Anonymous
09/09/2019 14:28
Subject: follow up after playdate meltdown?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:UGH - sorry trying again.
this recently happened to us. a playdate and the child didn't want to leave. complete epic meltdown. the parent felt we should've understood and is offended because we don't want to host anymore. it's very uncomfortable situation.
So you told them you aren't hosting them anymore because their child had a meltdown? How do they even know you feel this way?
my son told their son it's not allowed. bad on my part - i should've been more upfront with the parents. it's been awkward.
It's been awkward because you are in the wrong at least twice.
Once for deciding that based on this incident, you never want them to come over again and twice for communicating that to your child on any level.
You owe the parents an apology.
there is more to the story. first of all they are in elementary school. second my child was emulating his friend when he got upset, because the other parent uses bribery to try to get their child to behave (i'll buy you a new toy! we can go to Target on the way home!). So my kid thought WOW Larlo gets toys when he misbehaves. I'm going to try it!
and it wasn't the first time this happened. it's almost every time. and we are always the ones hosting. so we decided it's not happening anymore. our child's behavior is impacted by his friend's behavior.
so no, i do not feel i owe them an apology.
OF COURSE there’s more to the story since everyone told you you’re wrong.
You’re still wrong.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 14:01
Subject: follow up after playdate meltdown?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:UGH - sorry trying again.
this recently happened to us. a playdate and the child didn't want to leave. complete epic meltdown. the parent felt we should've understood and is offended because we don't want to host anymore. it's very uncomfortable situation.
So you told them you aren't hosting them anymore because their child had a meltdown? How do they even know you feel this way?
my son told their son it's not allowed. bad on my part - i should've been more upfront with the parents. it's been awkward.
It's been awkward because you are in the wrong at least twice.
Once for deciding that based on this incident, you never want them to come over again and twice for communicating that to your child on any level.
You owe the parents an apology.
there is more to the story. first of all they are in elementary school. second my child was emulating his friend when he got upset, because the other parent uses bribery to try to get their child to behave (i'll buy you a new toy! we can go to Target on the way home!). So my kid thought WOW Larlo gets toys when he misbehaves. I'm going to try it!
and it wasn't the first time this happened. it's almost every time. and we are always the ones hosting. so we decided it's not happening anymore. our child's behavior is impacted by his friend's behavior.
so no, i do not feel i owe them an apology.
Fine. You still owe them an apology - for oversharing with your son such that he told the other child your perspective. This should have been handled between the adults, like adults. You can say, "Marion, I'm very sorry that you found out our decision in this manner. I should have approached you about this issue first. I'm sorry for any difficulties this has created."
Anonymous
09/09/2019 13:56
Subject: follow up after playdate meltdown?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:UGH - sorry trying again.
this recently happened to us. a playdate and the child didn't want to leave. complete epic meltdown. the parent felt we should've understood and is offended because we don't want to host anymore. it's very uncomfortable situation.
So you told them you aren't hosting them anymore because their child had a meltdown? How do they even know you feel this way?
my son told their son it's not allowed. bad on my part - i should've been more upfront with the parents. it's been awkward.
It's been awkward because you are in the wrong at least twice.
Once for deciding that based on this incident, you never want them to come over again and twice for communicating that to your child on any level.
You owe the parents an apology.
there is more to the story. first of all they are in elementary school. second my child was emulating his friend when he got upset, because the other parent uses bribery to try to get their child to behave (i'll buy you a new toy! we can go to Target on the way home!). So my kid thought WOW Larlo gets toys when he misbehaves. I'm going to try it!
and it wasn't the first time this happened. it's almost every time. and we are always the ones hosting. so we decided it's not happening anymore. our child's behavior is impacted by his friend's behavior.
so no, i do not feel i owe them an apology.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 13:45
Subject: follow up after playdate meltdown?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:UGH - sorry trying again.
this recently happened to us. a playdate and the child didn't want to leave. complete epic meltdown. the parent felt we should've understood and is offended because we don't want to host anymore. it's very uncomfortable situation.
So you told them you aren't hosting them anymore because their child had a meltdown? How do they even know you feel this way?
my son told their son it's not allowed. bad on my part - i should've been more upfront with the parents. it's been awkward.
It's been awkward because you are in the wrong at least twice.
Once for deciding that based on this incident, you never want them to come over again and twice for communicating that to your child on any level.
You owe the parents an apology.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 13:43
Subject: follow up after playdate meltdown?
Anonymous wrote:UGH - sorry trying again.
this recently happened to us. a playdate and the child didn't want to leave. complete epic meltdown. the parent felt we should've understood and is offended because we don't want to host anymore. it's very uncomfortable situation.
Why wouldn't you want to host again? Was it something more than a kid being a kid? I can see why the parent is offended if that's all that happened.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 13:42
Subject: follow up after playdate meltdown?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:UGH - sorry trying again.
this recently happened to us. a playdate and the child didn't want to leave. complete epic meltdown. the parent felt we should've understood and is offended because we don't want to host anymore. it's very uncomfortable situation.
So you told them you aren't hosting them anymore because their child had a meltdown? How do they even know you feel this way?
my son told their son it's not allowed. bad on my part - i should've been more upfront with the parents. it's been awkward.
Anonymous
09/09/2019 13:41
Subject: follow up after playdate meltdown?
Anonymous wrote:UGH - sorry trying again.
this recently happened to us. a playdate and the child didn't want to leave. complete epic meltdown. the parent felt we should've understood and is offended because we don't want to host anymore. it's very uncomfortable situation.
So you told them you aren't hosting them anymore because their child had a meltdown? How do they even know you feel this way?