What else would you be doing that week? Would you miss out on something really great if you went? Do you not ant to use your vacation time for this? Is it expensive and going to put a bi sent in your budget? What’s the downside?

I have a one year old and a four yr old. Nap time isn't what I'm concerned about. Being at the beach with my active one yr old all day would be super tiring - so much wrangling!

At the same time, we would do this vacation with good friends that have similar age distribution as OP, and these families love playing with our baby bc they miss the baby stage. The kids are also into playing with the baby so that would also relieve some stress. But I know this from experience- not sure if I'd expect the same dynamic if I didn't know the other families well.

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Anonymous wrote:I would go and split the days with DH as far as who gets to do the activities. I would also be ok with my 1yo having the occasional nap in a stroller if walking somewhere, or in the car if need be.

This. I wouldn't want to make everyone miss out on a fun vacation just because you have a baby. And this is pretty much the easiest, lowest-key vacation so it's perfect. DH has to agree that he covers some of the staying home with baby time. And, if you're friends with the other two couples, I think it's fine to plan a day that the guys take the kids to the beach and the women stay home and have a girls day while the baby naps.

This is a vacation where OP says the friends spend all day at the beach or on the boat. Her female friends are not going to give up a beach/boat day to stay cooped up in the house. As others have said, the baby can nap in a tent on the beach, in their stroller or car seat etc.

Really? I’d spend one of 7 days hanging out with a good friend if she was stuck in the house. Especially if it meant I got a kid-free day out if it! I love the beach but I love my friends more.

Anonymous wrote:I’d go in a heartbeat. AND I’d work it out very explicitly with my spouse: Odd numbered days, I take the day nap coverage and you take the bedtime coverage. Even number days, you take the nap coverage and I take the bedtime. Make sure he signs off on that—no “Yeah, yeah we’ll figure it out when we get there...” Sign off before you go. Of course you may need to adjust when you get there. But that’s different than figuring it out there.

I like your style PP.

Marriage is a negotiation. Communication is so key.

Married 33 yrs

I would absolutely go. Take turns with DH regarding baby duty

Anonymous wrote:I would also go but I still want to chime in in support of OP’s concerns. I have a 1 year old and a 4 year old and traveling is....not relaxing. It’s fun. And memorable. But certainly not issue-free or easy.

That is a good point. But it sounds like they will have their own house. That helps a lot.

Anonymous wrote:I would go and split the days with DH as far as who gets to do the activities. I would also be ok with my 1yo having the occasional nap in a stroller if walking somewhere, or in the car if need be.

This. You can always hook up the monitor so you sit outside while baby naps. Both of us like being the one on nap duty because it means you can snooze also. Do you really want to be on a beach nonstop with a five year old?

Anonymous wrote:I’d also go. But then we were/are the type of family that never really slowed down for the baby. I would hate for my older kid to miss out on fun times.

This.

Plus, I wouldn't mind staying behind and relaxing while the toddler napped.

Trip sounds amazing. You sound a bit needy if you really can’t be left alone to read when baby sleeps half the time (sounds like heaven as a mom of 3!). Also, why can’t baby nap on the go or go to sleep at 7 in the main house and then get moved to cabin when the rest of you head down? A week a bit off schedule for vacation isn’t going to kill your one year old.

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Anonymous wrote:I would go and split the days with DH as far as who gets to do the activities. I would also be ok with my 1yo having the occasional nap in a stroller if walking somewhere, or in the car if need be.

This. I wouldn't want to make everyone miss out on a fun vacation just because you have a baby. And this is pretty much the easiest, lowest-key vacation so it's perfect. DH has to agree that he covers some of the staying home with baby time. And, if you're friends with the other two couples, I think it's fine to plan a day that the guys take the kids to the beach and the women stay home and have a girls day while the baby naps.

This is a vacation where OP says the friends spend all day at the beach or on the boat. Her female friends are not going to give up a beach/boat day to stay cooped up in the house. As others have said, the baby can nap in a tent on the beach, in their stroller or car seat etc.

Anonymous wrote:I would go and split the days with DH as far as who gets to do the activities. I would also be ok with my 1yo having the occasional nap in a stroller if walking somewhere, or in the car if need be.

+1

I would also go but I still want to chime in in support of OP’s concerns. I have a 1 year old and a 4 year old and traveling is....not relaxing. It’s fun. And memorable. But certainly not issue-free or easy.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree, doesn't sound like fun. However if he's that insistent on it I would agree to go under the agreement that HE will be the one staying behind while 1 yo naps.

Share the days?

Want to add that a few days of sitting in Maine with a book while a baby naps sounds pretty good.

Also if they go allthe time maybe they know someone who knows a sitter

Agree with above, but also adding by 1 yr old, your kid will be consolidating naps and most likely be down to 1 nap.

Can your baby sleep on the go? Like ina stroller?

I love it when I’m alone with my napping baby while my husband is out with my older two. I’d definitely go though Maine is not the easiest place to get to. It should be nice and cool in Maine rather then in the sweat box of an August DC.