanny who wants to work three days a week) is going to be managing the nanny. You have likely never managed anyone other than NP students. You have to recognize that this is a skill set that you don’t have and need to learn, or you will be in trouble.

Finally, a pro for daycare in your situation is that it’s five days a week. Which means that if you have an outpatient clinic, and you are only working three days a week, then you can shift the days that you are working if something comes up. If your child is sick or if there is a snowstorm and you can’t make it in to work or whatever, you can cancel your clinic and reschedule most of your patients for the following day or one day next week. And that’s a really nice luxury to have. It makes things a lot less stressful.

Anyway, my two cents from one medical professional to another.

Oh, and last thing that’s pro nanny...I am a child psychiatrist, so I know a bit about infant development. The problem I have with most daycares is not that they don’t provide 1:1 care. The problem is that it is very difficult for the kids to attach to a caregiver, and that’s so important for infants. Daycares usually have a high turnover of childcare providers, and they are often staffed to meet ratios rather than having particular caregivers paired with particular children. I would look for a daycare that has a lot of employees who have been there for years, and that they pair specific caregivers with specific children. Like, “this is Claire, and her kids are Larla, Larlo, and Oliver...and this is Emily, and her kids are sarah, Jack, and Eli...and this is Allison...”. Instead of “These are Claire, Emily, and Allison, and they have the 9 babies in the infant room.”

Alright..this is long enough! Good luck!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The issue with nannies is they want to be paid in cash, but we will only do taxes. We talked with a handful of nannies that didn’t want to do taxes. That is not an option for us unless it’s only for a couple of months. I forgot to add that i’m only going back to work 3 days a week.

Is one of you a gov't employee?

OP here. No but we both hold medical degrees. I’m a nurse practitioner and my husband is an MD. We need to do everything above board. We’re not willing to risk losing our licenses, tax evasion by not paying taxes

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The issue with nannies is they want to be paid in cash, but we will only do taxes. We talked with a handful of nannies that didn’t want to do taxes. That is not an option for us unless it’s only for a couple of months. I forgot to add that i’m only going back to work 3 days a week.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The issue with nannies is they want to be paid in cash, but we will only do taxes. We talked with a handful of nannies that didn’t want to do taxes. That is not an option for us unless it’s only for a couple of months. I forgot to add that i’m only going back to work 3 days a week.

Is one of you a gov't employee?

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The issue with nannies is they want to be paid in cash, but we will only do taxes. We talked with a handful of nannies that didn’t want to do taxes. That is not an option for us unless it’s only for a couple of months. I forgot to add that i’m only going back to work 3 days a week.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The issue with nannies is they want to be paid in cash, but we will only do taxes. We talked with a handful of nannies that didn’t want to do taxes. That is not an option for us unless it’s only for a couple of months. I forgot to add that i’m only going back to work 3 days a week.

Anonymous wrote:I would hire a nanny for a year, but don't tell her in advance that the job is for a year only. It kind of sucks for her, but I think a year is long enough that you don't have to disclose it. And after a year, you might end up preferring to keep her, anyway.

My DD is in preschool, but has a great nanny. When I first hired her, I thought that we would phase her out once DD started full-time preschool, but she is so wonderful that we kept DD in part-time preschool so that DD could continue to spend time with her.

Anonymous wrote:I have a kid in daycare, and I think he's doing well and thriving - but I would choose nanny if i could afford it and had a 3 month old. That first year of daycare when they are that little is rough - with so much illness when they are that little and I think if it's possible they benefit from more 1:1 care and being in their own home for naps. If I had the funds - I would do nanny for first 2.5 years and then transition to a preschool (or as they like to say on dcum a daycare with preschool curriculum).