Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 12:05     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:I hate waste, too. But when we leave the beach, I frankly have zero desire to haul communal taco meat and leftover spaghetti 5+ hours in the car home from the beach.

MIL pouts that she packed us leftovers on our own steam and we declined. She pouts when we offer to toss them. Toss them or take them yourself!

And yes, we pay our own way.


MIL gets all dictator on us, too. Actually, it happens throughout the "vacation". I just ignore.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 12:01     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.


We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.

Then continue to make your bed hard Bertha And come pout on the internet.
You and your mother-in-law are the same person you just don’t realize it.


This.
If you don't want the leftovers don't take them, but you and your MIL are behaving in similar manners.

You can also subject making less food, or having the last night be "leftover night".


Completely agree. Poor OPs husband married his mom.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 11:59     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
I would’ve gladly taken already packed up leftovers. Food waste is horrible
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 11:58     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
^^And here you go:
https://www.collinsdictionary.com/us/dictionary/english/under-ones-own-steam
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 11:57     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I hate waste, too. But when we leave the beach, I frankly have zero desire to haul communal taco meat and leftover spaghetti 5+ hours in the car home from the beach.

MIL pouts that she packed us leftovers on our own steam and we declined. She pouts when we offer to toss them. Toss them or take them yourself!

And yes, we pay our own way.


How can someone else pack something for you “on [your] own steam”? I literally don’t understand what this is meant to convey.


Meaning no one asked MIL to do it; MIL took it upon herself to pack up leftovers FOR OTHER PEOPLE, only to pout that this effort was wasted when people didn't want the leftovers.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 11:55     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:I hate waste, too. But when we leave the beach, I frankly have zero desire to haul communal taco meat and leftover spaghetti 5+ hours in the car home from the beach.

MIL pouts that she packed us leftovers on our own steam and we declined. She pouts when we offer to toss them. Toss them or take them yourself!

And yes, we pay our own way.


How can someone else pack something for you “on [your] own steam”? I literally don’t understand what this is meant to convey.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 11:31     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Every year I start early in the morning, & discard the leftover food and take it out to the trash. It saves me having to do it when I get home.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 11:30     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.


We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.

Then continue to make your bed hard Bertha And come pout on the internet.
You and your mother-in-law are the same person you just don’t realize it.


This.
If you don't want the leftovers don't take them, but you and your MIL are behaving in similar manners.

You can also subject making less food, or having the last night be "leftover night".


Or freeze the leftovers the 1 or 2 nights before departure so they'll be super cold during your travel home.


Freeze the leftovers the 1 or 2 nights before departure, and then have MIL take them all, since now that they are well-frozen, she can eat them over time.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 11:29     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.


We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.

Then continue to make your bed hard Bertha And come pout on the internet.
You and your mother-in-law are the same person you just don’t realize it.


This.
If you don't want the leftovers don't take them, but you and your MIL are behaving in similar manners.

You can also subject making less food, or having the last night be "leftover night".


NP. Wow, no. Politely declining an offer is not being passive-agressive, pushy, or manipulative. It's simply making a choice and calmly relating that reasonable choice.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2019 11:20     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.

This is what we do. It’s annoying, but not worth the fight. It also feels like a huge middle finger up as you heave it into the trash.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2019 17:00     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.


We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.

Then continue to make your bed hard Bertha And come pout on the internet.
You and your mother-in-law are the same person you just don’t realize it.


This.
If you don't want the leftovers don't take them, but you and your MIL are behaving in similar manners.

You can also subject making less food, or having the last night be "leftover night".


Or freeze the leftovers the 1 or 2 nights before departure so they'll be super cold during your travel home.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2019 17:00     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
And the why? is that they don't like waste, which is a good thing. But not when you push it on others.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2019 16:59     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.


We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.

Then continue to make your bed hard Bertha And come pout on the internet.
You and your mother-in-law are the same person you just don’t realize it.


This.
If you don't want the leftovers don't take them, but you and your MIL are behaving in similar manners.

You can also subject making less food, or having the last night be "leftover night".
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2019 16:36     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.


We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.


So how badly do you want this to stop?

Your call, OP.


NP. I don’t give in to whiny, pouty brats of any age.

Including the OP? Because she’s on here pouting, you do recognize that correct
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2019 16:29     Subject: Leftovers packers/pushers: Why?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So next time take them and toss them when you get to the nearest trash can so she doesn’t know.


We’re packing enough in our car. I don’t need to indulge someone else’s will and preferences in this way. We say no thank you and do our best to ignore the pouting.


So how badly do you want this to stop?

Your call, OP.


NP. I don’t give in to whiny, pouty brats of any age.


PP. I choose which hills I want to die on.