Anonymous
08/20/2019 22:24
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
I’m in late 30s with 3 little kids including a baby and with all this stress I definitely look way older than I should. The way things are going I’ll prob look 50 when my youngest is 5. Please don’t point it out, I feel bad enough as it is!
Anonymous
08/20/2019 22:20
Subject: Re:If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
I remember when I had my son in my 20s seeing a very pregnant, no younger than 55 year old woman. She probably wasn't 55 but fully grey hair, very old looking. She probably thought I was a teen Mom! Never assume, always err on the side of flattery.
Anonymous
08/20/2019 22:04
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Anonymous wrote:
An acquaintance of mine adopted a newborn at 50.
Her husband was slightly older than her, and due to his stoop and white hair, definitely looked grandfatherish.
Do not assume anything!
Was not thinking of adoption. I was thinking woman was too old to have given birth.
Anonymous
08/20/2019 21:59
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
An acquaintance of mine adopted a newborn at 50.
Her husband was slightly older than her, and due to his stoop and white hair, definitely looked grandfatherish.
Do not assume anything!
Anonymous
08/20/2019 21:55
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Anonymous wrote:had cancer in my 30s, with a recurrence. GEtting pregnant the old fashioned way was not possible with treatments. Had to wait until I was in remission for 5 years until I could adopt. Adoption took a long time. Became a parent at 44. I look old based on all the hell I've been through. Don't call me granny.
Glad you a better and achieved parenthood!
Anonymous
08/20/2019 21:52
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
had cancer in my 30s, with a recurrence. GEtting pregnant the old fashioned way was not possible with treatments. Had to wait until I was in remission for 5 years until I could adopt. Adoption took a long time. Became a parent at 44. I look old based on all the hell I've been through. Don't call me granny.
Anonymous
08/20/2019 18:39
Subject: Re:If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
I had my kid at 38 and also stopped dyeing my hair (fully silver). People assumed I was Grandma so many times that I eventually starting dyeing again.
Anonymous
08/20/2019 18:35
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Anonymous wrote:At preschool orientation, many parents of 2yo looked to be in their 30s. I’m 41. This is my third child. I was surprised at how many older parents there were. I didn’t want to ask in fear of insulting anyone. There were dads or grandfathers (looked to be in their 70s) and several women who looked to be in their 50s. They acted like parents but totally not sure.
If a nanny has been caring for the child for a long time, they do seem to act like the parents. Didn’t it used to be that the parents acted like the parents? What happened?
Anonymous
08/20/2019 18:25
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Always err on the side of flattery.
Good and broadly applicable advice.
+1
+2
Anonymous
08/20/2019 18:25
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
I taught an 11 year old whose mom was 60. Definitely not adopted. I suppose he was possibly DE, but he was the spitting image of mom. I never assume.
Anonymous
08/20/2019 18:24
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
I am 51, and have a soon to be 6 year old....
Anonymous
08/20/2019 18:24
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Not uncommon here
Anonymous
08/20/2019 18:23
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
There was a mom in my playgroup that looked older than my mom. This was her third kid and she already had teens. She was probably 50ish by the time her kid was in preschool. The dad had a full head of Snow White hair. I always did a double take when I saw the preschooler calling them “mommy” or “daddy”
Anonymous
08/20/2019 18:20
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Anonymous wrote:At preschool orientation, many parents of 2yo looked to be in their 30s. I’m 41. This is my third child. I was surprised at how many older parents there were. I didn’t want to ask in fear of insulting anyone. There were dads or grandfathers (looked to be in their 70s) and several women who looked to be in their 50s. They acted like parents but totally not sure.
If a nanny has been caring for the child for a long time, they do seem to act like the parents. Didn’t it used to be that the parents acted like the parents? What happened?
Anonymous
08/20/2019 18:12
Subject: If a woman is older than 50, is it safe to assume she is the grandmother or nanny?
Anonymous wrote:I was 46/47 and had a 2-year old in preschool. You never know.
I was 50 with a two year old in preschool. It’s a bad idea to make assumptions.