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Anonymous wrote:Why did you hire her? How old is your kid? What will happen in an emergency? My previous nanny was also an immigrant and not with great English (not Spanish speaking) but she was a very competent and responsible person. Managed all her business, signed a contract with us. Paid taxes, purchased a house while employed with us. Etc.
a nanny has to be very responsible, reliable and aware in addition to all the other childcare specific qualifications.

Op here. She’s very loving and as an employee has been reliable in that she’s never late, is proactive in meeting the kids needs, etc.

She pays her taxes and we have a contract too.

She just doesn’t listen, doesn’t follow through, seems to operate in the moment and ignores things until they become crisis level. She just doesn’t grasp the significance of what she’s doing because she’s not from here. Example: I’m not sure she understands the concept of credit and/or that if she simply ignores these hospital bills, they might garnish her wages. Guaranteed when that happens she will think it’s something I’m doing with her pay too.

And you’re ok with this person taking care of your kids?!?!?!

Anonymous wrote:OP - I think you are relying on an unreliable person. And putting your family at risk.

I would not rely on her to take care of children. Eventually she will encounter a situation she is not familiar with, and will be unable to learn to do anything differently.

Anonymous wrote:American or foreign, you hired a stupid and disorganized nanny.

+ This is not a class or cultural thing. This is a hot mess person thing. My parents and their siblings are working class immigrants who speak little to no English and they don't do stupid shit because they have common sense. You trust this person with your kids?

American or foreign, you hired a stupid and disorganized nanny.

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Anonymous wrote:How is this a class or cultural difference?

They aren’t. The nanny is a hot mess. It’s worrisome that OP thinks this is typical behavior for working class Latinos.

+1.

OP - I think you are relying on an unreliable person. And putting your family at risk.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you think this is a class or cultural issue, you like in a dangerous bubble. You need to meet more people who aren’t middle class Anglos.

Op here. I guess I thought this was a class/cultural thing. She just doesn’t seem to get how things work in the US, and she struggles to learn.

I’ve had the benefit of decades of living here, and so did my parents, etc.

I don’t think she grasps things like health insurance, or car registration. Her home country has nationalized health care.

Is she the only person you know from a Spanish speaking country? No? Stop stereotyping.

Op here. Of course she’s not.

Ok, so I guess this is just her individual thing. I guess it just is something I assumed came from being so new to the US.

My relatives are like this. They moved from South Asia in the late 90s but still haven't fully assimilated. They do the same things as your nanny. Ignoring prudent advice, going to the ER for non-emergencies, etc. I don't think it's a class or cultural thing.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you think this is a class or cultural issue, you like in a dangerous bubble. You need to meet more people who aren’t middle class Anglos.

Op here. I guess I thought this was a class/cultural thing. She just doesn’t seem to get how things work in the US, and she struggles to learn.

I’ve had the benefit of decades of living here, and so did my parents, etc.

I don’t think she grasps things like health insurance, or car registration. Her home country has nationalized health care.

Is she the only person you know from a Spanish speaking country? No? Stop stereotyping.

I don’t think this is a class or cultural thing. Our nanny is not originally from here and became a US citizen not long ago. She is super great at navigating this kind of stuff.

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you, OP. It's a class issue. Some people never learn. Does she know of a good urgent care? She may find it difficult to go to the regular doctor when she's busy working with your kids.

Op here. I have a very flexible job and she gets many weeks of paid time off. This is another thing I’ve helped with in the past-finding her doctors and calling.

Anonymous wrote:Why did you hire her? How old is your kid? What will happen in an emergency? My previous nanny was also an immigrant and not with great English (not Spanish speaking) but she was a very competent and responsible person. Managed all her business, signed a contract with us. Paid taxes, purchased a house while employed with us. Etc.
a nanny has to be very responsible, reliable and aware in addition to all the other childcare specific qualifications.

Op here. She’s very loving and as an employee has been reliable in that she’s never late, is proactive in meeting the kids needs, etc.

She pays her taxes and we have a contract too.

She just doesn’t listen, doesn’t follow through, seems to operate in the moment and ignores things until they become crisis level. She just doesn’t grasp the significance of what she’s doing because she’s not from here. Example: I’m not sure she understands the concept of credit and/or that if she simply ignores these hospital bills, they might garnish her wages. Guaranteed when that happens she will think it’s something I’m doing with her pay too.

I agree with you, OP. It's a class issue. Some people never learn. Does she know of a good urgent care? She may find it difficult to go to the regular doctor when she's busy working with your kids.

You are causing stress to the nanny. Help her find a more pleasant job with a pleasant boss.

Anonymous wrote:Does her name start with "R"? I may have the same person working for me and I am thinking of letting her go now.

Op here. No. But I’m sorry you’re in a similar situation.