Anonymous wrote:I would give him as much space as possible. I wouldn’t pick him up unless no one else can. This may only get worse.

When my best friends dd was 10 she told her dad you either divorce mom or I will run away. My friend lost her family that day and was kicked out of her home. She hasn’t seen her child since.

Looking back my friend didn’t understand how much her dd hated her. Thought she would get over it. She should have backed off years ago.

I hope this is a troll post.

Anonymous wrote:Do people really think a 5 year old who says I miss mommy or I wish mommy would pick me up to a father when mom is away on a business trip are actually cruel and conniving and mean bratty children?

He isn't being mean to his mother. Op is the adult, she needs to be able to manage her feelings. If we can't expect an adult to manage feeling hurt, how do you expect a kid to manage his feelings of being hurt? You can't have higher expectations of a 5 year old than an adult.

Kids sometimes miss one parent or the other or prefer one parent over the other and express it. Both dads AND MOMS need to be able to cope with that. The kid isn't saying I HATE YOU, he is saying he wished dad picked him up. I somehow don't think people who be berating the child if a dad was on here posting he was hurt his child preferred him mom picking him up as usual.

Are you new here? This expectation is everywhere on DCUM.

I would give him as much space as possible. I wouldn’t pick him up unless no one else can. This may only get worse.

When my best friends dd was 10 she told her dad you either divorce mom or I will run away. My friend lost her family that day and was kicked out of her home. She hasn’t seen her child since.

Looking back my friend didn’t understand how much her dd hated her. Thought she would get over it. She should have backed off years ago.

My kid was a pill at this age when I picked him up. I started keeping his favorite snack in the car and as soon as he climbed in the car, I handed the hand-sanitizer and snack to him. Then I did not speak to him, until he had some food in his belly. He became better after he snacked. Turned out that he was hangry.

As a teenager now..nothing much has changed. My kids are cranky if they have not eaten. It is pointless to have any discussion with them unless they are fed.

Anonymous wrote:I'd probably have responded: "I like Daddy a lot too. When we see him, what should we tell him about your school day today?"

This. Just don't react like your feelings are hurt that he prefers his dad. You should feel so happy that he has a close relationship with his dad. You can still find things the two of you enjoy and enjoy your time together without it being a competition.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't react to it.

He is a brat who needs to be taught some manners. I would never let my children to speak to me so disrespectfully! You should have taken him back to school, called a Uber to take him home.

Kid said his true feelings; there's no evidence it was said disrespectfully. I'm sure you're joking about the Uber, though that gave me a laugh.

My kids prefer dad to pick them up because he takes them to 7-11 almost every time (which irritates the heck out of me). Whatever, they prefer me for other other things. It doesn't mean they love you unequally. My son would prefer if only I came to his games because dad is embarrassing. I would never say it to them, but my kids' personalities are such that I prefer one or the other for particular activities. For example, one is super extraverted and the other is anxious, so if I had a choice I'd prefer taking the outgoing one to new activities. The one who is more anxious is also better behaved, so I'd rather take him if the activity requires quiet behavior. I don't love one or the other more, it's just an acknowledgment of their differences. Don't take it personally. Don't feel a need to bribe with candy, as suggested by a pp, either.

Kids are a creature of habit. Once in awhile my DH will pick up our kids from pre-school and they ask where mommy is. It's no big deal. When their grandfather picks them up it's a big deal because he will take them to lunch and spoil them.

Some kids are just creatures of total habit and get a little flustered any time thigns are out of the usual routine. But it's good for him to learn to deal with slight differences like you instead of daddy.

I hope you tell him that saying that is extremely hurtful and disrespectful.

I'm so confused why you marital status is relevant to the story, but anyway, my kid always wants whichever parent is not there. He's 5, cut him some slack.

Do people really think a 5 year old who says I miss mommy or I wish mommy would pick me up to a father when mom is away on a business trip are actually cruel and conniving and mean bratty children?

He isn't being mean to his mother. Op is the adult, she needs to be able to manage her feelings. If we can't expect an adult to manage feeling hurt, how do you expect a kid to manage his feelings of being hurt? You can't have higher expectations of a 5 year old than an adult.

Kids sometimes miss one parent or the other or prefer one parent over the other and express it. Both dads AND MOMS need to be able to cope with that. The kid isn't saying I HATE YOU, he is saying he wished dad picked him up. I somehow don't think people who be berating the child if a dad was on here posting he was hurt his child preferred him mom picking him up as usual.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't react to it.

He is a brat who needs to be taught some manners. I would never let my children to speak to me so disrespectfully! You should have taken him back to school, called a Uber to take him home.

Are you on crack? Uber requires people to be 18 to ride alone. This is a 5 year old we’re talking about here.

Anonymous wrote:Don't react to it.

He is a brat who needs to be taught some manners. I would never let my children to speak to me so disrespectfully! You should have taken him back to school, called a Uber to take him home.