How do you know so may rude people? 3 kids here and 2 decades of hosting & attending parties. I've never seen an adult take a chld's favor. My gosh.

Each child should get a favor. I don’t think it should be one per family.

I have seen many edible favors given out at first birthdays. Good for both adult and kids.

Anonymous wrote:PP here. I did one $5 return gift per family.

At another 1st birthday party, the host gave fancy handmade soaps from etsy to every kid who attended.

At another one, it was a herb plant per family. A lollipop for each kid.

What’s a return gift? A gift card?

PP here. I did one $5 return gift per family.

At another 1st birthday party, the host gave fancy handmade soaps from etsy to every kid who attended.

At another one, it was a herb plant per family. A lollipop for each kid.

Anonymous wrote:I’m new to this and also wondered if I should get favors for adults. There are so many adults at first birthday parties.

1st birthday party - I did a goodie bag bag for each kid (including teens - I had various gifts for each age group). For those who did not have kids, I gave a $5 return gift.

It would be one thing if your MIL stayed after all the guests left and you had several extra books to say “do you mind if I take one for xyz baby shower?” But what you described is BEYOND RUDE.

I’m new to this and also wondered if I should get favors for adults. There are so many adults at first birthday parties.

Oh my god what a bunch of scroungers. The party favor goes to the child guest. Hand them to people as they are leaving and do not leave them out for scroungers to grab.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. OK! I was planning favors for all children. They're mostly 1-3 year olds with some 4 year olds. The book is age appropriate for all toddlers.

I had about 8 childless adults (grandparents, aunts, my single friends) take books last time. There wasn't a confusing sign, but I assume they saw a toddler ahead of them grab a book?

I've always put ALL the party favors in a bag and then handed them out at the end of the party one by one, to each child. Once DD was 5 and really got into the party favors, we would write each child's name on the gift bag. We only had a party favor for each CHILD who was invited. Adults never get party favors.

OP - I would have been very blunt and told them to stop taking the favors for the children. My aunt would and has done things like this before. My teenage daughter made these really pretty Christmas ornaments one year and brought them to give out to all the extended relatives at Thanksgiving so they could put them on their trees. Greedy aunt ran to get a box and then started collecting over half and cheerily talking about these will be great for Christmas gifts. DD didn't know what to do so I stopped my aunt in law and told her, it is one per relative put them back now.

She made a fat pouty face, reluctantly put them back and then proceeded to badger DD about coming to her house to make more. She had the nerve to then repeatedly text several times where her ornaments were and she needed them soon to give out to her friends and family on her husband's side.

Some people are just incredibly greedy and love to score a free deal. I really hate these types.

Anonymous wrote:If you are doing a no gift party, no favors. It makes you look bad to say your gifts are not good enough for our child but here, let us give you a gift. You do an RSVP, ask what kids are coming and get one per child and put their name on it, problem solved.

If you are doing a no gift party, no favors. It makes you look bad to say your gifts are not good enough for our child but here, let us give you a gift. You do an RSVP, ask what kids are coming and get one per child and put their name on it, problem solved.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I had a few extras so I was dumbfounded when MIL took one. And then other people saw that and it was a free for all. I started thinking that maybe I was supposed to give gifts to childless adults who come too? I know you get favors at baby showers.

I'm not sure how many books to get. There are 7 kids invited, but with siblings it will be 12 (possibly, siblings don't always show). So I guess get 12 books? There are two different books they can choose from in case they have one.

1. No need to have a favor

BUT if you really want to

2.Get 12 books and put the recipient's name somewhere non permanent (so they can regift if they have it already), OR specifically hand the book to the child when they leave, no choosing. For families with 2 kids, each gets a different book since you planned to have 2 books anyway.

OP here. I had a few extras so I was dumbfounded when MIL took one. And then other people saw that and it was a free for all. I started thinking that maybe I was supposed to give gifts to childless adults who come too? I know you get favors at baby showers.

I'm not sure how many books to get. There are 7 kids invited, but with siblings it will be 12 (possibly, siblings don't always show). So I guess get 12 books? There are two different books they can choose from in case they have one.

So rude of your guests!!! One per family or one per invited kid guest. Parents should not be taking them to give as gifts!! What is wrong with people?