Anonymous wrote:OP here. I did the unthinkable. Since I last posted, I went to the next class and there he was. We started to talk, text, and things got heated. We had a quickie in his car one day and ever since I have stopped going to class and blocked his number.

What have I done?

I did the unthinkable. Since I last posted, I went to the next class and there he was. We started to talk, text, and things got heated. We had a quickie in his car one day and ever since I have stopped going to class and blocked his number.

OP here. I did the unthinkable. Since I last posted, I went to the next class and there he was. We started to talk, text, and things got heated. We had a quickie in his car one day and ever since I have stopped going to class and blocked his number.

What have I done?

This will end your marriage if you continue down this path. Decide whether it’s worth it. *Hint - It’s not. Throw away the number and stop going to the class.

Anonymous wrote:Throw out the number. This assumes that your marriage is otherwise healthy. You will gain nothing from calling or meeting this person again.

This. If you wish to stay married.

Sounds like you found your soulmate

Throw out the number. This assumes that your marriage is otherwise healthy. You will gain nothing from calling or meeting this person again.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, went back for another class and friend was not at the class. Tbh was both relieved and disappointed. I have no intention of cheating or leaving DH...

No intention? You’re playing the game, OP. You tell yourself “oh well, if it just happens it happens.” Now it’s not a matter of if but when. It’s not the person you’re chasing but the feeling. You were seeking it out so there will be more.

If my spouse went to eat lunch with a old flame I would consider it cheating. Getting their number would result in counseling or divorce. OP your're not to be trusted, I feel sorry for your spouse. Sneaky!

OP here, went back for another class and friend was not at the class. Tbh was both relieved and disappointed. I have no intention of cheating or leaving DH...

Anonymous wrote:When you cheat on your spouse, you cheat in your kids.

That is crap. Kids have nothing to do with their parents sex lives—married, cheating or divorce.
If people are in bad marriages, get out before cheating. Or don’t cheat.

Cheating is bad if the marriage is otherwise good. If a marriage is bad to the point where divorce is inevitable, I don’t think it is that terrible. But people should get out before it gets that bad.

I messed that up, in a hurry. "said" "bite"

You should have say hi, been polite then left. Not grabbed a bit to eat, totally inappropriate. Throw the number out, this idiot isn't worth blowing up your life. Like I haven't seen that a million times.

Attractions are very normal, fantasies are fairly normal. But lying to your spouse will kill your soul.

Easy solution: discuss swapping with your spouse. Invite the friend over with spouse. Swing away.

Ask your spouse for a divorce, get a divorce, then ask them out on a date.