Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 17:08     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s totally unrealistic to say that uninvited children will not eat the food or expect a goodie bag. We had two uninvited siblings at my kids birthday party this year and the uninvited siblings absolutely wanted cake and demanded a goodie bag.


Yep. They also will be hungry for the cake. That’s why I can’t stand uninvited siblings.


Oops. Meant to say pizza.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 17:07     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:It’s totally unrealistic to say that uninvited children will not eat the food or expect a goodie bag. We had two uninvited siblings at my kids birthday party this year and the uninvited siblings absolutely wanted cake and demanded a goodie bag.


Yep. They also will be hungry for the cake. That’s why I can’t stand uninvited siblings.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 16:53     Subject: RSVP question
It’s totally unrealistic to say that uninvited children will not eat the food or expect a goodie bag. We had two uninvited siblings at my kids birthday party this year and the uninvited siblings absolutely wanted cake and demanded a goodie bag.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 15:20     Subject: RSVP question
Of course sibling is not invited
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 14:28     Subject: Re:RSVP question
I just had a very similar birthday party. We paid per person, including parents. I immediately got inquiries about bringing not just younger siblings, but the whole family. Yes, people asked nicely, but also, as a PP mentioned, I felt obligated to say that of course they could all come and it would be covered.

OP, you and your 3 year old are invited, and no one else.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 13:45     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:OP have you never had a birthday party for your kids? I'm surprised by these questions.


Her oldest child is 3. I don’t think it’s unusual to have only done birthday celebrations with family and friends at that age. My kids were 4 or 5 before we started inviting people I had never met before to their birthday parties.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 13:43     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:Your 1 year old is not invited. You should not bring the baby even if you pay.

You and your 3 year old are invited. They 100% expect the 3 year old to attend with a parent!


This.
Hire a babysitter for the baby and spend the party focusing on your 3 year old and meeting the other parents.

Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 12:55     Subject: Re:RSVP question
I never ask if I can include a sibling, but I am never offended or put out if someone does ask. I AM offended when you ask to bring extra people, I agree, I PAY, and then you show up with just the one invited kid.

OP - just ask if it is fine for you to bring and pay for the baby. You will learn the ropes for your child's peers. My oldest had a "no siblings" group, but my younger son's peer group had a "Why on Earth didn't you bring Larlo?" vibe. This was a year apart in the same pre-school, so you really never know until you get involved.

Also, don't be that person that brings a sibling every time but has a "no siblings allowed" party.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 12:31     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid just starts at this new daycare in July, so it is our first invitation & I don't know any parents well at all. I assume that it is a whole class invite because I see the same invites in other kids cubbies. The indoor playground is open to public as long as you pay the entrance fee, and the host book a party room to serve cake & pizza something like that. I assume that host pay for the invited kid, but I am not sure if the parent is covered or not. I don't mind paying for myself if needed, and I wonder if I should offer to the host that I would pay for myself when I rsvp back. And, I also wonder does the host assume that 1 invited kid comes with 1 parent or 2 parents?


Most places don't charge for parents.

The host is 100% paying for you and your 3 year old.


If it's a play place, they really aren't paying for the adult. Adults are usually free with the child. they are not paying for your 1 year old. If it's open to the public, then bring your 1 year old and pay for the child yourself. I think it's rude to ask the host as they will probably feel obligated to pay for him.

No, she shouldn't just show up with him. He'll be in the party room and will probably want cake. Which is usually fine, but should be discussed.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 12:29     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid just starts at this new daycare in July, so it is our first invitation & I don't know any parents well at all. I assume that it is a whole class invite because I see the same invites in other kids cubbies. The indoor playground is open to public as long as you pay the entrance fee, and the host book a party room to serve cake & pizza something like that. I assume that host pay for the invited kid, but I am not sure if the parent is covered or not. I don't mind paying for myself if needed, and I wonder if I should offer to the host that I would pay for myself when I rsvp back. And, I also wonder does the host assume that 1 invited kid comes with 1 parent or 2 parents?


Most places don't charge for parents.

The host is 100% paying for you and your 3 year old.


If it's a play place, they really aren't paying for the adult. Adults are usually free with the child. they are not paying for your 1 year old. If it's open to the public, then bring your 1 year old and pay for the child yourself. I think it's rude to ask the host as they will probably feel obligated to pay for him.


It's ruder to show up with the 1yo without mentioning it to the host. Because realistically, the 1yo is going to be up in the business of the party regardless of the fact that the play space is open to the public. It's not as though OP is going to sit outside the party room with the 1yo while her 3yo is in the room.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 12:24     Subject: RSVP question
The one year old is not invited in less it says siblings welcome.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 11:58     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:OP have you never had a birthday party for your kids? I'm surprised by these questions.

Sounds like she's new to daycare/whole class invitations. Her kids are little. Maybe not American-born. Nothing wrong with asking. That's what DCUM is for.
Anonymous
Post 08/07/2019 11:57     Subject: RSVP question
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. My kid just starts at this new daycare in July, so it is our first invitation & I don't know any parents well at all. I assume that it is a whole class invite because I see the same invites in other kids cubbies. The indoor playground is open to public as long as you pay the entrance fee, and the host book a party room to serve cake & pizza something like that. I assume that host pay for the invited kid, but I am not sure if the parent is covered or not. I don't mind paying for myself if needed, and I wonder if I should offer to the host that I would pay for myself when I rsvp back. And, I also wonder does the host assume that 1 invited kid comes with 1 parent or 2 parents?


Most places don't charge for parents.

The host is 100% paying for you and your 3 year old.


If it's a play place, they really aren't paying for the adult. Adults are usually free with the child. they are not paying for your 1 year old. If it's open to the public, then bring your 1 year old and pay for the child yourself. I think it's rude to ask the host as they will probably feel obligated to pay for him.