Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 16:27     Subject: Re:ending on a low note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:op: Agree, but I spent a lot of money on that school, and I feel almost insulted by what they said.


They should have notified you earlier. Not much can be done at late in the school year.

Fail on the school's part.

Sorry.


Yeah, now that school's out, OP and her partner can't do anything to address possible depression, friend issues, or other issues with their daughter. There's a legal requirement that all help be provided in conjunction with the school. And now that OP's daughter is leaving the school, there's nothing that can be done at all. OP has to just wait until the start of the next school year, at a new school, to get her daughter any assistance. It's have been better if the school didn't tell OP at all, because there's absolutely nothing that can be done at this point. What a shame.


NOt much the SCHOOL can do to help. I'd harp on them about WHEN they noticed these things and ask WHY THEY didn't get in touch earlier.


As someone who is no longer affiliated with the school, you'd "harp on them?" This is how that conversation will go:

School: Hello?
OP: Hi, this is DD's mother. She just graduated this year, and I no longer have any affiliation wit the school. I want to complain about the way you [CLICK].
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 16:23     Subject: ending on a low note
If your family has left this school, I'd leave factual but general reviews of the school all over the internet.
Warning for future parents.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 16:22     Subject: Re:ending on a low note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:op: Agree, but I spent a lot of money on that school, and I feel almost insulted by what they said.


They should have notified you earlier. Not much can be done at late in the school year.

Fail on the school's part.

Sorry.


Yeah, now that school's out, OP and her partner can't do anything to address possible depression, friend issues, or other issues with their daughter. There's a legal requirement that all help be provided in conjunction with the school. And now that OP's daughter is leaving the school, there's nothing that can be done at all. OP has to just wait until the start of the next school year, at a new school, to get her daughter any assistance. It's have been better if the school didn't tell OP at all, because there's absolutely nothing that can be done at this point. What a shame.


NOt much the SCHOOL can do to help. I'd harp on them about WHEN they noticed these things and ask WHY THEY didn't get in touch earlier.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 16:20     Subject: ending on a low note
They probably wanted your private school dollars, so waited until they didn't have to participate in an intervention and still get your money. I would try to get help for your dad, but also see how she does in a new environment.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 16:16     Subject: Re:ending on a low note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:op: Agree, but I spent a lot of money on that school, and I feel almost insulted by what they said.


They should have notified you earlier. Not much can be done at late in the school year.

Fail on the school's part.

Sorry.


Yeah, now that school's out, OP and her partner can't do anything to address possible depression, friend issues, or other issues with their daughter. There's a legal requirement that all help be provided in conjunction with the school. And now that OP's daughter is leaving the school, there's nothing that can be done at all. OP has to just wait until the start of the next school year, at a new school, to get her daughter any assistance. It's have been better if the school didn't tell OP at all, because there's absolutely nothing that can be done at this point. What a shame.


This is 100% not true. Op has medical insurance and can get help for her dd. I don't know where you live that you think all mental health help is restricted if school is not in session.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 16:14     Subject: ending on a low note
Anonymous wrote:Reading between the lines, it appears you are upset because the school confirmed your fears that your DD is struggling. You already knew that and had taken her to therapy months ago. They appear concerned about suicide (the sad comment) and you shouldn’t be upset that they spoke up. You need to get your daughter help.


Yep this. Don't take it personally, focus on helping your kid. This isn't about insulting you and it wasn't obnoxious.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 15:13     Subject: Re:ending on a low note
op: Thanks to everyone for your help.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 14:41     Subject: Re:ending on a low note
Anonymous wrote:op: I told dd she has to see a therapist, I will let her pick the therapist. Does the moderator for this board remove "Moron" namecalling?


NP. I reported it.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 14:37     Subject: ending on a low note
Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP, it sounds like typical girl puberty to me.


But if the principal thinks this ONE girl acts this way above and beyond ALL THE OTHER GIRLS, then OP's daughter must be at an extreme.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 14:35     Subject: Re:ending on a low note
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:op: Agree, but I spent a lot of money on that school, and I feel almost insulted by what they said.


They should have notified you earlier. Not much can be done at late in the school year.

Fail on the school's part.

Sorry.


Yeah, now that school's out, OP and her partner can't do anything to address possible depression, friend issues, or other issues with their daughter. There's a legal requirement that all help be provided in conjunction with the school. And now that OP's daughter is leaving the school, there's nothing that can be done at all. OP has to just wait until the start of the next school year, at a new school, to get her daughter any assistance. It's have been better if the school didn't tell OP at all, because there's absolutely nothing that can be done at this point. What a shame.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 12:04     Subject: Re:ending on a low note
Anonymous wrote:op: Agree, but I spent a lot of money on that school, and I feel almost insulted by what they said.


They should have notified you earlier. Not much can be done at late in the school year.

Fail on the school's part.

Sorry.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 11:57     Subject: Re:ending on a low note
op: I told dd she has to see a therapist, I will let her pick the therapist. Does the moderator for this board remove "Moron" namecalling?
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 11:07     Subject: ending on a low note
I'm confused- isn't it 1000% possible something is going on that needs to be addressed?

I agree the timing isn't ideal, but if a group of experts who see kids this age every day think it's worth flagging, I'd take it really seriously.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 10:43     Subject: Re:ending on a low note
Anonymous wrote:She says she doesn’t want therapy, i took her in April and therapist said don’t drag her


well, it sounds to me like you also think there is something up with your daughter.

use the summer to provide a period of nurturing and support. maybe she'll let you in.

Anonymous
Post 06/14/2019 10:32     Subject: Re:ending on a low note
Anonymous wrote:op: I am so annoyed that they did this 5 days before end of school. So obnoxious to be like "we're just trying to help" when there's no point making a plan with them, it isn't their problem.


My son's school did this in 8th grade. Sent us an email the last week of school about how they were "very concerned" about how he might manage the workload in high school with his "poor executive functioning" skills. My son is messy and disorganized (as most teen boys are) but this was the FIRST time anyone in the school system mentioned a label. Son, btw, was in all honors classes at the time and doing well. He went on to 9th grade and just finished the first year with 5 As and a B. I truly think it was a "cover our ass" email in case he struggled in HS.