Anonymous
08/20/2019 08:27
Subject: Re:At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I have a 7yo DD. Its interesting to me what some have said about girls at school wearing older brothers hand me downs. DD only wants boy style clothing and likes it looser fitting. So now im wondering if other parents assume she has an older brother and is wearing his stuff.
The same way men’s clothing and women’s clothing is different, so are Girl and boy clothes. DH and I may wear the same colors and may even look like we match but the cuts are different.
I posted above how my boys wear the hand me downs but my daughter doesn’t. This may also have to do with age gap and we gave much away. Baby toddler cutesy stuff and elementary clothing styles are different.
A boy would look odd wearing a unicorn shirt or jeggings. Girls don’t normally wear cargo pants or baggy shorts that come down to their knees. And not all styles for girls have to be tight or short. I think this is style. I know I used to love to wear sweats that are kind of loose and comfortable. It is hard to find a good pair of sweatpants for myself. Most of my athleisure is very tight fitting.
Men and women have actual differences in body shape and proportions. Up until at least age 10-12, boys and girls do not. So why the different cuts? And who cares if people think a kid is wearing hand me downs? PP, I honestly don’t give any thought to what other people’s little lids are wearing unless it’s so far outside the norm you can’t help but notice. Let your kid wear what she likes, whether it’s “boyish” or not.
I thought people around here were progressive, gender doesn’t matter, etc?
Anonymous
08/20/2019 07:54
Subject: Re:At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
Anonymous wrote:I have a 7yo DD. Its interesting to me what some have said about girls at school wearing older brothers hand me downs. DD only wants boy style clothing and likes it looser fitting. So now im wondering if other parents assume she has an older brother and is wearing his stuff.
The same way men’s clothing and women’s clothing is different, so are Girl and boy clothes. DH and I may wear the same colors and may even look like we match but the cuts are different.
I posted above how my boys wear the hand me downs but my daughter doesn’t. This may also have to do with age gap and we gave much away. Baby toddler cutesy stuff and elementary clothing styles are different.
A boy would look odd wearing a unicorn shirt or jeggings. Girls don’t normally wear cargo pants or baggy shorts that come down to their knees. And not all styles for girls have to be tight or short. I think this is style. I know I used to love to wear sweats that are kind of loose and comfortable. It is hard to find a good pair of sweatpants for myself. Most of my athleisure is very tight fitting.
Anonymous
08/20/2019 07:04
Subject: Re:At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
I have a 7yo DD. Its interesting to me what some have said about girls at school wearing older brothers hand me downs. DD only wants boy style clothing and likes it looser fitting. So now im wondering if other parents assume she has an older brother and is wearing his stuff.
Anonymous
08/20/2019 06:54
Subject: At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If this were the reverse, you'd never ask your son to wear his older sister's clothes. As soon as she has an opinion, and assuming you can afford new clothes, go buy her some.
Not true. I have a DD who wore a lot of gender neutral clothing that her little brother is now wearing. Not everyone dresses their daughters exclusively in "girly" clothing, or want their boys in "little man" t shirts.
DS already has some gender neutral (and unbeknownst to him) girls' tops. He didn't really care until recently, and even know, he doesn't know which tops came from the girls dept.
I was wondering if DD is having opinions now, would be the end of hand me downs. Or maybe just some days, she wants a pink top? She's not demanding dresses and leggings. Just some days, she is reaching for the couple of pink tops we have and other days, she doesn't care.
Anonymous
08/20/2019 05:57
Subject: At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
My dd wore some ds hand-me-downs until about 4 or 5. Not the only clothes she wore, but some things like jeans.
After they get school age, in my experience they tend to wear out things like jeans so they don't get passed down as much. But a passed-down t shirt and jeans or shorts is fine for playing after school and summers.
After they get school age, in my experience they tend to wear out things like jeans so they don't get passed down as much. But a passed-down t shirt and jeans or shorts is fine for playing after school and summers.
Anonymous
08/20/2019 05:17
Subject: Re:At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
DD wore DS’s outgrown clothes for a very short time (stopped about age 4). She is built different than DS and as a young child wore a bigger size than he did.
Anonymous
08/19/2019 16:28
Subject: At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If this were the reverse, you'd never ask your son to wear his older sister's clothes. As soon as she has an opinion, and assuming you can afford new clothes, go buy her some.
Not true. I have a DD who wore a lot of gender neutral clothing that her little brother is now wearing. Not everyone dresses their daughters exclusively in "girly" clothing, or want their boys in "little man" t shirts.
DP. I agree with the first PP. There is a difference between dressing your kids in gender neutral and dressing your daughter in boy clothing as OP is doing. She straight up says her DD is in like, boys khaki shorts.
It doesn't really matter when they're little but that is the kind of thing a girl will be made fun of for in school, just like a boy would be made fun of for wearing shorts with ruffles or leggings. You can do the gender neutral thing while also dressing the kid in a way that won't make them stick out in a bad way to their peers.
Anonymous
08/19/2019 16:24
Subject: At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
Anonymous wrote:If this were the reverse, you'd never ask your son to wear his older sister's clothes. As soon as she has an opinion, and assuming you can afford new clothes, go buy her some.
Not true. I have a DD who wore a lot of gender neutral clothing that her little brother is now wearing. Not everyone dresses their daughters exclusively in "girly" clothing, or want their boys in "little man" t shirts.
Anonymous
08/19/2019 15:15
Subject: Re:At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
I'd guess my kids were around 10/11 and 7/8 when I stopped. It was a combination of them having completely different styles and the fact that #1 was in the 25th% for height/weight while #2 was in the 75th%, so they were really close in size...it was more of a sharing situation (which was a complete non-starter for them!) as opposed to one handing outgrown stuff down to the other.
Anonymous
08/19/2019 14:41
Subject: At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
My DD, 3yo, will sometimes wear boy-cut clothes and it's NBD. Boy cut jeans fit like normal jeans whereas all of the toddler girl cut jeans are now jeggings or skinny cut. Boy cut shirts tend to be boxier, higher neckline, and bigger at the same T size. We tend to mix more boyish and girlish clothing in the same outfit so it's not like she's "dressing like a boy". She just likes things like Marshal and Chase (Paw Patrol) or Mickey Mouse and when it's a "girl shirt" it will only have Skye or Minnie Mouse. Kids clothes used to be a lot less gendered than it is now and somehow we all turned out ok.
Anonymous
08/19/2019 14:30
Subject: At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
If this were the reverse, you'd never ask your son to wear his older sister's clothes. As soon as she has an opinion, and assuming you can afford new clothes, go buy her some.
Anonymous
08/19/2019 11:28
Subject: Re:At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My boys are 8 and 10 and 8yo wears everything older DS wore. Of course we toss work out and faded clothing.
Your situation is different because you have a boy and a girl.
I also have a daughter and she wore a few sleep sacks and onesies when she was an infant but that’s about it. She doesn’t wear her brother’s hand me downs.
I have seen some girls in elementary in obvious boy hand me downs and it looks a bit odd. The cuts and styles are different. My daughter wears leggings mostly.
Even though my daughters don't wear a ton of leggings, I agree with this. The girls in elementary with big brother's hand-me-downs look out of place. Shirts sort of work because a lot of elementary girls wear pretty loose shirts, but pants/shorts definitely stick out. Even longer girls' shorts have a different cut than boys' shorts.
I actually don't care for the way little girls' shorts are cut. Those bubble shorts did not fit DD appropriately, we stuck with DS' hand me downs. I may switch to one of the gender neutral brands to fit her frame.
-OP
PP here, and I get that. My girls wear a lot of bermuda shorts and I think the gender neutral brands do a nice job of fitting both.
Gender neutral brands??
OP, there is way way way more to little girls' clothing than 'bubble shorts' lol
Anonymous
08/19/2019 11:25
Subject: At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
I hvae 3 boys: 7, 5, and 2. I am still handing down all I can between them. However, most of the pants from the 7 year old couldn't be passed to the 5 year old due to holes in the knees. Shoes, too, are way too worn out.
Anonymous
08/19/2019 11:24
Subject: At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
My son is 10; my daughter is 5.
She wears plenty of his hand me downs but also has dresses and a few “girly” shirts.
Girl shorts are WAY too short in my opinion, and the pants are tighter (even non-legging ones). She wears leggings, but “boy” shorts & other pants that belonged to her brother.
She wears plenty of his hand me downs but also has dresses and a few “girly” shirts.
Girl shorts are WAY too short in my opinion, and the pants are tighter (even non-legging ones). She wears leggings, but “boy” shorts & other pants that belonged to her brother.
Anonymous
08/19/2019 11:20
Subject: Re:At what age did you stop doing hand me downs?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:My boys are 8 and 10 and 8yo wears everything older DS wore. Of course we toss work out and faded clothing.
Your situation is different because you have a boy and a girl.
I also have a daughter and she wore a few sleep sacks and onesies when she was an infant but that’s about it. She doesn’t wear her brother’s hand me downs.
I have seen some girls in elementary in obvious boy hand me downs and it looks a bit odd. The cuts and styles are different. My daughter wears leggings mostly.
Even though my daughters don't wear a ton of leggings, I agree with this. The girls in elementary with big brother's hand-me-downs look out of place. Shirts sort of work because a lot of elementary girls wear pretty loose shirts, but pants/shorts definitely stick out. Even longer girls' shorts have a different cut than boys' shorts.
I actually don't care for the way little girls' shorts are cut. Those bubble shorts did not fit DD appropriately, we stuck with DS' hand me downs. I may switch to one of the gender neutral brands to fit her frame.
-OP
PP here, and I get that. My girls wear a lot of bermuda shorts and I think the gender neutral brands do a nice job of fitting both.