Anonymous
Post 08/24/2019 10:11     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
It’s owrfectly leganto get away for a few days. Get some tests. But don’t go back until you talk to a lawyer and domestic violence advocates. He will be MORE angry when you return, most likely. This is not safe for you, your fetus, or your child. But rest now. Be safe now and take some breaths. Then make a plan. You can do this.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 23:01     Subject: Re:Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
OP, I am so sorry you're in this situation.

It's unclear to me what problem you're hoping to solve by leaving for a few days. Do you think you'll be safer when you return? It seems like he'll just be angrier. What is your long term plan?
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 23:00     Subject: Re:Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
Anonymous wrote:The courts will not “crucify you”. You aren’t disappearing with the kid. You don’t need your spouses permission to take a trip with your child. Go somewhere safe. Call the domestic violence hotline 1?800?799?7233. They will help you with the next steps.

I have been there, OP. The abuse will not get better. It gets worse. My ex tried to end my life. Please get help before it escalates. Because it absolutely will escalate. There is life after this. I promise. I’ve been happily remarried for almost 20 years. I got out with two young children and no job. You can do it as well. But you need to reach out for help. It can be so much better. You can create a safe, peaceful home for you and your children. The most important thing you can do right now is get somewhere safe and call the hotline.


I am not OP but I may as well be. I have two young children and no job and depression is giving way to despair. I wish people didn't simplify like this.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 22:50     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
Anonymous wrote:See all the women encouraging her to hide the kid from his father? That's precisely why judges see right through this bs.

OP is a horrible mom. The kid is obviously better off with the dad.


I see now. You're just a troll. Go away.


Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 22:49     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
Anonymous wrote:It's called custodial kidnapping and, yes, it will get you in trouble. Not to mention the fact that it makes you a horrible person unless you can convince us about your 'safety' concerns.

Source: used to work for CPS in Richmond and I've lost count of the number of times a mother took the kids away like this as some form of punishment to the dad. The "anger issues" ALWAYS turned out to be BS. You spent all his money or slept with the neighbor. Yeah, that sorta makes people mad.


You make CPS people look bad. Are you actually disbelieving someone who anonymously posts online for help? Why do you think they would lie to internet strangers?

I really hope other CPS workers aren't like you.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 22:47     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
Contact a lawyer ASAP and a domestic violence hotline/shelter. They can advise you better than DCUM. What does anger issues mean? Has he hit you or physically threatened you? If he has/does you need to call the police and make a report. If he hasn’t done that, then I’m not sure you can claim you are afraid for your safety to the court/police and have it stand as a reason to separate him from his child.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 20:52     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
I mean, if he dies you can certainly call the police but that was supposed to be “does” ^^
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 20:51     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
You can take your kid somewhere for a few days. That is not parental kidnapping. Please. Send him an e-mail documenting that you’re going for X amount of time, will be happy to let him talk to the kid on the phone/FaceTime, and will be back on X date. Then, if he dies call the police and if they do come talk to you about his allegations, show them the e-mail. “He knows where we are, he knows I’m coming back” - with e-mail to back you up. The police will tell him there’s nothing they can do.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 20:01     Subject: Re:Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
The courts will not “crucify you”. You aren’t disappearing with the kid. You don’t need your spouses permission to take a trip with your child. Go somewhere safe. Call the domestic violence hotline 1?800?799?7233. They will help you with the next steps.

I have been there, OP. The abuse will not get better. It gets worse. My ex tried to end my life. Please get help before it escalates. Because it absolutely will escalate. There is life after this. I promise. I’ve been happily remarried for almost 20 years. I got out with two young children and no job. You can do it as well. But you need to reach out for help. It can be so much better. You can create a safe, peaceful home for you and your children. The most important thing you can do right now is get somewhere safe and call the hotline.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 19:59     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
Anonymous wrote:It's called custodial kidnapping and, yes, it will get you in trouble. Not to mention the fact that it makes you a horrible person unless you can convince us about your 'safety' concerns.

Source: used to work for CPS in Richmond and I've lost count of the number of times a mother took the kids away like this as some form of punishment to the dad. The "anger issues" ALWAYS turned out to be BS. You spent all his money or slept with the neighbor. Yeah, that sorta makes people mad.


"worked for CPS" my a**. You do not sound like a reliable narrator.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 19:54     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
The problem in scenarios like these is only one parent is making the decision here. That's inherently unfair no matter if its the mom or the dad. No parent should get to deny the other parent access to their child. End. Of. Story.
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 19:53     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
Anonymous wrote:See all the women encouraging her to hide the kid from his father? That's precisely why judges see right through this bs.

OP is a horrible mom. The kid is obviously better off with the dad.


How do you know they're women?
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 19:52     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
Why do you keep having babies with him?
Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 19:50     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
You are going to a hotel during his work trip? Why would you go when he is away and then you say you will see him when he gets back?

How old are your kids other than the fetus?

This is a civil matter but it means he can also do the same and if he is angry and feels you are keeping the kids from them, he may take them away somewhere as well another time

Anonymous
Post 08/23/2019 19:48     Subject: Can I temporarily take my child away from his father?
See all the women encouraging her to hide the kid from his father? That's precisely why judges see right through this bs.

OP is a horrible mom. The kid is obviously better off with the dad.