Anonymous wrote:My DD has been in daycare since she was 8 weeks old, so I'm not a newbie, but we switched centers and this new preschool is crazy. They are 3 years old, and there are 4 girls in the class who are definitely a clique. That's fine, but we went to one of their bday parties this weekend and all 4, plus their moms, were in matching outfits. So of course they are all taking pics together, leaving my DD out, which did suck. They seem to hang out every weekend and at the party were talking about everyone coming over to swim afterwards (we weren't invited). On the way home, my DD was asking if we were going to Larla's house to swim... I had to say no and we got ice cream.

I'm a confident, high earning 30 year old and I can't believe I'm feeling weirdly insecure about this! I get that it's hard to break into an established group of friends, but at THREE years old shouldnt everyone be included?

Anonymous wrote:If your daughter is the only girl not in the clique, I would ask the preschool about moving your daughter to a different class.

Remember she has to spend all day with this group and it sucks to be excluded all the time. You need to be specific with the director and say that this dynamic is unhealthy. Maybe the director will split them up next year, otherwise it’s really unfair to place another little girl in a class with them.

Anonymous wrote:this is beyond weird op! I would have felt bad too even though you shouldn't at all because like others have said this is SO WEIRD. Why would they all want to be matching to begin with?? And it's really dense that they didn't even think about how there would be one girl at the party without the outfit on. So bizarre. I don't really have any advice except try your best to remind yourself you don't really want to be besties with people who where matching let's party shirts with their 3 year olds and visibly leave others out. It's not cool to be talking about hanging at the pool after with a majority of the party and not invite others. Any kind adult should know that. Ugh I am annoyed on your behalf!

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Anonymous wrote:How matching are we talking about here for the mom outfits? Like they all wore blue or they all wore the exact same Lilly Pulitzer dress? How weird I think this is depends on your answer.

Generally I get why you feel left out, but at least you were invited to the party!

OP here. They literally all had on the exact same print yoga pant and same black shirt with print "lets party". All moms and all of their daughters matched. It was just kind of sad to be left out like that. I haven't experienced that in a long time! I know its petty and not a big deal, but it did hurt and i was surprised we are making cliques at age THREE